{"id":33287,"date":"2014-07-21T12:10:54","date_gmt":"2014-07-21T12:10:54","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/4cd.e16.myftpupload.com\/?p=33287"},"modified":"2014-07-21T12:10:54","modified_gmt":"2014-07-21T12:10:54","slug":"5-ways-to-get-over-your-bitterness","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/citifmonline.com\/2014\/07\/5-ways-to-get-over-your-bitterness\/","title":{"rendered":"5 ways to get over your bitterness"},"content":{"rendered":"
“Resentment,” the late South African president Nelson Mandela once said, “is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies.”<\/p>\n
Yet we all know how hard it can be to let go of past grievances. I have met\u00a0couples<\/a>\u00a0who can’t remember what they had for dinner last night but have miraculously instant recall when it comes to the last several times that they were angry with each other.<\/p>\n No matter how legitimate the grievance, harboring resentments\u2014or bringing them up again and again as fuel in arguments\u2014does neither yourself nor your relationship any good.<\/p>\n So what do you do when that old hurt keeps rearing its ugly head? How do you move past resentment?<\/p>\n For one, it is possible to forgive without forgetting. You may not have any control over what you remember, but you do have control over how you feel about it.<\/p>\n Forgiveness is a conscious choice. If you are committed to the future of the relationship, you need to learn how to move past old issues once and for all or they can cast an ugly shadow over the relationship for many years to come.<\/p>\n Here are a few tools that can help you let go of past relationship resentments:<\/strong><\/p>\n The next time you feel yourself dwelling on old wounds, remind yourself that you have a choice in whether or not to continue carrying that burden. If you choose to leave it behind, you will have new found freedom to focus on working with your partner on a healthier, happier, resentment-free relationship.<\/p>\n Source: Yourtango.com<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" “Resentment,” the late South African president Nelson Mandela once said, “is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies.” Yet we all know how hard it can be to let go of past grievances. I have met\u00a0couples\u00a0who can’t remember what they had for dinner last night but have miraculously instant recall when […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":33296,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[],"tags":[51],"yoast_head":"\n\n