Remember that time your partner spilled wine all over your white sofa, and you thought, for sure, you were going to smother him in his sleep after an argument about it? Remember the time and energy wasted on the argument that followed, and the days of letting it stew in your brain as you replayed the accident and harsh words exchanged over and over? Well, stop it, because according to a new study, you’re killing yourself.<\/p>\n
\u00a0Here are a few other things about arguing with your partner that might be news to you, and, might I add, news worth considering the next time you and your partner have a blow out.<\/p>\n
#1. Sweating the Small Stuff Can Kill You<\/strong> As observed in the study led by researchers at the University of Copenhagen, those subjects who were constantly bickering “had about 50 to 100 percent likelihood of dying from life threatening health conditions.” Face it: Your body and mind can’t handle the stress over the small things, so you need to regroup and let it go. Now, doesn’t that feel nice?<\/p>\n #2. It’s OK to Go to Bed Angry<\/strong> #3. Men Break Easier<\/strong> #4. Arguing On an Empty Stomach is Always Bad News Bears<\/strong> #5. A<\/strong>\u00a0Single<\/strong>\u00a0Touch Can Make Everything Better <\/strong> #6. Kids ARE Part of the Problem<\/strong> #7. Arguing is Actually Healthy<\/strong> <\/p>\n Source:Magazine.foxnews.com<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Remember that time your partner spilled wine all over your white sofa, and you thought, for sure, you were going to smother him in his sleep after an argument about it? Remember the time and energy wasted on the argument that followed, and the days of letting it stew in your brain as you replayed […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":14,"featured_media":16338,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[],"tags":[936,51,937],"yoast_head":"\n
\nA new study\u00a0has found that arguing over the stupid, petty stuff can lead to premature death. Is that sofa really worth knocking 10 years off your life? Like, seriously?<\/p>\n
\nYou may feel the need to resolve the issue that was the cause of your argument before bed, but some studies say that’s not always the best route to take. According to Lisa Earle Mcleod, author and a 23-year\u00a0marriage\u00a0veteran, in letting someone sleep on the couch because of a disagreement, you’re actually doing your relationship a favor: “It allows partners to clear their thoughts, get some sleep, and make a date to resume the fight (which might seem less important in the light of day).” It’s true that things are less dramatic in the daylight. Nighttime is the right time for drama.<\/p>\n
\nWhy do more men die from heart disease and strokes at relatively young ages? Your fighting, that’s why! Studies\u00a0have found that when it comes to fighting within a relationship, it’s the men who suffer the most, especially when it comes to the stress of providing for a family. We may live in a society where gender equality is becoming the social norm \u2014 as it should \u2014 but that doesn’t change men’s inherent need to be the breadwinner and protector.<\/p>\n
\nThink about how cranky you already are when you\u2019re hungry. Now throw in some argument over misplaced pans, money woes or something as trivial as crumbs on the counter. Are you even more pissed off? Dr. Gail Gross\u00a0says\u00a0that if you argue when you’re hungry, tired or have any other physical distraction, your argument will literally go nowhere.\u00a0Who wants to go round and round in circles when what they really want is a pizza? So go eat something before you let that argument get out of control.<\/p>\n
\nYou may not want to touch your partner in the heat of a disagreement, but as Melody Brooke, a licensed marriage and family therapist suggests, holding each other through the anger is a great way to take things down several notches. Hopefully, from there, you can evolve into some great make-up\u00a0sex, but let\u2019s not jump the gun just yet.<\/p>\n
\nIt should come as no surprise that kids can really take a toll. Between the financial end of things and just the daily demands of trying to raise an awesome kid, the study led by the team in Copenhagen found that 10 percent of participants pointed at their kids as the main problem. Yikes. Granted, it’s only 10 percent, but that’s still a little disconcerting.<\/p>\n
\nOnce you subtract the petty stuff and focus on what really matters, you’re halfway to success. Keeping things all bottled up inside you is even more stressful than arguing about the dumb stuff. As Dr. Stephanie Sarkis points out, “I’ve never seen a healthy couple that doesn’t argue. They never fight, however \u2014 they argue. If a couple comes into my office and tells me they’ve never argued, something isn’t quite right.” Communication is the stuff that keeps a well-oiled relationship running smoothly, and to avoid arguing about the important issues is actually doing more damage than good. So, grab some food, send the kids to bed, and have it out.<\/p>\n