First dates can feel like job interviews sometimes \u2014 from picking out the right outfit to wear, making sure you say the right things, and trying to keep your vibes good and your spirits up.<\/p>\n
And, as with job interviews, it\u2019s important to go into a first date with confidence. Here are 5 tips for how to have confidence on a first date.<\/p>\n
1. Wear your favorite outfit.<\/strong> If it\u2019s your well-worn pair of jeans, go ahead, as long as they couldn\u2019t double for sweatpants \u2014 we don\u2019t want to get too comfortable.<\/p>\n The key is to dress for how you want to feel. And you want to feel confident. So dress well. And, above all, dress for you. Maybe a ladies\u2019 magazine told you that all guys love short dresses with platform heels, but if that\u2019s not you, don\u2019t wear those. Wear you.<\/p>\n 2. Go to a familiar place.<\/strong> By going to a familiar location, you\u2019re introducing a sense of comfort into your date, almost as if you were going on a date at your home.<\/p>\n And if you know the person and you\u2019re most comfortable at home cooking instead of going out, then go ahead and invite them to your place for dinner. Writer\/actress Amy Sedaris does that, and you can\u2019t go wrong by her.<\/p>\n Be aware though that your date could misinterpret this as \u201ccome to my place for s*x\u201d, so if you\u2019re not going for that, pick a neutral but well-known place (well-known to you.)<\/p>\n 3. Have icebreakers at the ready.<\/strong> That way, if you get stuck during the date, ask them what it was like growing up in New York. Of course, this could backfire if you\u2019re not already Facebook friends \u2014 they might get weirded out \u2014 so have some other questions at the ready.<\/p>\n Something fun and silly, like, \u201cWhat\u2019s your favorite guilty pleasure music?\u201d I went on a date with a guy who suggested we play \u201cThe Question Game.\u201d We each took turns asking each other questions, ranging from a variety of topics, and we had to answer truthfully.<\/p>\n It was a little contrived, but ultimately fun. And the drunker you get, the sexier the questions become \u2014 boom, instant flirting.<\/p>\n 4. Drink \u2014 but not too much.<\/strong> Too little and the other person might feel awkward about drinking. (Of course if you don\u2019t drink for whatever reason, this step doesn\u2019t apply to you, and I\u2019m not saying that you need alcohol to get through a first date, but I am saying, it helps.)<\/p>\n Then again, most of my advice boils down to, \u201cPour a glass of wine\u201d or \u201cOrder a martini\u201d so this could be just me, but I do feel that relying on the oldest social lubricant known to man isn\u2019t a bad thing, as long as you don\u2019t overdo it.<\/p>\n 5. Give yourself a pep talk before you go.<\/strong> Tell yourself that you\u2019re a good person and offer interesting things. List those things. List what\u2019s great about you \u2014 go ahead, write it down. Then when you\u2019re feeling weak, read the list. It sounds lame, but it works!<\/p>\n What\u2019s your advice for having confidence on a first date?<\/p>\n –<\/p>\n Credit: Welovedates.com<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" First dates can feel like job interviews sometimes \u2014 from picking out the right outfit to wear, making sure you say the right things, and trying to keep your vibes good and your spirits up. And, as with job interviews, it\u2019s important to go into a first date with confidence. Here are 5 tips for […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":14,"featured_media":36636,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[],"tags":[51],"yoast_head":"\n
\nAnd I do mean your favorite. Make sure you\u2019re comfortable but more importantly, ready to rock the hell out of your date. If sky high heels do that for you, throw them on.<\/p>\n
\nSometimes the best way to ease first date jitters is to go to your version of Cheers \u2014 where everybody knows your name (or at least, your face.)<\/p>\n
\nAnd I don\u2019t mean the gum (ha ha ha). As with a job interview, you should brush up on your date \u2014 know a little bit about them. I\u2019m not saying go into full-on stalker mode, but give their Facebook profile a cursory look.<\/p>\n
\nYou want to be careful about drinking on a date. Too much and you look like you have a serious problem.<\/p>\n
\nI\u2019m fully aware that this may sound totally ridiculous, but it can actually help to give yourself a pep talk in the mirror before you head out there. It\u2019s totally natural to be nervous before a date, so remind yourself \u2014 out loud \u2014 why you\u2019re a great catch.<\/p>\n