{"id":126952,"date":"2015-06-22T07:09:14","date_gmt":"2015-06-22T07:09:14","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/4cd.e16.myftpupload.com\/?p=126952"},"modified":"2015-06-21T19:16:15","modified_gmt":"2015-06-21T19:16:15","slug":"relax-this-bump-in-your-relationship-is-100-completely-normal","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/citifmonline.com\/2015\/06\/relax-this-bump-in-your-relationship-is-100-completely-normal\/","title":{"rendered":"Relax – This bump in your relationship is 100% completely NORMAL"},"content":{"rendered":"
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He was so wonderful at the beginning, but now the magic is slipping away. Read on to discover why.<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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“Everything was so great for the first few months, and then everything seemed to change.”<\/p>\n

As therapists, we can’t count the number of times we’ve heard something like this. If you’re feeling this now in your relationships, you’re certainly not alone.<\/p>\n

Maybe you feel like your partner’s personality has changed, or that they avoided\u00a0being upfront about things when you were getting to know each other.<\/p>\n

You might feel as though you misjudged your relationship, and you’re wondering if you can even trust yourself. You feel disillusioned, frustrated, and, possibly, quite angry.<\/p>\n

Did you make a mistake and choose the wrong partner?\u00a0What do you do now?\u00a0 And, can you ever regain the magic you shared at the beginning?<\/p>\n

Why Everything Feels So Different Now<\/strong><\/p>\n

Before you throw in the towel on your relationship, you need to become aware of why this common phenomenon happens.<\/p>\n

What if we told you that your partner is annoying you, disappointing you, or frustrating you precisely because of the love you’re experiencing together? And that you’re likely creating the same dynamic in your partner?<\/p>\n

We all come into relationships with pain from our past, may it be from our childhoods, and\/or from previous relationships. While, we may very much want to find a genuine loving relationship that lasts, at the same time we’re also afraid that we’ll get hurt\u00a0again.<\/p>\n

So, the closeness that you experienced with your partner in the early stages\u00a0\u2014\u00a0when everything felt so\u00a0wonderful\u00a0\u2014\u00a0actually triggered the negative feelings you’re having now<\/em>.<\/p>\n

It’s almost as if your mind is thinking, “Hold on now, this is getting really close, and that means I have the potential to really getting hurt.”<\/p>\n

Your Mind Is Playing Tricks On You<\/strong><\/p>\n

When we feel as though we might get hurt\u00a0\u2014\u00a0in this case emotionally by your partner\u00a0\u2014\u00a0your subconscious mind cooks up all sorts of ways to protect you from possible pain.<\/p>\n

Your subconscious\u00a0knows\u00a0that the closer you and your partner become, the greater the pain will be if you lose your partner. So your mind starts looking for ways to keep your partner at bay:<\/p>\n

\u2022 You become hyper vigilant about the way he or she does the dishes, drives a car, or makes decisions.
\n\u2022 You’re annoyed at little things he or she does; behaviors you might have previously thought of as endearing quirks, now drive you crazy.
\n\u2022 You feel smothered when your partner wants to spend more time with you.
\n\u2022 You feel neglected because he or she wants to spend time with friends.<\/p>\n

So you start nitpicking and bickering, fighting about the same things over and over.\u00a0You’re not realizing that your fear of getting too close is causing you to look for problems in the other person.<\/p>\n

Falling In Love Again\u00a0<\/strong>\u2014\u00a0Deeper<\/strong><\/p>\n

A lot of people jump ship at this point\u00a0\u2014\u00a0only to repeat the pattern in their next relationship.\u00a0 And their unresolved issues will continue to bubble up to the surface, preventing them from ever achieving\u00a0a truly intimate, loving relationship.<\/p>\n

But now you know. You know<\/em> that this rocky period is actually a normal passage in a relationship\u00a0\u2014\u00a0one in which both of you are battling fears of getting too close.<\/p>\n

If you know how to navigate this stage successfully, you can enjoy a relationship of limitlesslove and fulfillment. So let us make it plain and clear:<\/p>\n

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  • If you’ve ever felt disillusioned by your partner<\/em>, there’s a hidden cause.<\/li>\n
  • If you and your partner are arguing over the same old issue<\/em>, there’s a hidden cause.<\/li>\n
  • If you sometimes feel suffocated by your partner<\/em>, there’s a hidden cause.<\/li>\n
  • If you often feel like you’re not getting enough attention<\/em>\u00a0from your partner, there’s a hidden cause.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

    If you don’t know these hidden causes, you will keep trying to treat the symptoms (through fighting with your partner, withdrawing in a relationship, or leaving it altogether).<\/p>\n

    But once you’ve uncovered your fears, it’s like you’ve opened the door to a whole new world of love and harmony you never knew was possible for you.<\/p>\n

    If you’re in a relationship, the power struggles will end, and a free flow of connection begins. Contrary,\u00a0if you’re single, you’ll finally be able to attract a partner will truly be intimate with\u00a0\u2014\u00a0for the long haul.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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    Source: Yourtango.com<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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