Are you currently working at a job where you feel like your boss doesn\u2019t really appreciate you?\u00a0 Are you always doing favors for them but feel like you\u2019re hardly getting what you give back in return?<\/p>\n
Have you been working there several years but have hardly gotten any pay raise?<\/p>\n
Or how about this\u2026 Are you currently\u00a0dating<\/a>\u00a0someone who you feel doesn\u2019t really \u201csee\u201d you?\u00a0 Do you feel like the two of you don\u2019t quite meet as eye-to-eye as you feel you should?<\/p>\n Do you feel like they don\u2019t really value you and what you do as much as you would like your partner to?<\/p>\n If you relate to any of these above, then you\u2019ve got a bad case of \u201cstruggling with settling for less than you deserve\u201d.\u00a0 We\u2019ve probably all related to this to at least some extent at some point in our lives.<\/p>\n In fact, I know that I can tell you openly and honestly right now that I have related to all three of those scenarios in some way at some point in my life.<\/p>\n \u201cI need to settle with this job even though I hate my employer because otherwise I won\u2019t be able to financially support myself\u201d<\/p>\n \u201cI need to stay in this less-than-satisfying relationship cause I fear losing the security that this relationship brings.\u00a0 I fear having to go out and date again.\u201d<\/p>\n \u201cI fear making more money because then\u00a0family<\/a>\u00a0and friends might judge me and consider me to be a \u2018rich snob\u2019 since they have always told me that rich people are bad and greedy.\u201d<\/p>\n The problem with all these thoughts is that they are just thoughts based on fear.\u00a0 They are limiting.\u00a0 They are debilitating to our being.<\/p>\n They hold us back from really truly following the calling of our soul; To live a life filled with all the joy,\u00a0love<\/a>, and fulfillment that we have ever dreamed of experiencing.<\/p>\n So how can we end this pattern?\u00a0 How can we stop settling for less than what we know we deserve and give ourselves exactly what we know we really truly do deserve?<\/p>\n Here are 5 steps.\u00a0 Get out a sheet of paper or journal to write out your answers to each of the steps below.<\/p>\n Step 1: Identify an area of your life where you have been settling for less than you deserve<\/strong>.\u00a0 Is it financially or relationally?\u00a0 Is it in your career or is it in your eating and exercise habits?<\/p>\n Identify just one area to focus on clearing first because identifying several at one time can be overwhelming and confusing and, therefore, less effective.<\/p>\n So identify how you have been setting for less in an area of your life and recognize how you have been settling for less.\u00a0 So, for instance: Have you been taking on some clients that you probably shouldn\u2019t have because they drain a lot of your time and energy?<\/p>\n Do you find yourself always putting up with bad employers?\u00a0 Do you find yourself always\u00a0dating<\/a>\u00a0people who are (somehow) on a different life path than you are?<\/p>\n Step 2:\u00a0 Recognize and acknowledge that you do want instead.\u00a0<\/strong>\u00a0Many times we can know what it is that we are unhappy or unsatisfied with but we may not really fully know what it is that we want instead because we are so disconnected from it due to our fear.<\/p>\n Just write down whatever you feel you might like.\u00a0 Even if in your head you notice thoughts come up of \u201cOh that\u2019s too much\u201d or \u201cI don\u2019t think I really need that\u201d.\u00a0 Just go along with the fairly radical desire in order to reflect and notice what comes up for you.<\/p>\n – How does that make me feel?\u00a0<\/em>\u00a0Notice any feelings that come up.\u00a0 Recognize the initial thought that comes up in reaction to potentially receiving this thing that you want instead \u2014 that higher income, that pay raise, that amazing employer or\u00a0boyfriend<\/a>, that feeling of higher energy and more in-control of your\u00a0health<\/a>, or whatever. Write down all thoughts and feelings that come up as a reaction to potentially receiving what you really desire.<\/p>\n Step 4: Create a battle plan!<\/strong>\u00a0 In order to make this happen in your life, what do you need to do?\u00a0 Do you need to quit your job and get a new one?\u00a0 Do you need to ask for a pay raise?\u00a0 Do you need to change your rates?\u00a0 Do you need to hang out with new kinds of people?<\/p>\n Do you need to hang out at new places to find a partner that is more on your life path?\u00a0 Do you need to create a diet plan?\u00a0 Try to visualize in your mind\u2019s eye how that change will unfold in your life.\u00a0 Write down whatever you foresee and whatever feels \u201cright\u201d to you in how you can take action right now.<\/p>\n Step 5: Take action!<\/strong>\u00a0 Seriously:\u00a0We can reflect, ask questions, and create plans for change all we want but if we don\u2019t actually do it then we will never experience the change in our lives that we desire to experience!\u00a0<\/em>\u00a0So whatever plans you made for yourself, write it in your calendar.\u00a0 Take the time today to do something that involves beginning to implement your plan.<\/p>\n Take action now!<\/strong><\/p>\n Source: Yourtango.com<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Are you currently working at a job where you feel like your boss doesn\u2019t really appreciate you?\u00a0 Are you always doing favors for them but feel like you\u2019re hardly getting what you give back in return? 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