1. Don\u2019t expect your partner to know he\/she has offended you if you don\u2019t say it.<\/p>\n
Stop holding your hurt inside of you; if you do, you will resent your partner thinking he\/she doesn\u2019t care, or he\/she will find you hostile without understanding why.<\/p>\n
2. Control your temper. A hot temper will make you say or do something you will regret.<\/p>\n
3. Talk about the issue privately, away from children or the public.<\/p>\n
4. Find out all the facts, don\u2019t jump into conclusion. Listen to your partner\u2019s side of the story or the sequence of events.<\/p>\n
5. Do not attack your partner. Listen to him\/her.<\/p>\n
6. Start talking about the issue with the words \u201cYou know I love you. I don\u2019t like it when\u2026\u201d or \u201cYou know I love you. I have noticed that\u2026\u201d<\/p>\n
7. Handle the issue quickly before it grows into something that is difficult to manage. Put out the fire when it is small.<\/p>\n
8. When talking about a present issue or conflict, don\u2019t introduce a past issue or conflict that was already resolved.<\/p>\n
9. No matter how mad you are about what your partner did to you or you did to each other, ask him\/her to pray with you. As you pray, tell God how angry you feel as your partner\/spouse listens, ask for peace. Prayer humbles both of you and gives the peace and guidance to resolve the matter.<\/p>\n
10. Acknowledge your partner\u2019s pain and hurt. Let him\/her know he\/she has every right to feel angry, hurt, offended, disrespected or ignored; depending on the matter, and you are on the wrong.<\/p>\n
11. Be quick to apologize. Say sorry. Say sorry even when it was something you did right but your partner\/spouse interpreted it as wrong.<\/p>\n
12. Be quick to forgive. How serious you are about your relationship\/marriage will be seen by how quick you forgive.<\/p>\n
13.Don\u2019t try and justify your actions if you are clearly on the wrong. Sorry is not sincere if you try to decorate your mistakes. Own up to your mess.<\/p>\n
14. Don\u2019t compare your partner with other people, saying, \u201cWhy can\u2019t you be like so and so\u2026\u201d Never make the one you love feel not good enough.<\/p>\n
15. Don\u2019t discourage your partner by not recognizing his\/her effort. Be patient if your partner\/spouse is making progress on an issue.<\/p>\n
16. Don\u2019t tell your partner\u2019s shortcomings to outsiders. When he\/she feels covered by you, it makes it easier for you two to work it out.<\/p>\n
17. Don\u2019t threaten to divorce or break up in order to scare your spouse into action. The more the thoughts of separation will be entertained, the more the likelihood of separation.<\/p>\n
18. Don\u2019t tell on your spouse to your spouse\u2019s parents or your parents in a way that makes it seem you are treating your spouse like a child. Bringing the parents to the matter should be a joint decision.<\/p>\n
19. Don\u2019t cut off communication. Pick up your phone when your spouse calls you, don\u2019t run away, don\u2019t give silent treatment. This is the time when communication is needed the most.<\/p>\n
20. Don\u2019t bang doors, spit, insult, punish your spouse by failing to play your role as a way to show contempt or rebel. Marriage is not for child\u2019s play. Stop being a child and talk about the matter.<\/p>\n
21. Don\u2019t use sex as a weapon. Never play games with your sex life.<\/p>\n
22. Don\u2019t focus on the issue that you both forget the bigger picture; how far you two have come, how much you two have been through together.<\/p>\n
23.,Don\u2019t sleep in different bedrooms or move out leaving your spouse. You two should never get used to being apart.<\/p>\n
24. Agree on a way forward to avoid the matter repeating itself.<\/p>\n
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Source: Capitalnews<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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