We have mostly all had a bad relationship at one time or another. You know, the relationship where nothing went right and you find yourself wondering how in the world\u00a0you managed to hook up with that person in the first place.<\/p>\n
The problem with failed relationships is that they can have a damaging effect on us. Failure in all aspects of our lives is something we\u2019re conditioned to see as a negative thing. If we fail at love, we consider giving up. We\u2019re lost in the land of the no-hoper\u2019s, stuck on the shelf for eternity!<\/p>\n
But failure is always a chance to learn from our mistakes. You should look at a bad relationship and identify what made it such a bad relationship; what can you learn from it, so you can avoid making the same mistake next time? Let\u2019s take a look at 10 valuable lessons that will help you grow.<\/p>\n
Learn To Communicate<\/b><\/p>\n
One of the chief failings of a bad relationship is poor communication between two people. Nobody is a mind reader, yet for some reason we often assume that our partner has the ability to read our minds.<\/p>\n
To make a relationship work, you need to communicate with one another. You need to speak out and express your feelings, as opposed to keeping everything bottled up inside. A relationship simply won\u2019t grow if you hide what is on your mind.<\/p>\n
Patience<\/b><\/p>\n
I remember when I was a teenager; a friend (of the opposite sex) who I fancied said to me that he believes there are different people who are right for us at different times of our lives. This suggested to me that he didn\u2019t believe in long, lasting relationships. People come and people go. It sounded like a rather sad way to look at life at the time.<\/p>\n
But now I know that you do need patience when it comes to relationships. People really do come and go; bad relationships happen, and so do good ones. But even the good relationships don\u2019t always last. You need to learn to have patience and wait for the right one. It could come along in two years, ten years or even twenty years time. So be it.<\/p>\n
Learn To Empathise<\/b><\/p>\n
If you\u2019ve never been in a relationship before, it can be very difficult to empathise with someone. The chances are that you\u2019ve never had someone in your life who you love so much that you\u2019d do anything to look after them.<\/p>\n
In a bad relationship, empathy is often missing. You should care for the other persons happiness, but you don\u2019t. Their happiness should make you happy, but it doesn\u2019t.<\/p>\n
Therefore, a bad relationship can teach you that for any relationship to survive, you both need to be empathetic people who care deeply for the welfare of the other person.<\/p>\n
It\u2019s Sometimes Actually Better To Be Alone<\/b><\/p>\n
If you\u2019re in a crushing relationship where your partner doesn\u2019t understand you, you might well be wondering why in the world\u00a0you are bothering.<\/p>\n
Are you with them just because you don\u2019t want to be alone? But isn\u2019t being alone better than being in a relationship that just makes you feel bad about yourself?<\/p>\n
If nothing else, a failed relationship has to teach you that being in a relationship doesn\u2019t complete you. It doesn\u2019t define who you are. You define who you are, whether you\u2019re alone or with someone else. Have the freedom to simply be and to make your own decisions.<\/p>\n
It Doesn\u2019t Matter What Other People Think<\/b><\/p>\n
Perhaps your friends all had an opinion on your relationship. It happens. Everyone wants a piece of the action, and they all want to offer their running commentary.<\/p>\n
The reality, though, is that it doesn\u2019t matter what other people think. You are your own person and you have the right to make your own choices in life, right or wrong. Yes, you will make a few poor choices (we all will), but it\u2019s how you react to these choices that is important.<\/p>\n
Learn To Compromise<\/b><\/p>\n
How many times did you argue in your bad relationship? And how many times did you reach a compromise?<\/p>\n
I\u2019m guessing probably not too many times. You probably fought your corner to the death, and they probably fought their corner to the death. Neither of you wanted to back down and admit you were at fault. You both wanted to win.<\/p>\n
This is very bad for a relationship. Instead, you need to listen to one another and find a compromise that suits both parties. It\u2019s the only way to end an argument fairly.<\/p>\n
You\u2019ve No Time For Regret<\/b><\/p>\n
The thing about a bad relationship is that it\u2019s a past relationship. It\u2019s over. Like many things in your life, it\u2019s gone forever.<\/p>\n
Dwelling on past mistakes, such as a wrong career move, a missed opportunity, or an awful relationship, just makes you feel down in the dumps. And you\u2019ve no time to feel like this; it\u2019s unproductive and won\u2019t get you anywhere.<\/p>\n
Instead, it\u2019s time to lift your head up high, live without regrets, and move on to better things.<\/p>\n
You Can\u2019t Change People\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n
You should have learned by now that you simply cannot change people. If you were unsure about this person before you got with them, you probably thought you could change them.<\/p>\n
That\u2019s okay, we\u2019ve all been there. We\u2019ve all found a catch who we thought were a bit rough around the edges. But we assumed we could smarten them up.<\/p>\n
Wrong.<\/p>\n
As long as you know how\u00a0to listen to the warning signs and red flags, it\u2019s totally cool. Just look for the qualities you know you love.<\/p>\n
You Can Still Trust People<\/strong><\/p>\n After a bad relationship, a lot of people emerge from it and say that they can\u2019t trust people anymore. This is really such a shame because there are a lot ofamazing people out there. There really are.<\/p>\n You should still trust people. Reconnect with the friends and the family you love; they will remind you that people can be awesome most of the time. As mentioned above, always look for the qualities you know you love in a person.<\/p>\n You Become Stronger<\/b><\/p>\n Heartbreak is a truly awful thing, but one thing it does is make us stronger people.<\/p>\n When we\u2019ve had our heart ripped out by the person we thought was right for us, it no doubt leaves us weak and floored for some time. But eventually our character pulls us through; we lift ourselves up and we emerge stronger and more resilient. Our mental strength grows and future problems become small fry.<\/p>\n Stay happy!<\/p>\n –<\/p>\n Credit: Beauty and Tips<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" We have mostly all had a bad relationship at one time or another. You know, the relationship where nothing went right and you find yourself wondering how in the world\u00a0you managed to hook up with that person in the first place. The problem with failed relationships is that they can have a damaging effect on […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":14,"featured_media":121007,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[],"tags":[51],"yoast_head":"\n