If she thinks that he\u2019s “The One”, women tend to stay with a man regardless of his behavior.<\/p>\n
I\u2019m a\u00a0professional Matchmaker at Matchmakers In The City, and I date coach a lot of women who have\u00a0been through it with a guy who they thought was “The One”.<\/p>\n
One of the Bachelorettes who I date coached, Jennifer, exemplifies the situation that many women find themselves.\u00a0She described Rob to me who had a pull on her for years, even when they only rarely saw each other.\u00a0They met at work and began casually hanging out as friends, learning that they shared the common background of divorced parents.<\/p>\n
This was the first time that she met a man who could deeply empathize with the pain that she had dealt with for years.\u00a0He also had handsome features, athletic shoulders, and an arresting smile to top it off.\u00a0But, to her dismay, he frequently flaked on plans, but she tried to act nonchalant to preserve their casual friendship that she treasured, even though she yearned to be more than just friends.<\/p>\n
Eventually, they both recognized their intense attraction to each other at a party, their relationship entered into murky territory,\u00a0and he ended up ghosting her.\u00a0Through her friends, she heard stories of his excessive drinking and partying habits.<\/p>\n Hung up on the connection that they had together, she held onto hope that he would change and realize that they were made for each other.<\/p>\n Don’t be like Jennifer. Here are 7 signs that can help you detect your counter-fit soul mate, so that you can break up with him ASAP:<\/p>\n 1.<\/strong> He\u2019s unfaithful.<\/strong><\/p>\n If he cheats, he needs alone time and a severe life change.\u00a0Some women will defend their boyfriends saying that men, by nature, cheat.<\/p>\n As a\u00a0professional Matchmaker, I will tell you once and for all: monogamy proves challenging for both men\u00a0and\u00a0women.\u00a0Love is a choice, and he chose to fulfill his selfish desires and gratify his ego rather than to love you.<\/p>\n 2. He\u2019s “not looking for anything serious.”<\/strong><\/p>\n Of course, you want to spend time getting to know each other, but after a few months, if he hesitates to make your relationship official (with titles), take note.\u00a0This man may be too immature for the kind of fulfilling relationship that you want.<\/p>\n Figure out the kind of commitment that you desire, and he needs to step up\u00a0or get out of line so that the right man can take his proper place.\u00a0Ladies, stop selling yourself short.\u00a0Refuse to wait around for years for a man who\u2019s unsure of what he wants.<\/p>\n 3.\u00a0You\u2019re afraid.<\/strong><\/p>\n If you fear that it will be impossible to find another man who you\u2019ll find so attractive or who makes you feel this way, listen up.\u00a0You will.\u00a0You will find the right man who you find extremely attractive, and he\u2019ll make you feel beautiful.\u00a0You also may have some\u00a0fear that other men will fail to want you.<\/p>\n Maybe you put on a few pounds since you started dating, or a few years have passed, and time has taken its toll on your appearance.\u00a0Rest assured that taking care of yourself and increased exercise costs a lot less than healing the emotional wounds that will continue if you stay with this guy.<\/p>\n 4.<\/strong>\u00a0He directs his potty mouth at you.<\/strong><\/p>\n If a guy curses at you, demeans you, or is abusive towards you, even if it’s just for a few moments, it’s time to say goodbye.\u00a0Of course, everyone has flaws, but a man who exhibits any of these behaviors towards you needs to leave.\u00a0Separate from him before the abuse gets worse.<\/p>\n 5.<\/strong>\u00a0He flakes on you.<\/strong><\/p>\n A few of our Bachelorettes have experienced the heartbreaking scenario of getting stood up by a man who they cared about and wanted to see again.\u00a0After he missed their date, they felt tempted to continue to date him.<\/p>\n In this case, I advise women to use the fluke or flaw rule.\u00a0He may have forgotten this one time (a fluke), or he flakes often and found something else more immediately gratifying to do (a flaw).<\/p>\n Remember, you hold the power; you can give him another chance to discern this character trait about him, but if this is a behavior pattern, give him up, girl.\u00a0Time and time again, reliability reveals itself as one of the most important qualities of a good future husband.<\/p>\n 6. He acts like he\u2019s in middle school.<\/strong><\/p>\n A man who lies clearly has low self-esteem. He thinks that he needs to put on a show for women to want him\u00a0or to get anything that he wants.\u00a0This also reveals that he has failed to mature to a place where he feels comfortable in his own skin.<\/p>\n In order for love to work, both people need to love themselves, make sacrifices, and commit 100 percent.\u00a0A common game-playing tactic occurs when a\u00a0man may try to hurt you\u00a0since he believes that you did something wrong.<\/p>\n However, your relationship can only survive if you both choose to be the bigger person.\u00a0Sure, you can, and should, lovingly tell your significant other if his actions hurt you, but revenge kills love.<\/p>\n 7.\u00a0He freeloads off of your success.<\/strong><\/p>\n As many of our Girl Boss Bachelorettes affirm, they want a man who can hold his own and take care of himself.\u00a0If you find that your guy depends on you for money and takes advantage of your success, it\u2019s time to tighten your belt.<\/p>\n I have seen the heartache caused when women misidentify “The One”. Instead of a title that takes months of discernment, women may use it as a band-aid to cover the ugliness of their boyfriend\u2019s actions.<\/p>\n Fortunately for Jennifer, a few years pass, and she succeeded with honors at the business.\u00a0At a company function, she ran into Rob who looked quite different than the handsome man she once knew: now sullen, tired, and aged beyond his years.<\/p>\n Whispers around the company revealed that Rob had a problem with drugs.\u00a0Clearly, she was saved from a relationship with a self-destructive, unstable person.\u00a0After years of agonizing over losing the man of her dreams and going over their every interaction in minute detail, she saw his tragic true colors and felt a sense of relief in her heart.<\/p>\n –<\/p>\n Source:<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" If she thinks that he\u2019s “The One”, women tend to stay with a man regardless of his behavior. 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