Dictionary.com defines \u201ctoxic\u201d as \u201cacting as or having the effect of a poison.\u201d From experience, I can say being in a toxic relationship is like taking a shot of battery acid every day: The drink itself burns, but the single dose isn\u2019t enough to kill you\u2014it\u2019s only after weeks or months of this poisonous diet that you realize you\u2019ve destroyed your stomach lining and your faith in love. In all seriousness, science has shown that being in a toxic relationship can lead to real health problems, from disturbed sleep to an increased risk of heart failure. So avoid the emotional and physical turmoil by identifying a toxic relationship, so you can the heck out of it. Here\u2019s how.<\/p>\n
Someone\u2019s keeping score.<\/b> Whether you know, for a fact, without a doubt, that this is the sixth time in two months that he\u2019s shown up late, or he refuses to forget that time you tossed his favorite pair of pants into the Goodwill pile, the only place a scoreboard belongs is above a sports field. If one of you is keeping score of good deeds or wrongdoings, chances are you\u2019re in a toxic relationship.<\/p>\n
He makes you feel stupid.<\/b> A romantic partner should build you up, not tear you down. That person should never make you feel bad about your interests, beliefs, or hobbies. I once asked a boyfriend if he\u2019d join me at a haunted house\u2014and his response was to ask me why I liked such sh\u2014ty things. Let me be the first to surprise you with how that relationship ended: I moved on, and fast.<\/p>\n
He can\u2019t take responsibility.<\/b> When you fight, is your partner able to admit his part? Or is his only admission that you made him angry? In a healthy relationship, both people can take a step back and see how they contribute to its successes and failures\u2014no one person is to blame. The inability to shoulder responsibility, in my humble opinion, is the mark of an emotionally immature person.<\/p>\n
Someone is constantly threatening to end things<\/b>. One or both of you live in fear that the smallest argument or crisis will cause the other to leave. For example, rather than saying, \u201cIt bothers me when you\u2019re late,\u201d you say, \u201cI can\u2019t be with someone who can\u2019t show up on time.\u201d People should be able to express negative thoughts and feelings in a way that doesn\u2019t cause a commitment crisis.<\/p>\n
Name-calling is normal.<\/b> The only names you should call your significant other are those on that person’s birth certificate and terms of endearment. If your guy uses words or unflattering terms to unconsciously or purposely hurt you, that\u2019s toxic behavior you\u2019re better off without. And if you\u2019re prone to dropping a \u201cyou\u2019re being a [insert explicative here],\u201d it might be time to ask yourself why you use that language with someone you care about.<\/p>\n
He goes MIA<\/b>. I\u2019ll illustrate this point with a personal example. The same ex who felt it was OK to put down my interests also thought after a spat, he could ignore me for three days straight, then pick up as if we\u2019d never had a fight. For all I knew, he\u2019d moved to Timbuktu\u2014and when I realized he simply went ghost on his girlfriend whom he said he loved, I wished he actually had.<\/p>\n
You aren\u2019t allowed to grow.<\/b> Fact: People change. Over time, we learn new things about ourselves and life, and our dreams and goals and even opinions shift. That\u2019s OK. And it\u2019s important to be with someone who\u2019s both willing to accept those changes and grow too. In a toxic relationship, a guy will try to hold you back and hold your personal growth against you. Don\u2019t let him; leave and grow on instead.<\/p>\n
What are some other signs of a toxic relationship? Have you ever been in one? How did it make you feel, and how did you deal with it?<\/p>\n
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Dictionary.com defines \u201ctoxic\u201d as \u201cacting as or having the effect of a poison.\u201d From experience, I can say being in a toxic relationship is like taking a shot of battery acid every day: The drink itself burns, but the single dose isn\u2019t enough to kill you\u2014it\u2019s only after weeks or months of this poisonous diet […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":14,"featured_media":55872,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[],"tags":[51],"yoast_head":"\n