The tricky part is this: Guys want a woman who it takes an effort to win over … but that’s not the same thing as being “hard to get”.

With that in mind, I want to clear up this confusion, so the guy you want can finally get you.

Here’s what guys think about playing hard to get in order to seem more attractive to men.

1. You’re not available

When you seem hard to get, it gives guys the impression that you’re just not available for a relationship.

If a guy asks you out and you’re not available for two or three weeks, it’s a red flag signal to him that being in a relationship with you will not be possible.

The most important thing a man wants to know when he first meets you is whether you’re available. If it’s hard to schedule a date with you, he will think you’re either in another relationship or you’re just not interested in him.

2. You attract the wrong guys.

Some of my clients argue with me because playing hard to get does work. They think if they’re too available a guy will lose interest.

The problem is this: It attracts the wrong guys.

Real men, the ones you can build a life with, are not going to stick around to jump through hoops, like wondering when they can see you, dealing with canceled dates, unanswered phone calls or any lapse in communication.

A lesser man never gives up no matter how bad you treat him. This can give you the illusion playing hard to get works.

However, as I said, it attracts the wrong guys — guys you don’t respect and have no chance of building a real relationship with you.

The key to meeting the right guy is to see how he courts you and by his ability to make plans and keep them. You want to find out what he has to offer.

3. You’ve got your life together

Having a successful career and friends are important parts of life. The challenge is when you consistently put your career and friends first. Men get the impression you like your life the way it is and you’re not looking for a relationship.

Men are looking to make your life better. When you’re available, it gives a man a chance to show what he can bring to your life.

Men want to win you over. The first step is giving them a chance to show what they can do.

Bottom line? Playing hard to get will attract the wrong guys.

You will get attention, but it is not from someone you can build a life with.

If being in a relationship with a man is a priority for you, make room for it in your life. When he asks you out, say yes — then sit back and let him win you over.

The right guy for you wants to win you over and make your life better, and when you’re with him, you can feel it.

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Source: Yourtango.com

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Their survey revealed the younger the first viewing occurred, the more likely a male was to want power over women.

While if they were older, they were more likely to be sexually promiscuous.

Of the 330 undergraduates surveyed, with a median age of 20, the average age they first saw pornography was 13.

The youngest was only five, while the oldest was 26.

The unpublished findings were presented at a convention in Washington.

Playboy lifestyle

Lead researcher Alyssa Bischmann and her team asked the men, the vast majority of whom were heterosexual and white, when they first saw porn and whether it was intentional, accidental or forced.

They were then asked 46 questions which measured how they conformed to one of two behavioural traits – seeking power over women or sexually promiscuous behaviour and living a playboy lifestyle.

They found those who saw porn young were most likely to agree with statements that asserted male dominance, such as “things tend to be better when men are in charge”.

The researchers were surprised to find that seeing porn later in life was associated with a playboy lifestyle, such as preferring to frequently change sexual partners.

Researcher Christina Richardson said this could be because those who were exposed to porn early often did not enjoy sex in real life.

“These men often have a lot of performance anxiety with women in real life. Sexual experiences don’t go as planned or the way they do in pornography,” she said.

Alternatively “those who see porn later, enjoy sex in real life more and therefore might be more likely to live a playboy lifestyle”.

The research, which was presented at the American Psychological Association’s annual convention, did not take into account how much porn the men watched, the type of porn or other demographic factors, such as their socio-economic background.

It could also have been other personality traits that determined when the males were exposed to porn.

‘Sexually deskilled’

Peter Saddington, sex therapist at relationship support provider Relate, said: “Pornography can and does have an impact on many young men’s attitudes to sex.

“The result can be that young men develop sexist attitudes and are essentially sexually deskilled.”

Either way, Ms Richardson says porn “is not the healthiest thing for men”.

She added that young men needed “better role models to develop more healthy beliefs about masculinity”.

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Source: BBC

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It’s pure bliss!

But as sweet as the single life is, nothing beats being in love. Nothing beats waking up next to your man. Nothing beats coming home on a Friday night after work, knowing you’ll be spending the weekend with him. Nothing beats cooking together, watching movies together, laughing together, winning together.

As awesome as all this sounds, we’re not always ready to get back on the dating scene. If we start dating too soon, it isn’t love that we find – it’s frustration and misery.

If you’re not sure of what to do right now, here are the top 10 signs that you should stay single a bit longer:

You’re still finding it hard to love yourself

If you don’t love yourself, how do you expect a man to come along and love you? It’s pretty much impossible. Any time he tries to get too close, your issues will surface and you’ll raise your barriers.

Loving ourselves isn’t easy, especially if we’ve been hurt in a prior relationship. But it’s really important that you get your own house in order first before you start looking for a new man. It would be unfair on him if you started dating, despite having issues that are preventing you from actually opening your heart to love.

First, learn to love yourself. And then you can love others.

Um, Because You Can?!

So you’ve got your mom telling you that it’s time to start dating again.

You’ve got your friend who’s “looking out for you”, telling you that they don’t like seeing you single, and that they’re gonna find you a man this weekend.

But wait a minute. It’s YOUR life. You can do what the heck you want and be as single as you want!

There is no one to date!

There’s literally no one worth dating. So what do you do? Do you finally give Bob from HR a go, a guy who’s been waiting for his chance for five years? Or do you wait?

“Okay, Bob. Let’s give this a go.”

“Great! Do you mind if my mom comes along?”

“BYE BOB.”

If there is no one to date – don’t date! Just wait. Don’t tear your hair out, stressing that there will never be anyone to date ever again. Just bide your time. Be patient. Have some faith that things will actually work themselves out.

Because it’s time to have some fun

If you’ve been in a relationship pretty much all your laugh, perhaps now is the perfect time to let your hair down and have a bit of F.U.N.

Go out and party. Meet guys who just want to have a giggle. Let your hair down. Enjoy being single. Flirt.

You’ve got too much going on right now

One of the biggest mistakes we can make is to re-enter the dating scene despite clearly not having enough time on our hands.

This is totally unfair on ourselves, but it’s especially unfair on the guy.

Dating despite having no time is just a bad idea right from the start. It will stress you out when you realise you’re running out of hours in the day, and it will cause upset and friction and even more stress when you have to cancel because you have no time to make the date.

If you’re super busy at the moment, just wait until things calm down a bit until looking for love. You need to dedicate a lot of time to making a relationship work. If you can’t do that right now, it just isn’t worth it.

You don’t know what you want

The biggest reason you shouldn’t start dating again is if you don’t even know what you want from a relationship or life itself. Until you do, you should avoid getting close to someone. Why? Because it could easily end in disaster when you realise that they’re not what you wanted.

Before dating, it’s important that you make a list of what you want from a relationship and life. Do you want commitment, freedom, kids, marriage …. ?

You’re still not ready to settle down

If a part of you still wants to have fun and isn’t ready to settle down just yet, it’s a really bad idea to get into a relationship with someone.

Especially if that someone has the wrong impression and thinks you’re not only ready to settle down, but that you might also be the One.

If you still want fun, stay single. Getting into a relationship at this stage in your life will leave you feeling suffocated, could cause resentment, and can ruin what would otherwise have been a good friendship or relationship.

You might also find that you break his heart.

You’re still not over your ex

Can’t get your ex out of your head? Getting into another relationship probably isn’t going to help.

If you’re not over your ex yet, you need to get over him before even thinking about getting with someone else. If you don’t, you mind end up hurting you both.

You’re looking for a saviour

Sometimes, we’re not really looking for a man we can date. We looking for a saviour. This is never going to work out because the truth is that only YOU can save yourself.

If you’re feeling upset and need someone to come along and save you, it’s probably a good idea to stay away from the dating scene until you’ve overcome your issues.

There are still big things you want to do

Want to travel or start a business? If you’ve got something big in the pipeline, it’s probably best that you finish it first before getting into a relationship.

Stay happy!

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Source: Beauty and Tips

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1. The MBAs (Me ba ha akyɛ)

They have been there since the day the church started as a small fellowship. They always remind you that they saw you when you came as a new member. Though they know everyone’s history in church, they can’t cast out a demon… not even a half demon!

2. The impressionists

They use the least opportunity to create an impression especially when there’s a newbie in church who they like. When singing, they’ll do all the body swinging and vocal acrobatics! When dancing… don’t even go there!

3. The fashionistas

They’re the fashion police in church. After church, one will ask the other, “Did you see pastor’s bowtie? I think it should have been a bleached beige instead of purple”

Sister, is it your purple!?

4. The Grammarians

They mark everyone’s subject-verb agreement, pronouns, etc in church; from prayer topics to testimonies! After the sermon, one will say to the other, “I think we need to take Pastor through syntax!”

Mr. Syntax. Ayekoo!

5. The desperados

They’re the singles who are almost close to ‘pension’ age. Before the pastor ends his prophecy, “This year, I see three people marrying”… twenty of them are already somersaulting on the floor!

6. The gossip Gospel preachers

To them, the only sin they know is fornication. They have the sexual statistics of every member and can even use them as prayer topics in church!

They’ll raise a prayer topic during intercession, “Church. Pray. I can see one sister casting her net near a spiritually-bankrupt elder. Pray!”

7. The self-called prophets

They alone know which mobile network God called them with. They’ll look into your face, “Hey brother. God showed me something. Your mother is a woman and your father is a man!”

8. The Scripture checkers

They always sound like they could preach better. They correct, “That Scripture should have been Luke 12:12a instead of just Luke 12:12. He should have used KJV instead of NKJV.”

9. The professors

They always have novels and textbooks with them in church. They are always in haste to go do one assignment or the other.

Don’t mind them. They’re still writing NovDec!

10. The copycats

They’ll copy everything in church; from the way others walk to even the tongues they speak. Ei!

Don’t you just love church!

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By: Kobina Ansah

The writer is a playwright and Chief Scribe of Scribe Communications (www.scribecommltd.com), a writing company based in Accra. Get interactive with him on his Facebook page, Kobina Ansah.

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What you may not know about Valentine’s Day is that it often turns out to be the beginning of the end for many couples. Here’s why …

Many people evaluate the overall state of happiness and success in their marriage or romantic relationship based on whether or not their expectations for Valentine’s Day get met. Unmet expectations easily become the final straw after a year’s worth of unfulfilling romantic love. Theses increasing levels of disappointment may lead to affairs and, ultimately, turn Valentine’s Day into one of the leading causes of divorce.

According to a study of divorce filings by legal referral sites Attorney Fee and Avvo, February is the busiest month of the year for divorce filings. People seeking referrals for divorce increase about 40% in February — with the biggest spike hitting on the day after Valentine’s Day.

Additionally, a number of websites for married individuals seeking affairs report that the day after Valentine’s Day is their number one day for new sign-ups.

If you’re in a struggling relationship, Valentine’s Day might remind you of your romantic dream of love you’ve lost. And of course, thinking

You can’t undo a year of disappointment and unhappiness by offering your partner a greeting card, candy, obligatory dinner, or even a dozen roses.

Let’s get real.

Can a greeting card restore intimacy and passion?

Can candy save a loveless marriage?

Can a greeting card restore intimacy and passion?

Can a dozen roses overcome an affair?

Here are 3 ways to change your thinking about Valentine’s Day before your expectations destroy your relationship for good.

1. Get perspective. 

The value of your relationship isn’t contingent upon expectations and unrealistic romantic desires for one single day. Don’t let the way this day evolves decide the fate of your relationship.

You are where you are in your relationship for many reasons that have absolutely nothing to do with Valentine’s Day.

2. Focus on giving to your partner instead of on what you may get.

Make the day about valuing them. Show your appreciation for your partner in whatever way is most genuine for you. If you are willing to let go of your romanticized expectations, you can’t be held emotionally hostage by the day.

You may feel hurt or resentful about what your part has or hasn’t done for you in the past year. That’s Ok. You can still find something to appreciate about them and do something to acknowledge it.

3. Start working towards something better. 

Make a commitment to elevate the standard you live by in relation to interacting with your partner. Even if you think they are to blame for every challenge in your relationship, the likelihood is that you haven’t been 100 percent perfect. Any relationship is a shared responsibility.

Today’s the day you can begin to shift and improve your relationship. Don’t withhold your love, compliments, respect, attention, or sex because you are upset or think they owe you. And stop keeping score, it’s the easiest way to get stuck in feeling resentful.

Winning the game of love happens through what you give, not from demands or attempts to control the other person.

It certainly won’t happen when you remain resentful of unmet expectations of your partner and unmet expectations around Valentine’s Day.

This year, you can use Valentine’s Day as a catalyst to begin to be more kind by saying thank you for little things. You could notice what your partner does right and compliment them for it. You could remember something amazing or unique about them and tell them how it makes you feel.

You could find countless ways to value your partner more —  starting now.

Will you?

This could be the start of a wide range of improvements across the board in your intimate relationship.

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Source: Your Tango

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1. You are happier when they are not around

Everyone has the right to enjoy a little time on their own but, if you find that these moments are when you are at your happiest, then something may be wrong. Think about it; did you really need to spend that extra night in the hotel on your last business trip?

2. You feel that you need to change your partner

If you find yourself thinking that you wish your partner were different, then maybe you are beginning to think that you wish your partner were a different person altogether. It’s hard to change the way that a person is and you should really love them for who they are, not for what you think you can make them be.

3. There are more differences of opinion than there are agreements

No two people will ever agree on everything and that’s why compromise is such an important thing in a relationship. However, if there are too many irreconcilable differences, then you might not be as made for each other as you thought.

4. Your intimacy has become tasteless and meaningless

Bedroom fun isn’t everything but a lack of it can be an indication that things are not right. This is even more so, when you realise that neither of you are actually too bothered that you no longer share an intimate relationship.

5. You don’t talk to each other

The importance of communication in a relationship is often mentioned, but it’s not just the quantity that counts, it’s the quality. In a healthy relationship, you can talk about anything and everything. When you find though, that all you talk about are the unimportant topics, then you probably don’t have as close a bond, as you may have thought.

6. You find yourself thinking about members of the opposite gender

We are all only human and it’s perfectly natural to notice a really gorgeous girl or a hot guy, but when you start to imagine yourself in a relationship with another person, then that is definitely a sign that you are not truly happy in your current relationship.

7. You go to other people with your problems

In a solid relationship, you should be able to turn to your partner with just about any problem. Being made for each other also means trusting each other enough to be able to ask for help, when you need it.

8. You don’t share the same dreams

Do you share the same vision for the future, or there are separate paths on your minds? If your goals and ambitions are not compatible, then there could be trouble ahead and it is unlikely that you could really say that you are made for each other.

9. When you add up the pros and cons, the cons have it!

For a completely unscientific means of testing your compatibility, make a list of the things about the relationship that make you unhappy and those that make you happy and count up the score. It may not be accurate, but it will give you a good indication of how you feel about the relationship.

10. Be honest with yourself

Coming to a decision that you are not really as compatible with your partner as you thought is a tough one, and one that most people would rather not face up to. Remember though, this is the rest of your life that you are thinking about here, so be honest with yourself. Talk it through with friends and family and, if you can, talk about it to your partner. Your partner might agree, but just didn’t want to raise the topic themselves.

What are other signs that two people were not made for each other?

Stay happy!

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Source: Beauty and Tips

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Happy relationships don’t happen by accident. It takes two emotionally healthy, loving people who are committed to being the best partners they can be.

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1. A willingness to have fun

This, according to surveys, is a really big one and, even if a man was perfect in every other way, if was just plain boring and never willing to let himself go and have some fun, then that would be a huge turnoff for most women. Predictability and reliability have their place, but guys, if you want to attract more girls, you’re going to have to let your hair down once in a while.

2. Generosity

No, we’re not talking about a guy’s willingness to give expensive gifts to his girlfriend here; it’s his generosity toward other people that girls find really attractive. A guy who cares about people who are less fortunate than himself is what will make a woman sit up and take notice. Making donations to charity, giving up some of his time to do volunteer work, and just generally being kind and generous, these are all things that are high up on a girls list of admirable traits.

3. Strength

Strength comes in many different forms, but a lot of women do like their man to be a man. This doesn’t need to mean a man needs to go on a body building course to attract women. Strength can mean assertiveness, strength of character, initiative taking and determination. A man who knows exactly what he wants, and who goes out to get it. That’s the kind of guy that a lot of women are after.

4. Intelligence

Just like strength, intelligence can mean different things to different people, so this doesn’t mean that a man needs to be a learned professor, and a know-it-all is certainly not an attractive personality trait in anyone, but a man who is thoughtful and has knowledge in his own field, is said by many, to be far more attractive than a man who has no wish to learn anything at all.

5. Athleticism

There is probably no surprise here, but surveys have shown that most women do prefer a man who is fit and healthy. Not your steroid pumped, muscle bound, type of fit, but more the athletic and well looked after look. Like we said at the very beginning of this article, not everyone is the same, but for many women, a beer belly is not going to be what attracts them to a man.

6. A bit of facial hair

In a study of women, which was conducted by The University of New South Wales, researchers found that by far the majority of women thought that a light covering of stubble was more attractive than either being clean shaven, or having a full beard. There is some science behind this fact. It is thought that stubble makes a man look more dominant, masculine, and aggressive, and therefore a better choice for a mate.

7. A deep voice

There is some science behind most women’s preference for men with deep voices too. A deep voice is believed to be a sign that a man is physically strong, and more able to take care of their woman. Evolution has a lot to do with what we find attractive in the opposite gender, but don’t panic guys, if your voice is a bit high pitched, you can actually train yourself to talk in a lower pitch, if you practice, just as a singer can be trained to sing better.

8. Height and a good posture

Evolutionary programming also generally makes women prefer men who are taller than they are and that still holds true today. That doesn’t mean that a man needs to be six feet tall to attract a woman, but it does mean that he is more likely to attract a woman who is the same height or shorter than he is. Research has also shown that men who stand up straight and maintain a good posture make themselves look more attractive to women and taller than they really are.

9. A leader

Being able to take control of a situation is another trait that women find very attractive in a man. Whether it is the boss at work, or the perceived leader of a small social group, it’s often the assertive decision maker that women find the most attractive in a group.

10. A touch of style and class

Even if a man’s personal style is nothing more than jeans and a T-shirt, a girl will find it more attractive if those jeans and T-shirt are clean! Taking some pride in their personal grooming and appearance is what many women say is an important part of what makes a man attractive. It’s also one of the very first things that a girl will judge a man on when she meets him for the first time.

What do women find attractive in men? What are your thoughts?

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Source: Beauty and Tips

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1. A willingness to have fun

This, according to surveys, is a really big one and, even if a man was perfect in every other way, if was just plain boring and never willing to let himself go and have some fun, then that would be a huge turnoff for most women. Predictability and reliability have their place, but guys, if you want to attract more girls, you’re going to have to let your hair down once in a while.

2. Generosity

No, we’re not talking about a guy’s willingness to give expensive gifts to his girlfriend here; it’s his generosity toward other people that girls find really attractive. A guy who cares about people who are less fortunate than himself is what will make a woman sit up and take notice. Making donations to charity, giving up some of his time to do volunteer work, and just generally being kind and generous, these are all things that are high up on a girls list of admirable traits.

3. Strength

Strength comes in many different forms, but a lot of women do like their man to be a man. This doesn’t need to mean a man needs to go on a body building course to attract women. Strength can mean assertiveness, strength of character, initiative taking and determination. A man who knows exactly what he wants, and who goes out to get it. That’s the kind of guy that a lot of women are after.

4. Intelligence

Just like strength, intelligence can mean different things to different people, so this doesn’t mean that a man needs to be a learned professor, and a know-it-all is certainly not an attractive personality trait in anyone, but a man who is thoughtful and has knowledge in his own field, is said by many, to be far more attractive than a man who has no wish to learn anything at all.

5. Athleticism

There is probably no surprise here, but surveys have shown that most women do prefer a man who is fit and healthy. Not your steroid pumped, muscle bound, type of fit, but more the athletic and well looked after look. Like we said at the very beginning of this article, not everyone is the same, but for many women, a beer belly is not going to be what attracts them to a man.

6. A bit of facial hair

In a study of women, which was conducted by The University of New South Wales, researchers found that by far the majority of women thought that a light covering of stubble was more attractive than either being clean shaven, or having a full beard. There is some science behind this fact. It is thought that stubble makes a man look more dominant, masculine, and aggressive, and therefore a better choice for a mate.

7. A deep voice

There is some science behind most women’s preference for men with deep voices too. A deep voice is believed to be a sign that a man is physically strong, and more able to take care of their woman. Evolution has a lot to do with what we find attractive in the opposite gender, but don’t panic guys, if your voice is a bit high pitched, you can actually train yourself to talk in a lower pitch, if you practice, just as a singer can be trained to sing better.

8. Height and a good posture

Evolutionary programming also generally makes women prefer men who are taller than they are and that still holds true today. That doesn’t mean that a man needs to be six feet tall to attract a woman, but it does mean that he is more likely to attract a woman who is the same height or shorter than he is. Research has also shown that men who stand up straight and maintain a good posture make themselves look more attractive to women and taller than they really are.

9. A leader

Being able to take control of a situation is another trait that women find very attractive in a man. Whether it is the boss at work, or the perceived leader of a small social group, it’s often the assertive decision maker that women find the most attractive in a group.

10. A touch of style and class

Even if a man’s personal style is nothing more than jeans and a T-shirt, a girl will find it more attractive if those jeans and T-shirt are clean! Taking some pride in their personal grooming and appearance is what many women say is an important part of what makes a man attractive. It’s also one of the very first things that a girl will judge a man on when she meets him for the first time.

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Source: Beauty and Tips

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The first ten minutes of a date often determine whether a second date is ever going to happen, and let’s face it: second dates are not the norm for many. That was definitely my story until I learned about (what I now call) “Date Waste.”

Date waste is when a date is a drag but has little to do with whether you are a potential match. It’s a drag simply because neither of you set the date up to succeed.

These aren’t the dates with jerks that you can’t wait to end. They are the ones that are just a little boring, lack sparks or just go nowhere. You can turn these into very positive experiences.

I see date waste all the time when I’m coaching, and I lived it for years. When I accepted thatevery date was part of the journey and not just a means to an end, my life changed.

Every date is an opportunity. You can talk to a nice person, learn something new, get much-needed practice and maybe connect with someone you want to know just a little better. It doesn’t have to be “Oh, he’s The One!” or nothing.

Here are nine things you can do in the first ten minutes of each date to make it a positive experience and begin to eliminate date waste from your life:

1. Go in with the “I hope I like him” attitude.

We usually approach meeting men with the “I hope he likes me” feeling. Start with whether he seems to be someone you like. This stops you from trying to read his mind and focuses you on what really counts: how you feel being with him.

2. Find three things you like about him.

Fight your habit to lead with the negative. Find reasons he can be ON your list rather than why you should check him off. It can be his timeliness, his smile, the restaurant he chose… what do you like about him?

3. Compliment him
There’s a chance he’s nervous and feeling a little funky. Give him a sincere compliment early on to start off on a positive note. This will help him loosen up and, besides, it’s just nice!

4. Think of it as practice.

Every meeting is practice that brings you closer to Mr. “I Love You”. Statistically, your date won’t turn out to be him. So what? Here’s a chance to learn more about dating, men and yourself.

After each date, jot down what you learned and apply that next time. See how no date is a waste?

5. Dump your agenda.

Don’t let it ruin your time if, in the first 10 minutes, he doesn’t appear to be your man. Just relax and be open to what comes up. You never know; you may just let yourself relax into a very nice feeling.

6. Ask the right questions.

It’s important to stay positive and put your best food forward. Avoid questions that lead to negative chatter.

“So how’s the online dating thing going for you?” stings of the negative. How about “I liked what you said on the phone about [fill-in-the-blank]… I’d love to hear more.”

7. Quiet those dang gremlins

We all have them: the voices that tell us we aren’t good enough or it’s not worth it. When these voices rear their ugly heads, take a deep breath and tell yourself “this is an opportunity I don’t want to miss.”

(There are very effective ways you can learn to manage your gremlins and limiting beliefs. I can help you with that.)

8. Let go of control.

You are there to talk and listen to your date, not yourself. Your over-thinking and analyzing will exhaust you. Grab your grown up girl and remind her that you can’t read minds and there are two people involved here.

Stop and pay attention to the man sitting in front of you. If you don’t, you may completely miss the man of your dreams.

9. Be kind and practice empathy

He has fears and insecurities, just like you. Don’t get hung up on some little thing he does that you instantly determine you just can’t live with. Consider why he’s doing it and if it truly is a deal breaker.

Then look at him again with the kind and wise eyes of a woman working hard to find a good man. Regardless of how you end up judging him, always leave him feeling good about himself— even if you’re not going to see him again.

It’s the nice thing to do, and you’ll help prop him up for the next woman who’s going to meet him.

You are looking for a lifetime partner with whom you can share deep connection, unconditional trust, mutual adoration and a lifetime of happiness. Everything you do should be toward that end.

Every date is a spectacular opportunity. Don’t be a date waster.

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Source: Your Tango

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