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Getting ahead in your career can be a tough task for anyone, but for couples who share a career path, navigating can be even trickier.<\/p>\n
Of course, there\u2019s an obvious upside: such couples can tap into each other\u2019s networks, be more understanding of the demands of the other\u2019s career and help each other rise the ranks.<\/p>\n
But these twosomes \u2014 think two lawyers working at big firms on the partner track or two professors both seeking tenure \u2014 can find themselves at odds or filled with resentment when one partner gets promoted and the other doesn\u2019t or when one has an opportunity that impedes on the other\u2019s career growth. If not carefully managed, it\u2019s easy for resentment and unhealthy competition to set in.<\/p>\n
As workplace norms on romantic relationships have relaxed, many couples find themselves seeking advice on how to get ahead. Understanding how to balance the professional connection and competition, while avoiding trouble at home, is key.<\/p>\n
\u201cYou have an interlocutor for your entire life, someone who knows the demands and pleasures of your work,\u201d when you work in the same career, said Londa Schiebinger, professor of history of science at Stanford University, who has studied academic couples. At Stanford about 13% of faculty are partnered with another faculty member. On the other hand, it can be easy to feel like you\u2019re lagging behind your partner\u2019s success when you share a career path.<\/p>\n
When Zuzana Galova and Peter Sedlacik, both advertising executives in Croatia, moved to Sydney, they started an agency together to help small Australian businesses with their advertising needs. Galova said each of them now has a greater understanding of the other person\u2019s professional needs, making it easier to feel OK about late hours and other sometimes-tricky work situations that couples in different careers might face.<\/p>\n
Then there are the drawbacks and guilt. When, say, Galova works more hours than Sedlacik, he often feels he isn\u2019t contributing enough \u2014 and vice versa. What\u2019s more, working in the same field, at the same company and living in the same house makes it difficult to find time to simply be alone, Galova said.<\/p>\n
\u201cWe are still trying to get some work-life balance,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n
The benefits<\/strong><\/p>\n For many same-career couples, one big benefit is an expanded network. Together, they\u2019ve got the power of two professional networks, Schiebinger said.<\/p>\n \u201cIn my experience a lot of women still network with other women and men tend to network among men,\u201d she said. \u201cNow, you could cross those lines.\u201d<\/p>\n