Looking for true love isn\u2019t a giggle. Especially when you look over at your friends who have already found their soul mate. It\u2019s even less of a giggle when you\u2019re over 30 and starting to fear that you\u2019ll never find your kindred spirit.<\/p>\n
It\u2019s a fear that\u2019s very real for many of us. The world is huge and, when faced with an abundance of choice, it seems harder to find and settle down with someone we feel is the One.<\/p>\n
And the same goes for the men, of course. Everyone of us is becoming more and more selective.<\/p>\n
Looking for love is daunting, especially as you get older. You feel compelled to preen the dating sites, hang at bars, go to networking events, all in the hope of finding that special someone you can spend the rest of your life with.<\/p>\n
Nothing has worked so far. Perhaps the task is too grand? Perhaps your friends were part of the last batch who would ever find true love in this ever widening world of ours? Fear not. There is still time for you. Let\u2019s take a look at how you can find a love that lasts in this big wide world of ours.<\/p>\n
Love yourself first<\/b><\/p>\n
The road to true love starts with yourself: Before you can start finding a man who will be your soul mate, you need to first be in love with who YOU are.<\/p>\n
Not all of us get this. Some of us rush into relationships still bruised by our past. Feeling low and without much confidence, we unwittingly sabotage our new relationship. We didn\u2019t mean to. But because we\u2019re finding it hard to love ourselves, we inevitably push our new man away.<\/p>\n
\u201cI\u2019ll come back when you\u2019ve sorted yourself out. Maybe,\u201d he says, breaking both our hearts.<\/p>\n
But he\u2019s right. It\u2019s unfair on anyone if you get into a relationship while still reeling from past hurts. If you don\u2019t love yourself, you\u2019ll find it impossible to let a man love you. You\u2019ll scowl at his compliments, deflecting them and discarding them. You\u2019ll freeze when he touches you, and your intimacy will be non-existent. He\u2019ll feel all this and it will take its toll.<\/p>\n
If you want your relationship to last, you must first of all love yourself. Find ways of letting go of the past and look to the future. Be in love with the moment. Cherish all you have, be grateful for it.<\/p>\n
In other words, get yourself ready for a relationship. Just like an athlete warms up before a competition, you need to warm up before embarking on a new life with a man.<\/p>\n
Ask friends for help<\/b><\/p>\n
Searching for true love can present many dead-ends, and it really can be a waste of time. After yet another year of disastrous dates, you\u2019re a year older and still have to celebrate Christmas as the single one.<\/p>\n
So it\u2019s time to ask friends to see if they have any single friends they can pair you up with. Sometimes your friends know you better than you know yourself, and they certainly know you better than a dating site algorithm. So give them a chance.<\/p>\n
Go out volunteering<\/b><\/p>\n
A problem we have with dating sites is that it\u2019s hard to know what another persons values are until you meet them.<\/p>\n
Values are really important. If your values aren\u2019t the same as your partners, the relationship is doomed from the start.<\/p>\n
When you go volunteering, you know that all the other volunteers share your values: Kindness, warmth and generosity.<\/p>\n
Wouldn\u2019t it be amazing if you met a cute guy while out volunteering who has a heart as big as yours?<\/p>\n
Be positive with all whom you meet<\/b><\/p>\n
We\u2019re sometimes guilty of adopting tunnel vision as we relentless pursue The One. We ignore the pretenders, and focus on just a certain kind of perfect man.<\/p>\n
The problem with this is that we\u2019re erecting barriers and shutting off any chances of stumbling on true love in places and with people we never considered. And we\u2019re doing ourselves a massive disservice.<\/p>\n
It\u2019s like online dating. Guys have a theory that, because women receive so many messages, we become really picky about who we reply to. Unless a guy looks absolutely amazing and exactly like their type, we won\u2019t reply.<\/p>\n
And to some extent, guys are right.<\/p>\n
Are you guilty of being too selective on dating sites? Faced with an abundance of choice, with 20 guys messaging you each day, you know you don\u2019t need to settle for what\u2019s in your mind \u201csecond best.\u201d<\/p>\n
However, this could also mean that you end up a permanent residence on the dating sites. After five years, you\u2019re still there. While those guys you gave a brush-off to who actually really could have been amazing are now all happily married and doing just fine.<\/p>\n
When it comes to finding true love, adopt an open mind. Be positive with all whom you meet. Give people and situations a chance. Aiming for perfection when it comes to true love isn\u2019t natural, and it could mean that you\u2019re forever searching. Life can have a fairytale ending, but only if you\u2019re not the one scripting it. Take a chance on destiny for once.<\/p>\n
Get out and about<\/b><\/p>\n
We think having a dog boosts a girls\u2019 chances of finding true love. You can take your dog for walks into the city park each day, getting to know the other (single cute guy) dog walkers.<\/p>\n
And even if another guy doesn\u2019t have a dog, guys just love to come on over and stroke your dog. Before you know it, a conversation has started.<\/p>\n
You don\u2019t have to own a dog, but it\u2019s a good idea to make yourself known to your local community. Go for walk, go to book clubs, find ways of meeting new people and presenting your best qualities.<\/p>\n
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Source: Beauty and Tips<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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