Given my experience, there are some key concepts I learned in my journey as well. We women have equal responsibility in making a marriage work. For all the points mentioned for husbands, there are perhaps also some for wives I would like to share.<\/p>\n
1. Always seek out the best in him.<\/b> Dwell on those things, not what you don\u2019t like about him.<\/p>\n
2. Have sex with him.<\/b> Often. All the time if need be.<\/p>\n
i. Best advice received from an older woman on the eve of my wedding 12 years ago: Make love a lot, especially when you don\u2019t feel like it. Making love is a balm, it covers and heals a lot of the wounds we inflict on one another in a marriage. When you feel like you just aren\u2019t close to your spouse, that\u2019s the time to take off your clothes and get close. Boy-oh-boy, was Janice right!<\/p>\n
3. Seek counsel from older, wiser women who have succeeded in their marriages.<\/b> It\u2019s impossible to make good decisions when we\u2019re emotional. And seeking counsel from your friends who are your own age isn\u2019t as good as counsel from elderly women.<\/p>\n
4. Let him zone out.<\/b> He is not ignoring you, men just have moments of brain freeze.<\/p>\n
5. It\u2019s not your job to change or fix him.<\/b> We are all on a journey.<\/p>\n
6. Tell him how big\/strong\/smart\/manly he is all the time.<\/b> They tend to forget.<\/p>\n 7. Never forget or take for granted that your man chose you.<\/b><\/p>\n 8. Laugh at his jokes.<\/b> Even if they aren\u2019t funny.<\/p>\n 9. We are responsible for our reactions, no one else.<\/b> We must take full accountability of our emotions and how we respond. And so must he.<\/p>\n 10. Make him that goddam sandwich.<\/b><\/p>\n 11. Allow your man to just be.<\/b> Be a comfort, be a gentle and giving spirit when the times call for it.<\/p>\n 12. Quit your b*tching when he gets home<\/b>, let him chill.<\/p>\n 13. Love him in the way he needs it<\/b>, not the way you assume he needs it. Find out your different love languages and be sensitive and ready to show him you love him in ways he understands best.<\/p>\n 14. Make yourself look pretty.<\/b> The more feminine you act the more it reminds him he is a man.<\/p>\n 15. Be present.<\/b> Give him your time and attention when he needs it. In my experience, during those times I did serve him, he over time, served me.<\/p>\n 16. Never talk about other men<\/b>, even if they are fictional or movie, even if it\u2019s to say \u201cyou are so much hotter than that guy\u201d Most men already think they are, so this will confuse them.<\/p>\n 17. Be willing to have him sexually.<\/b> Let him know you need his masculine presence, that you trust him fully.<\/p>\n 18. Never read advice on the internet from strangers.<\/b> They probably don\u2019t know you and will make you do stupid crap that will not be applicable or appropriate in your marriage\u2026<\/p>\n 19. Give him space.<\/b> He needs times to find his new self (we change constantly) before he can give of himself.<\/p>\n 20. By doing these things it would not mean a wife doesn\u2019t expect her husband to be great too<\/b> or is to blame for the breakdown, just that she is doing her part to make a better half of a marriage.<\/p>\n 21. Be vulnerable<\/b> Do not be afraid to share your fears and feelings. Men tend to know when we\u2019re keeping things from them. And they know when we\u2019re transparent. And, I can\u2019t emphasize this more: acknowledge your mistakes. Say you\u2019re sorry when you know you need to.<\/p>\n 22. Allow your husband to love you his way<\/b> instead of comparing his expression of love to your own ideals. If you keep comparing, you may miss the most beautiful moments of tenderness.<\/p>\n 23. Do not be afraid to be fully transparent.<\/b> This builds great trust over time.<\/p>\n 24. Don\u2019t ever, ever, ever put your spouse down in public!<\/b> He has to have someone that he knows will have his back. If you need to discuss something he did or said, do it in private. No one wants to be corrected in front of others. Once discussed and fixed, let it go!<\/p>\n 25. Find common hobbies, goals, and dreams.<\/b> Also, find common ground in your faith. Never stop growing together. Laugh lots. Fall in love over and over again.<\/p>\n 26. Many times, we cannot connect or reconnect because we have created a version of them in our mind and hearts that justifies our own weakness.<\/b> As long as we see them as the caricature we\u2019ve created we cannot connect to them because that caricature is not them. Own your feelings, own your results, meet your own needs, turn to a higher power for what you lack, and allow your higher power to make up for what pain your spouse will cause. Even the best human among us will cause another pain, it\u2019s part of being human.<\/p>\n 27. Don\u2019t let financial issues<\/b> come between you.<\/p>\n 28. Acknowledge and embrace each other\u2019s pasts<\/b>, it made you who you are. Speak up, talk about \u201cit\u201d when it happens instead of fighting about it a month later.<\/p>\n 29. Forgive.<\/b> Don\u2019t let history hold you or your man hostage.<\/p>\n 30. Never underestimate the power of simply touching each other.<\/b> Sometimes it can say what words can not.<\/p>\n 31. Always, choose love.<\/b> Love is action, not emotion. Don\u2019t miss that.<\/p>\n –<\/p>\n Source: Spirit Egg<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Given my experience, there are some key concepts I learned in my journey as well. We women have equal responsibility in making a marriage work. For all the points mentioned for husbands, there are perhaps also some for wives I would like to share. 1. Always seek out the best in him. Dwell on those […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":14,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[354],"tags":[],"yoast_head":"\n