Are you about to make the \u00a0biggest mistake of your entire love life?<\/p>\n
What you may not know about\u00a0Valentine\u2019s Day\u00a0is that it often\u00a0turns out to be the beginning of the end for many couples. Here\u2019s why …<\/p>\n
Many people evaluate the overall state of happiness and success in their marriage or romantic relationship\u00a0based on whether or not their expectations for Valentine\u2019s Day get met. Unmet expectations easily become\u00a0the final straw\u00a0after a year\u2019s worth of unfulfilling romantic love. Theses increasing levels of disappointment may\u00a0lead\u00a0to affairs and, ultimately, turn Valentine’s Day into one of the\u00a0leading causes of divorce.<\/p>\n
According to\u00a0a study of divorce filings\u00a0by legal referral sites Attorney Fee\u00a0and Avvo, February is the busiest month of the year for divorce filings. People seeking referrals for divorce increase about 40% in February \u2014 with the biggest spike hitting on the day after\u00a0Valentine’s Day.<\/p>\n
Additionally, a number of websites for married individuals seeking affairs\u00a0report that\u00a0the day after Valentine\u2019s Day\u00a0is their number one day for new sign-ups.<\/p>\n
If you’re in a struggling relationship,\u00a0Valentine\u2019s Day\u00a0might remind you of your romantic dream of love\u00a0you’ve lost. And of course, thinking<\/p>\n
You can’t undo a year of disappointment and unhappiness by offering your partner a greeting card, candy, obligatory dinner, or even a dozen roses.<\/p>\n
Let\u2019s get real.<\/p>\n
Can a greeting card restore intimacy and passion?<\/p>\n
Can candy save a loveless marriage?<\/p>\n
Can a greeting card restore intimacy and passion?<\/p>\n
Can a dozen roses overcome an affair?<\/p>\n
Here are 3 ways to change your thinking about Valentine’s Day before your expectations destroy your relationship for good.<\/strong><\/p>\n 1. Get perspective.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n The value of your relationship isn’t contingent upon expectations\u00a0and unrealistic romantic desires for one single day. Don’t let the way this day evolves decide the fate of your relationship.<\/p>\n You are where you are in your relationship for many reasons that have absolutely nothing to do with Valentine\u2019s Day.<\/p>\n 2. Focus on giving to your partner instead of on what you may get.<\/strong><\/p>\n Make the day\u00a0about valuing them.\u00a0Show your appreciation for your partner in whatever way is most genuine for you. If you are willing to let go of your romanticized expectations, you can’t be\u00a0held emotionally hostage\u00a0by the day.<\/p>\n You may feel hurt or resentful about what your part has or hasn’t done for you in the past year. That\u2019s Ok. You can still find something to appreciate about them and do something to acknowledge it.<\/p>\n 3. Start working towards something better.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n Make a commitment to elevate the standard you live by in relation to interacting with your partner. Even if you think they are\u00a0to blame for every challenge in your relationship, the likelihood is that you haven’t been 100 percent perfect. Any relationship is a shared responsibility.<\/p>\n Today\u2019s the day you can begin to\u00a0shift and improve your relationship. Don\u2019t withhold\u00a0your love, compliments, respect, attention, or sex because you are upset or think they owe you. And stop keeping score, it\u2019s the easiest way to get stuck in\u00a0feeling resentful.<\/p>\n Winning the game of love happens through what you give, not from demands or attempts to control the other person.<\/p>\n It certainly won\u2019t happen when you remain\u00a0resentful of unmet expectations\u00a0of your partner and unmet expectations around Valentine\u2019s Day.<\/p>\n This year, you can use Valentine\u2019s Day as a catalyst to begin to be more kind by saying thank you for little things. You could notice what your partner does right and compliment them for it. You could remember something amazing or unique about them and tell them how it makes you feel.<\/p>\n You could find countless ways to value your partner more\u00a0\u2014 \u00a0starting now.<\/p>\n Will you?<\/p>\n This could be the start of a wide range of\u00a0improvements across the board\u00a0in your intimate relationship.<\/p>\n –<\/p>\n Source: Your Tango<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Are you about to make the \u00a0biggest mistake of your entire love life? What you may not know about\u00a0Valentine\u2019s Day\u00a0is that it often\u00a0turns out to be the beginning of the end for many couples. Here\u2019s why … Many people evaluate the overall state of happiness and success in their marriage or romantic relationship\u00a0based on whether […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":14,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[354],"tags":[3721,355,1693],"yoast_head":"\n