{"id":53841,"date":"2014-10-06T08:47:22","date_gmt":"2014-10-06T08:47:22","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/4cd.e16.myftpupload.com\/?p=53841"},"modified":"2014-10-06T08:47:22","modified_gmt":"2014-10-06T08:47:22","slug":"keeping-secrets-from-your-partner-heres-why-its-going-to-end-badly","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/citifmonline.com\/2014\/10\/keeping-secrets-from-your-partner-heres-why-its-going-to-end-badly\/","title":{"rendered":"Keeping secrets from your partner? Here’s why It’s going to end badly"},"content":{"rendered":"
Many of my clients tell me they keep secrets from their partner because they think telling the truth will make things worse. Or they believe that their significant other simply couldn’t handle the truth and that it might end the relationship.<\/p>\n
For instance, Kerry never told Brad that she was married briefly in her early twenties even though they’ve been dating for over a year. She explains: “I don’t really see a reason to tell Brad because it was a brief marriage and we ended on good terms. I just don’t want him to judge me harshly because he was raised Catholic.”<\/p>\n
When I attempted to explore with Kerry the distinct possibility that Brad might find out someday \u2014 especially if they decide to get married \u2014 Kerry said, “We’ll cross that bridge when we come to it.” At this point, I asked Kerry to consider that mistrust erodes the quality of any relationship and that keeping important secrets isn’t a way to build trust with a romantic partner.<\/p>\n