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\u201cI don\u2019t know what went wrong. Our relationship was headed in a positive direction and then\u2014wham!\u2014it all fell apart.\u201d Sound familiar?<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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In the quest to find the love of their life, lots of single have something like that. However, most of the triggers that cause a budding relationship to detonate are not all that mysterious.<\/p>\n

Here are five of the most common:<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u2022 Too physical, too fast.:<\/strong>\u00a0It takes time to form the healthy emotional circuits needed to sustain a lasting relationship. Trust and the willingness to commit can\u2019t be rushed. But surging sexual energy can short out a potential partnership, if it is switched on too early.<\/p>\n

Becoming physically intimate can open up a large number of issues that put pressure on a fledgling relationship and destroy it before it has a fighting chance.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Unchecked emotional baggage.:<\/strong>\u00a0As often as we describe a new relationship as a \u201cfresh start,\u201d that usually not entirely true. All of us carry wounds we\u2019ve received in life\u2014as children, in previous relationships, or in the trenches of modern society.<\/p>\n

Making room for a new partner may cause you to trip over things you\u2019d forgotten were there. And, of course, he or she certainly has hidden hurts, too. The issue is not the wounds we carry or the scars we bear, since everyone has some of those.<\/p>\n

The issue is the willingness to examine and work through emotional difficulties. To succeed in a new love relationship, both partners must be willing to sift through the baggage and do the work required to get over a painful past.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Dishonesty and deception.:<\/strong>\u00a0Lies destroy a crucial component of any relationship: trust. Once you catch a whiff of duplicity in the air, look out! Sure, it could be an isolated incident or a half-truth that might be forgiven and forgotten, but often it\u2019s a sign of trouble.<\/p>\n

A person\u2019s need to lie is a telling clue about his character and emotional health. It may indicate serious insecurity, lack of integrity, or flimsy moral standards.<\/p>\n

And if dishonesty shows up while dating, it\u2019s likely to only get worse during marriage. Here\u2019s a sobering fact of life: If your partner is willing to lie to you once, he or she is likely to do it again.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Emotional cling wrap.:<\/strong>\u00a0Few relationships are able to survive extreme jealousy, possessiveness, over-dependence, or manipulative and controlling behaviour. Such actions and attitudes are a sure sign that one or both people lack a solid emotional foundation.<\/p>\n

Placing excessive demands on your partner\u2019s time and attention may seem like a normal expression of romantic love. In reality, it is a destructive form of domination.<\/p>\n

Freedom to be yourself without someone else constantly telling you what you should or should not do\u2014is critical if your relationship is going to thrive and flourish.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Fairy tale fantasies.<\/strong>: Unrealistic expectations serve as treacherous sinkholes on the road to lasting love. When a woman describes her man as \u201cmy perfect Prince Charming\u201d and a man thinks she is \u201ca goddess who can do no wrong,\u201d they are destined to fall back down to earth with a nasty crash.<\/p>\n

There\u2019s nothing wrong with believing the best about each other, admiring your partner\u2019s positive qualities, and nurturing dreams of a bright future together.<\/p>\n

But in a healthy dating relationship, the individuals acknowledge that nobody is perfect and there will surely be problems to address. Every relationship will require hard work and perseverance.<\/p>\n

In the early days of an exciting new romance, it is tempting to see the world through rose-colored glasses. But to make the partnership last, take them off, and be alert to warnings of trouble while it may still be avoided.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Source:\u00a0eHarmony Staff<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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