{"id":114986,"date":"2015-05-10T06:00:34","date_gmt":"2015-05-10T06:00:34","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/4cd.e16.myftpupload.com\/?p=114986"},"modified":"2015-05-10T06:30:35","modified_gmt":"2015-05-10T06:30:35","slug":"36-life-lessons-for-success","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/citifmonline.com\/2015\/05\/36-life-lessons-for-success\/","title":{"rendered":"36 life lessons for success"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>1. Never put your family, friends, or significant other low on your priority list. Prefer a handful of truly close friends to a hundred acquaintances. Don\u2019t lose touch with old friends. Occasionally stay up until the sun rises talking to people. Have parties.<\/p>\n<aside class=\"right-rail-module rr-mag\" data-name=\"rr-mag\">\n<div class=\"read-more-inline magazine has-cover\">2. Life is not a dress rehearsal\u2014this is probably it. Make it count. Time is extremely limited and goes by fast. Do what makes you happy and fulfilled\u2014few people get remembered hundreds of years after they die anyway. Don\u2019t do stuff that doesn\u2019t make you happy (this happens most often when other people want you to do something). Don\u2019t spend time trying to maintain relationships with people you don\u2019t like, and cut negative people out of your life. Negativity is really bad. Don\u2019t let yourself make excuses for not doing the things you want to do.<\/div>\n<\/aside>\n<p>3. How to succeed: pick the right thing to do (this is critical and usually ignored), focus, believe in yourself (especially when others tell you it\u2019s not going to work), develop personal connections with people that will help you, learn to identify talented people, and work hard. It\u2019s hard to identify what to work on because original thought is hard.<\/p>\n<p>4. On work: it\u2019s difficult to do a great job on work you don\u2019t care about. And it\u2019s hard to be totally happy\/fulfilled in life if you don\u2019t like what you do for your work. Work very hard\u2014a surprising number of people will be offended that you choose to work hard\u2014but not so hard that the rest of your life passes you by. Aim to be the best in the world at whatever you do professionally. Even if you miss, you\u2019ll probably end up in a pretty good place. Figure out your own productivity system\u2014don\u2019t waste time being unorganized, working at suboptimal times, etc. Don\u2019t be afraid to take some career risks, especially early on. Most people pick their career fairly randomly\u2014really think hard about what you like, what fields are going to be successful, and try to talk to people in those fields.<\/p>\n<p>5. On money: Whether or not money can buy happiness, it can buy freedom, and that\u2019s a big deal. Also, lack of money is very stressful. In almost all ways, having enough money so that you don\u2019t stress about paying rent does more to change your wellbeing than having enough money to buy your own jet. Making money is often more fun than spending it, though I personally have never regretted money I\u2019ve spent on friends, new experiences, saving time, travel, and causes I believe in.<\/p>\n<p>6. Talk to people more. Read more long content and less tweets. Watch less TV. Spend less time on the Internet.<\/p>\n<p>7. Don\u2019t waste time. Most people waste most of their time, especially in business.<\/p>\n<p>8. Don\u2019t let yourself get pushed around. As Paul Graham once said to me, \u201cPeople can become formidable, but it\u2019s hard to predict who\u201d. (There is a big difference between confident and arrogant. Aim for the former, obviously.<\/p>\n<p>9. Have clear goals for yourself every day, every year, and every decade.<\/p>\n<p>10. However, as valuable as planning is, if a great opportunity comes along you should take it. Don\u2019t be afraid to do something slightly reckless. One of the benefits of working hard is that good opportunities will come along, but it\u2019s still up to you to jump on them when they do.<\/p>\n<div id=\"content-ad-3841612\" class=\"content-ad\">11. Go out of your way to be around smart, interesting, ambitious people. Work for them and hire them (in fact, one of the most satisfying parts of work is forging deep relationships with really good people). Try to spend time with people who are either among the best in the world at what they do or extremely promising but totally unknown. It really is true that you become an average of the people you spend the most time with.<\/div>\n<p>12. Minimize your own cognitive load from distracting things that don\u2019t really matter. It\u2019s hard to overstate how important this is, and how bad most people are at it. Get rid of distractions in your life. Develop very strong ways to avoid letting crap you don\u2019t like doing pile up and take your mental cycles, especially in your work life.<\/p>\n<p>13. Keep your personal burn rate low. This alone will give you a lot of opportunities in life.<\/p>\n<p>14. Summers are the best.<\/p>\n<p>15. Don\u2019t worry so much. Things in life are rarely as risky as they seem. Most people are too risk-averse, and so most advice is biased too much towards conservative paths.<\/p>\n<p>16. Ask for what you want.<\/p>\n<p>17. If you think you\u2019re going to regret not doing something, you should probably do it. Regret is the worst, and most people regret far more things they didn\u2019t do than things they did do. When in doubt, kiss the boy\/girl.<\/p>\n<p>18. Exercise. Eat well. Sleep. Get out into nature with some regularity.<\/p>\n<p>19. Go out of your way to help people. Few things in life are as satisfying. Be nice to strangers. Be nice even when it doesn\u2019t matter.<\/p>\n<p>20. Youth is a really great thing. Don\u2019t waste it. In fact, in your 20s, I think it\u2019s okay to take a \u201cGive me financial discipline, but not just yet\u201d attitude. All the money in the world will never get back time that passed you by.<\/p>\n<p>21. Tell your parents you love them more often. Go home and visit as often as you can.<\/p>\n<p>22. This too shall pass.<\/p>\n<p>23. Learn voraciously.<\/p>\n<p>24. Do new things often. This seems to be really important. Not only does doing new things seem to slow down the perception of time, increase happiness, and keep life interesting, but it seems to prevent people from calcifying in the ways that they think. Aim to do something big, new, and risky every year in your personal and professional life.<\/p>\n<p>25. Remember how intensely you loved your boyfriend\/girlfriend when you were a teenager? Love him\/her that intensely now. Remember how excited and happy you got about stuff as a kid? Get that excited and happy now.<\/p>\n<p>26. Don\u2019t screw people and don\u2019t burn bridges. Pick your battles carefully.<\/p>\n<p>27. Forgive people.<\/p>\n<p>28. Don\u2019t chase status. Status without substance doesn\u2019t work for long and is unfulfilling.<\/p>\n<p>29. Most things are okay in moderation. Almost nothing is okay in extreme amounts.<\/p>\n<p>30. Existential angst is part of life. It is particularly noticeable around major life events or just after major career milestones. It seems to particularly affect smart, ambitious people. I think one of the reasons some people work so hard is so they don\u2019t have to spend too much time thinking about this. Nothing is wrong with you for feeling this way; you are not alone.<\/p>\n<p>31. Be grateful and keep problems in perspective. Don\u2019t complain too much. Don\u2019t hate other people\u2019s success (but remember that some people will hate your success, and you have to learn to ignore it).<\/p>\n<p>32. Be a doer, not a talker.<\/p>\n<p>33. Given enough time, it is possible to adjust to almost anything, good or bad. Humans are remarkable at this.<\/p>\n<p>34. Think for a few seconds before you act. Think for a few minutes if you\u2019re angry.<\/p>\n<p>35. Don\u2019t judge other people too quickly. You never know their whole story and why they did or didn\u2019t do something. Be empathetic.<\/p>\n<p>36. The days are long but the decades are short.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Source: Time.com<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>1. Never put your family, friends, or significant other low on your priority list. Prefer a handful of truly close friends to a hundred acquaintances. Don\u2019t lose touch with old friends. Occasionally stay up until the sun rises talking to people. Have parties. 2. 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