You used to be so in love. Now, you can barely stand being in the same room. Here’s why …<\/p>\n
In the beginning of an intimate relationship, new partners strive to give it all they can.\u00a0They want to love deeply, give from their hearts, and for their partners to express themselves similarly in return.\u00a0They are very careful to practice those behaviors that\u00a0keep their lovers close and intimacy strong.<\/p>\n
\u00a0Sadly,\u00a0as their relationship matures, new behaviors all-too-often erode the love they’ve created. As more time goes by, two people who once felt loved and treasured now feel distant and unsafe to each other \u2014 and suddenly, they realize their in a relationship without intimacy. And very often they don’t even realize how they’ve gotten that way.<\/div>\n
There are six common behaviors that damage loving relationships\u00a0if they continue. The struggling partners I work with often slip into these destructive patterns without even realizing it. Had they known about them earlier, they could have stopped the damage that resulted and saved the intimacy in their relationship.<\/p>\n
Identifying and recognizing these six behaviors is the first step to healing, but it is only the beginning.<\/p>\n\n\u00a0It takes commitment and hard work on the part of\u00a0
both<\/em>\u00a0partners to stop these enemies of intimacy from undermining their positive feelings towards each other along, with a mutually sacred promise to keep these behaviors at bay in the future.<\/div>\n<\/section>\nHere are 6 ways you and your partner\u00a0could be ruining the intimacy in your relationship:<\/strong><\/p>\n1. You’re increasingly distant and keep pulling further away.<\/strong><\/p>\nRemember that man who couldn’t get enough of you? He dropped everything when you needed him and turned his attention to you immediately.<\/p>\n
Nothing else took precedence over your desires, no matter how small.\u00a0He kept a list in his mind of anything that was important to you and made sure it was available even before you remembered yourself.<\/p>\n\n\u00a0But over time, things changed. Now, he’s often preoccupied with matters that clearly come\u00a0
before<\/em>you and the relationship. Yes, you can still get his attention but it takes work, justification, and presenting your needs at “just the right time”.<\/div>\n<\/section>\nHe tells you that he feels terrible when he forgets an important date, and you are supportive. Yet, those times you don’t feel central to his life anymore are\u00a0increasing<\/em>. You don’t want to seem needy, but you’re feeling more and more neglected and sometimes ignored completely.<\/p>\nWhere is that guy who put you first no matter what? He tells you that he still loves you, but he’s just not available the way he was. You can’t pretend anymore. He is definitely more disconnected.<\/p>\n
2. You’re super critical about every little thing your partner does or says.<\/strong><\/div>\nThat amazing, compassionate woman you fell in love with now seems like someone you can’t please anymore. You try to talk to her about things you’re upset about, and she responds by telling you that you’re being too reactive, or preaches about what you could have done differently.<\/p>\n
When you try to get her in the present, to care and to listen, she flips it and tells you that\u00a0you’re<\/em>\u00a0in the wrong for wanting what\u00a0you<\/em>\u00a0want.\u00a0It seems that you can’t do anything right anymore.<\/p>\nShe finds fault where she used to give support, and then challenges your responses by telling you that you’re being oversensitive. When you ask for something you need, she tells you that you’re in\u00a0arrears<\/em>\u00a0because you’re not giving her what she needs first.<\/p>\nWhen you ask her what’s wrong, she says it’s nothing and accuses you of being overly concerned. When she wants you, she is very seductive and engaging, but it’s less and less often, and you definitely do not like the direction this is taking.<\/p>\n
3. You’re\u00a0using intimidation and domination to get your way.<\/strong><\/p>\nHe was so exciting when you first connected \u2014 a really take-charge guy who could handle anything that came his way. He was protective of you and so confident. The best of testosterone in abundance, he swept you off your feet.<\/p>\n
You, of course, completely adored and supported the way he felt and acted. Yes, he probably didn’t take any prisoners when challenged, but you saw that as a plus. No one could defeat him or get in his way, and he did it all with a charming edge.<\/p>\n
If ever a woman wanted a knight in shining armor, it was him… until he made\u00a0you<\/em>\u00a0his opponent.<\/p>\nAfter the honeymoon waned a bit, you realized that you didn’t always agree with him and sometimes wanted or thought something that he didn’t like. If anything didn’t work the way it should, there was only one good guy, and it wasn’t likely you.<\/p>\n
It was great when you were on the same team,\u00a0but as an enemy… he’s merciless. On top of everything else, he sees nothing wrong with his behavior and fully expects that you’ll still love him the same way when it’s time for sex.<\/p>\n
4. One of you is being secretive about your true feelings.<\/strong><\/p>\nShe had a lot of relationships before she decided you were the one, and she was very convincing when she agreed she was yours forever. Lately, though, she’s\u00a0telling you some half-truths\u00a0that don’t always add up.<\/p>\n
Where she was so transparent and offering of herself before, now she avoids some of your questions and gives you answers that leave you wondering.<\/p>\n
She’s still very warm and sexually available, so maybe you shouldn’t raise unnecessary concern, but there’s this nagging voice in you that wonders if you’re missing something. You keep trying to put the pieces together in a way that feels more secure and puts your doubts out of your mind, but you also aren’t a fool.<\/p>\n
She adamantly denies any wrong-doing, but you’re wary. Maybe people can change.\u00a0When you gently ask her if she’s bored with you or the relationship, she swears that nothing has changed. It’s her intense voice that seems a little defensive.<\/p>\n
5. You’re not sharing anything new with your partner.<\/strong><\/p>\nAt the beginning of your relationship, you couldn’t say anything that he didn’t find fascinating. You were pretty hyped at his great sense of humor, his innovative ways of looking at things, and his amazing intuition.<\/p>\n
You stayed up all night, talking endlessly when you weren’t making love. There was never a moment in which you weren’t transfixed by his way of looking at the world and it seemed as if it would last forever. You lived in a mutual world of constant discovery.<\/p>\n
You remember the first night he told you the same joke. It seemed a little odd that he didn’t notice your laugh was a little strained. As time went by, he did and said so much you’d heard before.<\/p>\n
As the repeated stories became increasingly stale, you tried hard to find reasons to excuse them. Maybe it was just career battle fatigue or secure familiarity that made him stop trying to keep you interested and challenged. You even playfully tried to help him see that he was getting a little too predictable, but it didn’t seem to help.<\/p>\n
Then you find yourself more interested in what other people are saying, particularly when they are in the process of challenge and new experiences. Armed with new motivation, you start bringing in your own excitement about transformation and attempt to get him to join you in looking differently at the world.<\/p>\n
He acknowledges that you are happier exploring new options, but says he’s really fine the way he is.<\/p>\n
6. You’ve abandoned your shared memories<\/strong><\/p>\nWhen times were a little hard in your past, she would always remind you how important it was to hold on to the things you loved about each other and the great memories from the past. She would make you focus on the delicious moment when you first chose each other, and share those feelings as if they were happening in the moment.<\/p>\n
Once, when there wasn’t enough money in your mutual bank account, she found that special book you loved as a child. You’ll never forget her funny, squeaky laugh when she found the puppy in the middle of the bed that you’d seen at the pound.<\/p>\n
She knew you didn’t have a mom to nurse you when you were sick as a kid. At the slightest mention that something was not quite right, she’d immediately take care of you no matter what she had to let go of to do so.<\/p>\n
She always made you feel that everything would be okay, even when the situation seemed irresolvable.\u00a0Now, she doesn’t seem to want to go there anymore.<\/p>\n
She’s only focused on what’s missing and why the future isn’t brighter. No matter what you do to lighten the moment, or to bring back nostalgia, she is all about the practical, how to just fix what’s wrong, and then get on with it.<\/p>\n
You often find yourself alone in your sweet memories and unable to get her to experience them with you anymore. You still love each other enough but wonder how you’ll keep regenerating when things don’t go as planned if you can’t hold on to what was once sacred.<\/p>\n
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