{"id":181575,"date":"2016-01-14T06:58:20","date_gmt":"2016-01-14T06:58:20","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/4cd.e16.myftpupload.com\/?p=181575"},"modified":"2016-01-14T06:58:20","modified_gmt":"2016-01-14T06:58:20","slug":"5-rules-for-finding-love-that-lasts","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/citifmonline.com\/2016\/01\/5-rules-for-finding-love-that-lasts\/","title":{"rendered":"5 Rules for finding love that lasts"},"content":{"rendered":"

There is no one clear path or secret to finding love.<\/p>\n

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Dating\u00a0today is trickier than it’s ever been. Which dating\u00a0app is best? When do you transition from chat to meeting in-person? Who texts first, and when do phone calls come into play?<\/p>\n

To find love these days, you need a solid thought process and approach to dating … and it starts with these five basic rules:<\/p>\n

1. Set clear expectations<\/strong><\/p>\n

Whether you use\u00a0online dating\u00a0sites, a\u00a0mobile dating application, or speed dating,\u00a0first gauge your expectations. Regardless of where or how you meet potential partners, getting to know the real person\u00a0takes time. Who you think someone is from an online profile isn’t 100 percent\u00a0how he or she will act\u00a0on the first date. And that first date behavior will likely shift a great deal\u00a0by date #10.<\/p>\n

Take your time. Allow the get-to-know-you process to take its natural course.<\/p>\n

2. Clarify what you truly\u00a0want<\/strong><\/p>\n

Are you looking for something casual or something more? Generally speaking, physical attraction and infatuation often sets off a false positive of “real connection,” making you thinkhe or she is the one (when they’re likely not).<\/p>\n

Unless both people want\u00a0the same thing \u2014 casual fling or long-term relationship \u2014 disconnect will likely occur,\u00a0as so many defunct ‘friend\u00a0with\u00a0benefits’ relationships now show.\u00a0As you get to know new people, clarify where things are going and what you both want from each other at this time in your life. Do this\u00a0from an objective standpoint. Make sure you\u00a0see\u00a0people you’re dating\u00a0for who they\u00a0really are\u00a0(not who you want them to be).<\/p>\n

3. Know your worth<\/strong><\/p>\n

Stop what you’re doing and go look in the mirror. The person you see is worthy of love … right now.\u00a0Stop trying to convince yourself otherwise.\u00a0NO EXCUSES! Too fat, too thin, too out, too in, too busy, too broke, too much trouble, too many assholes, too much baggage, too little time, too much drama, too many bills, too late, too old. Just …\u00a0STOP!\u00a0Just as you are,\u00a0you are worthy. We’re all growing. We’re\u00a0all works-in-progress. Everyone is a glorious train wreck in his or her own way. But when you harp on your train wreck qualities, others you date notice those imperfections, also. If you\u00a0don’t focus on them (and emphasize your strengths instead), so will your dating partners. YOU need to\u00a0reframe how you see you\u00a0…\u00a0and that process\u00a0starts here.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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4. Don’t fear being single<\/strong><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Wanting a relationship is one thing … needing one is something else.\u00a0When you need a relationship, you usually\u00a0end up ignoring glaring\u00a0red flags, which leads to\u00a0heartache and problems later.<\/p>\n

Settling for less than what you want just to avoid being single never works.\u00a0At best, it leads to resentment and unhappiness. At worst, it leads to depression and feeling inadequate. Take your time while dating. Don’t settle.\u00a0Bottom line: If you can’t find\u00a0happiness\u00a0by yourself, you won’t feel\u00a0happy in a relationship either.<\/p>\n

5. Lighten up and have fun<\/strong><\/p>\n

Enjoy the process of dating and getting to know new people. Remember, you won’t necessarily find those you’re most compatible with in your local bar or nightclub. Your friends and colleagues can be\u00a0a great resource to find like-minded people.<\/p>\n

But if you’re looking to find quality people on your own, my advice is to take a class\u2014specifically a cooking class or a dance class. Interactive classes provide a great environment for singles. Here’s why:<\/p>\n

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  • Everyone is there to learn something new …\u00a0which means they’re bettering themselves, and that’s the type of person you want to attract.<\/li>\n
  • Everyone starts even.\u00a0No one knows more than anyone else there, so unless someone is secretly a ringer … there’s no unfair advantage, no one puts anyone down, and everyone is in a positive place.<\/li>\n
  • You experience raw relationship dynamics.\u00a0In active classes, people are often paired up. You can see how people who catch\u00a0your eye\u00a0handle\u00a0mistakes, what their ego and confidence level are, how they\u00a0deal\u00a0with learning new things, how they handle insecurity, and whether they\u00a0allow\u00a0you space to do your own thing.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

    Above all, have fun. Life and love have their serious moments, but both are supposed to add happiness to your experience. If they aren’t, you’re headed down the wrong path.<\/p>\n

    –<\/p>\n

    Source: Your Tango<\/p>\n

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