Breaking up is not easy. When you go through a break-up, it is easy to feel sad, lost and even heartbroken. Your friends try to pick you up, as do your family. But deep inside, you know that you\u2019re not really fine. And no matter how many times you go through the process, it doesn\u2019t get any easier. The sense of loss is always sharp.<\/p>\n
One of the worst things about breaking up is the advice that well-meaning people try to give you. They throw cliches in your direction, tell you that he so wasn\u2019t worth it, and that there are plenty more fish in the sea. Rather than make you feel better, it just makes you feel a little frustrated. And because everyone deals with a breakup in different ways, let\u2019s take a look at 10 breakup myths that are actually untrue.<\/p>\n
Because It Wasn\u2019t \u201cOfficial\u201d You Can\u2019t Be That Sad<\/b><\/p>\n
Okay, so you and your boyfriend were never \u201cofficial.\u201d You didn\u2019t announce your relationship on Facebook or to work colleagues, and consequently it was just a casual thing. Therefore, you obviously didn\u2019t care all that much about him in the first place and are thus not going to miss him!<\/p>\n
Er, wrong. You might not have been officially a pair, but this doesn\u2019t mean that you didn\u2019t have a lot of feelings for him. There may have been many reasons for you two not coming out in the open, and it may well be that it was him that was telling you to keep quiet about it all. The truth was, you probably wanted to tell the whole world.<\/p>\n
To Get Over Someone, You Need To Date Someone Else<\/b><\/p>\n
They call this the rebound effect: when you\u2019re so troubled at having lost someone, that you immediately run to the arms of another just to feel wanted again. Rather than spend your nights crying into your pillow, lying next to\u00a0someone is still better than nothing.<\/p>\n
The truth is that it really isn\u2019t. Rebound relationships never last more than a week or two, and they only keep your personal agony at bay for a little longer. You will still face a flood of emotion eventually, and you will in fact feel a lot worse, because sandwiched between your former lover and your emotions isanother guy!<\/p>\n
You Can Never Get Back With Your Ex<\/b><\/p>\n
Your friends tell you this all the time. According to them, it\u2019s a rule written in stone.<\/p>\n
\u201cI really want to give it another go,\u201d you say.<\/p>\n
\u201cNo. No. You are not going there. I\u2019ve got a few guys lined up instead for you. Here, meet Colin. He\u2019s 45, slightly balding (though don\u2019t mention it because he gets shy), and is looking for work.\u201d<\/p>\n
Perhaps it\u2019s due to a bad experience they had personally, but your friends will be desperate to convince you that exes do not go well together. The truth, though, is that you can definitely get back with your ex. Things might not have worked out so well the first time around, but they can definitely work out the second time. It happens.<\/p>\n
You Can Still Be Friends<\/b><\/p>\n
Okay, sometimes you can still be friends. And if you\u2019ve just been broken up with for the first ever time, you\u2019ll definitely believe that the two of you will remain friends forever. You might not be able to kiss him, but at least you can still call him up whenever you want and hang out, right?<\/p>\n
It seems like a nice idea, but it very rarely works out like this. Exes don\u2019t tend to remain in touch with one another. Eventually, they fade out of each other\u2019s lives so completely that there will come a time when you don\u2019t even have his number anymore.<\/p>\n
You Need Closure<\/b><\/p>\n
What is it with people needing closure after a relationship? It\u2019s as though they can\u2019t move on with their life until they \u201cget closure.\u201d Their appetite is awry, they\u2019ve taken a few days off work, and they refuse to date anyone else until close has been had.<\/p>\n
You don\u2019t need closure. This is a myth. Sometimes, a sense of closure might help, but certainly not always. Rather than confront your ex and find out what really went wrong, you should just let sleeping dog\u2019s lie and move on with your life.<\/p>\n
You Shouldn\u2019t Delete Him From Facebook<\/b><\/p>\n
Your friends say to you that if you delete him from Facebook, you will look bitter and sore. You will look as though you\u2019re trying to get revenge and, anyway, you\u2019ll be adding him again in six months time when you realise that you miss all his silly statuses and funny selfies.<\/p>\n
No, this is a lie. You\u2019re perfectly within your rights to delete him from your Facebook if you know that seeing his status updates and photographs will only make you feel down in the dumps. Moreover, he probably won\u2019t even notice you\u2019ve deleted him until after a week or two, while nobody is going to be writing \u201cBITTER!!\u201d on your wall, are they?<\/p>\n
You Must Show The World That You\u2019re Over Him<\/b><\/p>\n
How many times have you seen girls and guys take to Facebook after a breakup to show the world that they\u2019re better off without their ex? They\u2019ll make a gazillion status updates about how great their life is (despite updating their status once a year previously), and post lots of pics of that time they went to a party last night, the night before and the night before that. Life is AWESOME!<\/p>\n
The truth is that life isn\u2019t awesome, and after a week you\u2019ll burn out before breaking down into a tear-stained ball on the sofa. You\u2019ve got nothing to prove, and you certainly don\u2019t need to flaunt your \u201cnew great life\u201d on social media. Just deal with your emotions privately and let yourself heal naturally.<\/p>\n
You Broke Up With Him, So You Should Get Over It Quicker<\/b><\/p>\n
Just because you broke up with him, it does not mean that you should get over it instantly. Sometimes, we end a relationship because we know that it just isn\u2019t working or because we both have different plans for the future. For example, you might break up with a guy because you want children and he doesn\u2019t. You take control and end things because someone has to. But you still suffer.<\/p>\n
Never Believe The Line \u201cIt\u2019s Not You; It\u2019s Me.\u201d<\/b><\/p>\n
At some point, we\u2019ve all been treated to the classic \u201cIt\u2019s not you, it\u2019s me,\u201d breakup line. And because we\u2019ve heard it so many times in the movies, we can\u2019t help but smirk whenever the other person says it.<\/p>\n
Before breaking down because we know that it really is us.<\/p>\n
The truth, though, is that it really is them, and they\u2019re admitting it.<\/p>\n
You Shouldn\u2019t Dwell On It<\/b><\/p>\n
Um, actually you should totally dwell on it. Thinking about your relationship and what went wrong can actually speed up the healing process, giving you a chance to remember who you were when you were single previously.<\/p>\n
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