{"id":247078,"date":"2016-09-09T14:24:57","date_gmt":"2016-09-09T14:24:57","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/citifmonline.com\/?p=247078"},"modified":"2016-09-09T14:24:57","modified_gmt":"2016-09-09T14:24:57","slug":"7-ways-you-may-be-sabotaging-your-relationship-without-knowing-it","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/citifmonline.com\/2016\/09\/7-ways-you-may-be-sabotaging-your-relationship-without-knowing-it\/","title":{"rendered":"7 ways you may be sabotaging your relationship without knowing it"},"content":{"rendered":"
What makes some couples go the distance, while other romances fizzle out before they\u2019ve even gotten off the ground?<\/p>\n
Below, relationship experts share seven negative qualities that can undermine a relationship in the early stages.<\/p>\n
There\u2019s nothing wrong with setting high expectations for potential partners. But you\u2019re setting yourself up for failure if you believe a soulmate should be responsible for your sense of fulfillment in life,\u00a0said\u00a0Kristin Davin,\u00a0a psychologist in New York City.<\/p>\n
\u201cI see a lot of people in relationships who are overly dependent on their spouse for everything,\u201d she said. \u201cLooking to your partner for all your emotional support creates a burden on the other person.\u201d<\/p>\n
It may kill you to spend time apart in the beginning, but doing so is the best way to avoid a co-dependent relationship, Davin said.<\/p>\n
Like Bey and Jay\u00a0or Ellen and Portia, your S.O. should be your partner in life, not your rival. If you\u2019re secretly peeved that your girlfriend got a raise, it doesn\u2019t bode well for your future, said Laurel Steinberg, a New York City-based relationship therapist and professor of psychology at Columbia University.<\/p>\n
\u201cBeing able to genuinely celebrate a partner\u2019s success is so important in a healthy relationship, even if your own success pales in comparison,\u201d she said.
\n\u201cHaving a partner who is jealous of your accomplishments is painful, alienating and depletes the love in a relationship.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\n