Sometimes being single is great. Sometimes I just want to shout, “You don’t get it!” to this couples-centric world. Here’s what I want to say to all of my married friends:
What you don’t know…
2. Sitting down to dinner with your family, being invited to family night and dance recitals and baseball practice only amplifies the loneliness. It only highlights what I don’t have. What I’m missing out on. What I don’t have the option to have.
3. When you tell me how hard marriage is, how unrewarding parenting can be, how it’s not all it’s cracked up to be, that I’m lucky to not have to answer to anyone … it makes me hate you just a little bit. You don’t know that you’re undermining my feelings. That by saying those things you’re saying I don’t have the right to feel the way I feel.
4. I love coming to family night, and baseball practice, and dance recitals. You should be putting your family first.
5. No amount of friendship and companionship and family can make me part of a pair—a unit. It can’t move me up on the priority list. It won’t erase my loneliness.