There is nothing wrong with flirting or being a \u201ctease\u201d if you\u2019re single and on the prowl. But if you\u2019re taken, and you or your partner\u2019s “friendliness” can easily pass for flirtation, the relationship could be heading for disaster.<\/p>\n
For example, having your boyfriend smile and tell a waitress, \u201cThanks for the service,” is not the same as having him wink and tell her, \u201cI bet you make a lot<\/em> of tips.\u201d<\/p>\n In monogamous relationships, there’s a fine line between what’s innocent and what\u2019s inappropriate. Smiling, saying something nice and complimenting another person are typically harmless, but touching, arranging after-hours get-togethers and making sexually suggestive comments is a big step over that line.<\/p>\n Remember that while rules are different for every couple, your significant other should come first, says psychotherapist and \u201cDeeper Dating\u201d author Ken Page. \u201cIf you or your partner is bothered by what seems like a flirtatious demeanor, it\u2019s important to clarify what is and isn\u2019t acceptable.\u201d<\/p>\n But be warned: Being nice and polite could easily be misconstrued as flirting. Sure, there are those who are naturally so engaging and attractive in the way they act that they can charm just about anyone, but to some degree, we know in our gut when we\u2019re really<\/em> flirting, despite how well we might mask it.<\/p>\n \u201cYou should not allow yourself to be tempted, or for people to even think they have a chance with you if you\u2019re off the market,\u201d says professional matchmaker and Cupidscronies.com founder April Davis. \u201cIf the person who is the flirt isn\u2019t respecting their partner\u2019s concerns, this isn\u2019t a good person to be in a relationship with.\u201d<\/p>\n Furthermore, people who flirt incessantly are often looking to get something in return, be it validation, attention or more. Or, they could just be bored and looking to be entertained.<\/p>\n Let’s say, however, that you find yourself<\/em> in the grips of an extreme flirter you can\u2019t seem to quell, despite not being available to date. According to Davis, there are a few things you can do to avoid leading them on any further. \u201cConfronting doesn\u2019t always work,” says Davis. “Be extra stoic around that person the next time, or go out of your way to bring up your significant other and how much you love him or her.”<\/p>\n In other words, be very mindful of your own actions, as relationships need to be protected. Simply reciprocating the flirting for the sake of being nice can make others (and especially your partner) think you\u2019re really interested in that person. (However, if you think you really may be interested and attracted to this other person, it’s time to reevaluate your current relationship.)<\/p>\n Flirting, whether being done by you or your partner, brings up a bevy of insecurities. And when it does, don’t simply start blaming or accusing your partner of being too nice; talk about how their genuine charm and unassuming flirting makes YOU feel uncomfortable.<\/p>\n As the experts point out, trust is everything \u2014 and you can’t trust someone if their flirting habits make you uncomfortable. If there’s distrust with your partner\u2019s behaviors, the concerns must be addressed. And on the flip side, flirting for the sake of being nice isn\u2019t worth losing a great lover.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n Source:\u00a0magazine.foxnews.com<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" There is nothing wrong with flirting or being a \u201ctease\u201d if you\u2019re single and on the prowl. But if you\u2019re taken, and you or your partner\u2019s “friendliness” can easily pass for flirtation, the relationship could be heading for disaster. For example, having your boyfriend smile and tell a waitress, \u201cThanks for the service,” is not […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":115160,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[],"tags":[38,51],"yoast_head":"\n