Many people do wrong yet they are not aware. Take time to reflect. What kind of a spouse are you?<\/p>\n
1. \u201cThe Absent one\u201d<\/strong> Have you reduced your marital home into a lodging place where you come late at night only to sleep then leave in the morning? This is dangerous. People don\u2019t get married in order to feel neglected, you are meant to be a companion to your spouse. Become active in your home, deliberately make time to stay at home, time for your spouse and children. Always ask yourself, does my wife feel she has a husband\/does my husband feel he has a wife?<\/p>\n 2. \u201cThe unsure one\u201d<\/strong> 3. \u201cThe chauvinist one\u201d<\/strong> 4. \u201cThe over feminist one\u201d<\/strong> 5. \u201cThe complaining one\u201d<\/strong> 6. \u201cThe secretive one\u201d<\/strong> 7. \u201cThe unforgiving one\u201d<\/strong> 8. \u201cThe lazy one\u201d<\/strong> 9. \u201cThe uncooperative one\u201d<\/strong> 10. \u201cThe public driven one\u201d<\/strong> Are you chasing after the applause of the public as you hurt your spouse? Are you paying more attention to outsiders than you do to your spouse? This is dangerous. Your spouse ought to be your priority. The public actually doesn\u2019t even care about you that much, some will even use you. But your family and spouse will be there for life. Get your priorities in order.<\/p>\n –<\/p>\n Source: capitalfm<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Many people do wrong yet they are not aware. Take time to reflect. What kind of a spouse are you? 1. \u201cThe Absent one\u201d Do you find yourself spending most of your active time away from home? Do you find yourself desiring to spend less of your time away from your spouse? Have you reduced […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":7,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[354],"tags":[1316,353],"yoast_head":"\n
\nDo you find yourself spending most of your active time away from home? Do you find yourself desiring to spend less of your time away from your spouse?<\/p>\n
\nYou are married, but do you still find yourself doubting whether you married the right one? Analyze yourself, do you feel that you are not fully giving your all in your marriage, it\u2019s like you\u2019re waiting for something? Do you find yourself comparing your spouse with others? This is dangerous. Love works best and is only fruitful when you both give your all. It is foolish to complain about your marriage yet you\u2019re not giving your 100% effort. The sooner you decide you will fully be in your marriage, the sooner you will see the fruits of love. This is real life.<\/p>\n
\nAs a man, do you find yourself looking down on your wife or women in general? Do you find yourself wanting to dominate and lord over your wife? Are you a dictator in your marriage? Do you have the false view of what a wife\u2019s submission to her husband means? This is dangerous. Stop treating your wife as your junior or your subordinate. Stop speaking words that make your wife feel enslaved. Stop using a tone that is condescending or giving orders. Work on how you relate with your wife. Your role as her husband is to love on her. Loving means serving her, seeing her as an equal partner in your marriage; looking at yourself not as her master, but her best friend.<\/p>\n
\nAs a woman, do you find yourself wanting to prove to your husband that even you can do what he does, even better? Have you been taking the message of woman empowerment too far to the point that you are no longer loving and warm but militant; ever looking for ways to show your power? This is dangerous. Husbands and wives are meant to compliment each other, not compete. You two can actually live in harmony. Don\u2019t harden your heart, relax; love and be loved.<\/p>\n
\nAre you constantly focusing on the wrongs your spouse does or the things lacking in your marriage? Are you constantly, whining and negative? This is dangerous. You will fail to see the progress in your marriage. Marriage is a journey of love, not an event of perfection. There is so much good in your spouse and your marriage but you will not see it if you keep searching and recording failures, short comings and mistakes. Learn to be patient.<\/p>\n
\nAre you inclined to keeping things from your spouse? You hide secrets and rarely disclose things? You edit what you tell your spouse and in a weird way convince yourself that you are doing so to protect your spouse? This is dangerous and will lead to your spouse being suspicious of you and distant from you. Your spouse is an adult and can handle the truth, learn to open up and make decisions with your spouse.<\/p>\n
\nIs there one thing or things you still hold against your spouse? Something your spouse did that you keep reminding him\/her of? Is your forgiveness real or do you say \u201cI forgive you\u201d but deep down you define your spouse by a wrong he\/she did? This is dangerous. Your marriage will never blossom when you hold on to the past.<\/p>\n
\nDo you take time to invest and put effort in your marriage? Or do you not bother at all? Is your spouse putting effort to pray for your marriage, read about marriage, self building but you are just there? Caring less? This is dangerous. Nothing grows without consistent and deliberate effort. Stop being lazy.<\/p>\n
\nAre you hard to work with? Are you difficult to love? Difficult to please? Difficult to talk to,to plan things and to live with? Do you turn things into a fight? Do you always have to win an argument or conversation? Do you just stubbornly choose not to do as agreed or are great at giving excuses? This is dangerous. Marriage is a partnership, teamwork. If you become a stumbling block or a hurdle, your marriage will be a burden. Choose to be a blessing.<\/p>\n
\nAre you so concerned about your public image that you\u2019re focusing more on pleasing outsiders than your own spouse? Are you giving out money to family and outsiders yet your spouse and family is in need? Do you have a good reputation outside the home but in the house, your spouse sees a different you?<\/p>\n