name<\/strong> is, the more likely his marriage proposal would be accepted. \u2018Weightier\u2019 names are the quiet disqualifying factor for most men in Ghana now.<\/p>\nA research conducted by the Weekend Finder indicates that aside a man\u2019s wealth, physique and character; surnames have now become a very important and decisive factor women consider in accepting or rejecting marriage proposals.<\/p>\n
If you have ever wondered why the ladies are not interested \u00a0\u00a0in settling down with you, even when you have a feeling they are attracted to you, check your surname.<\/p>\n
One of the big debates in feminist circles across the world is whether it is really any better for women to keep their maiden names after marriage, but in Ghana, assuming your husband\u2019s name is an old known tradition.<\/p>\n
A research conducted revealed that one of the most important considerations for many young ladies in Ghana in accepting a marriage proposal is by first conducting what has been termed as the \u2018name match\u2019<\/strong> ; they pair their suitor\u2019s name with their first name to assess how attractive they would sound when they assume them as a \u2018Mrs.\u2019<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\nMost of the women respondents placed premium on what name they will inherit after marriage as an important criteria for accepting a marriage proposal or not.<\/p>\n
Responses<\/strong><\/p>\nOne lady giggled and responded bluntly, \u201cIt would be unfair for any woman to trade a very beautiful name for some mouthful name.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u2018Weightier names\u2019 irrespective of the beautiful meaning, are the most disadvantaged in this new criterion.<\/p>\n
30 year old Jane said<\/em><\/strong> she would prefer to keep her identity by keeping her last name even after marriage.<\/p>\n\u201cNo, I can\u2019t imagine myself bearing just any name at all after marriage. I won\u2019t date a man with a funny name in the first place but I think I will keep my name.\u201d<\/p>\n
33 year old Ruth said<\/em><\/strong> although ordinarily a man\u2019s name should not matter much in marriage, \u201csome names are someway and I would love to keep my maiden name after marriage in that instance.\u201d<\/p>\nAnne 25, said<\/em><\/strong> she refused to date a man once just because of his name.<\/p>\n\u201cHe was a nice guy, but when he mentioned his surname, I said, \u2018Huh?\u2019 seriously, I didn\u2019t see myself bearing that name. In fact at first, I thought I could just call him by his \u2018dayborn\u2019 name but I realized all his friends called him by his surname, and that ended it,\u201d<\/p>\n
Another narrated that while they were at the university, a roommate was constantly ridiculed by her peers because of the surname of her fianc\u00e9e. They would call her Mrs. (plus the fianc\u00e9e\u2019s name) – a situation which ended the relationship.<\/p>\n
Pat, 35, married, said<\/em><\/strong> \u201ctrue love knows no mouthful surnames, so I won\u2019t reject the proposal on that basis.\u201d<\/p>\nAnother lady also narrated how her elder sister nearly missed out on a marriage<\/em><\/strong> because of the gentleman\u2019s name.<\/p>\nShe said, \u201cMy sister kept complaining of how uncommon the guy\u2019s surname was, but my mum told her to just consider the good sides of the gentleman. My sister finally saw reason and agreed to marry the guy. Now, they have a very nice marriage; her husband treats her like a queen.\u201d<\/p>\n
Victim<\/strong><\/p>\nA victim of this new criterion who posted his frustrations online wrote:<\/p>\n
\n\u201cWe are both university graduates and have been dating for a year now. She told me that she broke up with her ex because she doesn\u2019t like his surname. My problem is that this lady wants me to change my surname before we marry. I\u2019m not ready to do that so she is not happy. Should surnames matter in a relationship and is it advisable to change in the name of love?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\nA recent Google survey conducted by the New York Times however, indicated that the incidence of women keeping their names after marriages is on the rise, with nearly 20% of women deciding to keep their maiden names after getting married and 10% opting for hyphenated names.<\/p>\n
But while some believe taking your husband\u2019s last name is now a sexist and retro tradition, that doesn\u2019t mean women have stopped doing it. According to a 2013 study of 14 million married women on Facebook, 20 to 79 years of age, 65 % of women in their 20s and 30s changed their name after they got married.<\/p>\n
Again, according to a 2009 longitudinal study in Social Behaviuor and Personality, more women have been opting to keep their last names after getting married, a trend that started in the 1990s.<\/p>\n
–<\/p>\n
Source : The Finder<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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