The chemistry is off the charts. He checks off all your boxes. She is everything you ever wanted in a partner. But are you compatible?<\/p>\n
According to marriage counselors, compatibility is key to a life-long partnership.<\/p>\n
\u201cCompatibility is more important than love \u2015 believe it or not \u2015 and goes hand in hand with respect and communication at the top,\u201d therapist Susan Pease Gadoua told The Huffington Post.<\/p>\n
Below, nine signs you and your partner are compatible.<\/p>\n
1. You share the same core values.<\/strong> 2. Your partner finds your quirks endearing.<\/strong> Being totally yourself around your partner \u2014 warts and all \u2014 is a good sign you are compatible.<\/p>\n 3. You come out the other side of an argument in one piece.<\/strong> 4. Your partner is the first person you want to share good and bad news with.<\/strong><\/p>\n \u201cGot a promotion? Won the lottery? No cavities? Your ideal partner will be the person who will be your biggest cheerleader and want to celebrate these victories without jealousy or scorekeeping. But also, in every life a little rain must fall.<\/p>\n Compatible partners feel safe enough to splash in the puddles with one another. It takes a great deal of trust to disclose vulnerable, painful elements of your life to someone so important to you, but the strongest couples can withstand this strain and provide support while working toward a solution. If you can\u2019t let your significant other help you when you\u2019re down, how close are you, really?\u201d \u2015 Ryan Howes, clinical psychologist<\/p>\n Your partner should be your biggest fan, and the first person you go to with any type of news.<\/p>\n 5. You have similar upbringings.<\/strong> 6. Your interests overlap and you have fun together.<\/strong> Go ahead, soak up that Vitamin D \u2014 doing activities together outside is great for your relationship.<\/p>\n 7. You both take responsibility and apologize.<\/strong> 8. You\u2019re committed to growing together.<\/strong> 9. You have similar views on drugs and alcohol.<\/strong> This holds true for how much or little one imbibes.<\/p>\n When you drink socially, there is an ease of compatibility, an immediate opportunity to hang out \u2015 \u2018let\u2019s meet up over happy hour.\u2019 If neither of you drink, there is no awkwardness of drinking in front of the other, or being pressured to drink.<\/p>\n However, when one person drinks more than another, or uses other substances like marijuana or illicit drugs, this impacts compatibility because someone gets left behind.\u201d \u2015 Anne Crowley The chemistry is off the charts. He checks off all your boxes. She is everything you ever wanted in a partner. But are you compatible? According to marriage counselors, compatibility is key to a life-long partnership. \u201cCompatibility is more important than love \u2015 believe it or not \u2015 and goes hand in hand with respect […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":7,"featured_media":245585,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[354],"tags":[],"yoast_head":"\n
\n\u201cWhen the going gets tough, like it does in all relationships, knowing that you share the same core values makes difficult decisions easier because you both have the same inner compass. Core values are the foundation of a strong relationship.\u201d \u2015 Megan Fleming, clinical psychologist and sex and relationship therapist<\/p>\n
\n\u201cTo be great partners, you cannot expect perfection. Everyone has their quirks and flaws, and to be healthy together you need to make sure you see these imperfections as endearing. Marriages break up over an accumulation of \u2018small stuff.\u2019 Do what you can to love unconditionally.\u201d \u2015 Sherrie Campbell, licensed psychologist<\/p>\n
\n\u201cIf you\u2019re in the romantic bubble and haven\u2019t yet had a fight or disagreement, you\u2019re probably still on your best behavior. This isn\u2019t bad \u2015 and, in fact, it\u2019s supposed to happen this way \u2015 but the truth is, you haven\u2019t really had your relationship tested and you may still be relating on a superficial level.\u201d \u2015 Susan Pease Gadoua, licensed therapist with expertise in marriage and divorce<\/p>\n
\n\u201cWhile we all love the romance of \u2018Pretty Woman,\u2019 shared backgrounds tend to be an immediate way couples bond and find compatibility. There is a shared experience when you both come from a divorced family or an intact one, if you both grew up in the same house or moved around a lot or if you grew up in middle or upper class homes. When someone has a similar upbringing, there tends to be a more intimate understanding, enhanced familiarity and comfort in a relationship. Comfort lends itself toward feelings of compatibility.\u201d \u2015 Anne Crowley, licensed psychologist<\/p>\n
\n\u201cPeople who play together stay together. Healthy couples are great playmates and enjoy being active together. Being active is a time to be best friends, to be outside and to be together.\u201d \u2015 Sherrie Campbell<\/p>\n
\n\u201cI can\u2019t tell you the number of couples who enter therapy saying their life is miserable because of something their partner does, and that once the partner changes, they will be happy. Healthy couples assess their own contribution first, and only point to their partner\u2019s flaws once they\u2019ve taken responsibility for their role in the conflict, minor as it may be.\u201d \u2015 Ryan Howes<\/p>\n
\n\u201cThe man or woman you marry today will not be the same person in a year, five years or ten years. The happiest couples are those committed to their own respective personal growth as well as their growth as a couple. Your relationship is a place to heal any unfinished business from childhood.\u201d \u2015 Megan Fleming<\/p>\n
\n\u201cPeople tend to be more compatible when they have things in common.<\/p>\n
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\nSource: Huffington Post<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"