{"id":295673,"date":"2017-02-19T15:29:23","date_gmt":"2017-02-19T15:29:23","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/citifmonline.com\/?p=295673"},"modified":"2017-02-19T15:29:23","modified_gmt":"2017-02-19T15:29:23","slug":"7-signs-your-partner-is-leeching-off-you","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/citifmonline.com\/2017\/02\/7-signs-your-partner-is-leeching-off-you\/","title":{"rendered":"7 Signs your partner is leeching off you"},"content":{"rendered":"
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He’s a user and you’re being used.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I\u00a0dated a guy once who turned out to be such a leech\u00a0and it took me a while to figure it out. At first, I thought he was just friendly and sociable and that he was mixing in well with my friends. I was happy that I was seeing someone who made the merging of the friend groups easy.<\/p>\n

But a couple of months later, I realized that he was slowly but surely usurping my social group for himself and his own needs. All at once, I looked around and found that\u00a0my “friends” had flocked to him and left me by the wayside.<\/p>\n

No one wants to\u00a0feel like they\u2019re being used. So, to prevent you from going through the same ordeal \u2014\u00a0or to stop the loser dead in his tracks before he does any more damage \u2014\u00a0let\u2019s take a look at some of the key warning signs of\u00a0leeching.<\/p>\n

1. He\u2019s extremely charming.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Everyone falls for a charmer, but the fact is that not all of them have good intentions. While some people are naturally charming because of their kindness and genial personality, others are\u00a0charming in a way that is more selfish and opportunistic. If you find yourself in the presence of an exceptionally charming guy, keep your wits about you.<\/p>\n

2. He\u2019s a manipulator.<\/strong><\/p>\n

The\u00a0unfortunate brilliance of a manipulator\u00a0is that they make it difficult for you to discern that you\u2019re being manipulated. He knows how to flip a situation so that he\u2019s never the one in the wrong.<\/p>\n

Somehow, whenever he\u2019s in deep water, he ends up coming out the other side\u00a0as the victor. A good manipulator also uses his charm to his advantage to disarm the other person. That way, you\u2019re almost blinded to his scheming.<\/p>\n

3. He burns through people really quickly.<\/strong><\/p>\n

He seems like a great guy to you. You\u2019ve fallen head over heels and you think it\u2019s the match you\u2019ve been waiting for. You\u2019ve heard a little bit about his romantic history, you\u2019ve even seen a scorned ex or two, but by the way he\u2019s treating you, you can\u2019t picture him burning through you like he did the others.<\/p>\n

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But then you notice that his friendships don\u2019t last long either. A person he called his “best friend” two weeks ago has suddenly been replaced. This signals that\u00a0he doesn\u2019t value relationships as much\u00a0as you think he does.<\/p>\n

4. He starts hanging out with your friends by himself.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You\u2019re relieved that you\u2019ve found a guy who is not only great for you\u00a0but also jives well with your friends. This seems like a plus because it can be really hard to find someone who likes your friends and who also earns their admiration. However, he\u2019s doing so well with your social group that he starts hanging out with them when you\u2019re not around.<\/p>\n

This in itself doesn\u2019t have to be a problem, but be careful. He may steal them (by using his charm and manipulative skills) from right under your nose. How sure are you that people will remain on your side if there\u2019s a split?<\/p>\n

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5. He uses you in other ways.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You can tell he\u2019s leeching if he\u2019s\u00a0self-serving in other aspects of the relationship. When it comes to making plans with you, it is always according to his schedule and whenever he deigns to get back to you.<\/p>\n

When it comes to sex, the focus is all on his satisfaction and not yours.\u00a0Because you\u2019re falling for him, you might overlook these details, knowingly or unknowingly. But if he\u2019s selfish and using you in one way, it\u2019s only a matter of time before he takes it to the next level.<\/p>\n

6. He\u2019s hesitant about committing.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You don\u2019t want to\u00a0pressure someone into committing to you, but he seems to be suspiciously avoidant of the topic. He\u2019ll act like a boyfriend, but he won\u2019t make the boyfriend commitment. This is a bad, bad sign.<\/p>\n

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It means he wants to reap the\u00a0benefits of being in a relationship\u00a0without actually doing the work or taking responsibility. Remember, a guy who really likes you won\u2019t hesitate or string you along.<\/p>\n

7. Even when things between you two go south, he still keeps in touch with your friends.<\/strong><\/p>\n

All of these signs have added up in the worst way. You\u2019ve finally decided that it\u2019s best to keep your distance from him or to just let him loose entirely. Naturally, you think this means that you\u2019ve put a boundary up and the friends you shared with him are now off-limits. He doesn\u2019t see it that way.<\/p>\n

After you\u2019ve broken it off, he still hits up your friends (guys, and even worse, your girls). This is the epitome of adding insult to injury. Not only did he leech off of you while you were dating, but now that you\u2019re not he\u2019s still trying to get his way.<\/p>\n

Next time you date or\u00a0start a relationship with someone, check their selfishness levels. If they seem curiously high, you\u2019ve got yourself a leech.<\/p>\n

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Source: Your Tango<\/div>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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