Prince Charming might have flaws, but he doesn’t have bad habits that can ruin a relationship. While it’s impossible to find the absolute perfect man (we’ve looked, he doesn’t exist) that doesn’t mean you should drop your standards and marry a guy who has annoyingly bad habits. For a man to be marriage material, he has to be completely the right man for you. Sure, he will still have flaws (don’t we all?), but flaws are different from habits. Habits are things we’ve learned to do over the years; they’re ingrained in our behaviour and we do them automatically. Not only can they annoy you, but it’s also practically impossible to get a man to change his ways. If a guy has some of the following 10 habits? He isn’t marriage material.

He’s Full Of Excuses

He can’t just give you a straight answer for why he let you down, and instead resorts to his Big Book Of Boyfriend Excuses. Each time he makes an excuse, he’s displaying his immaturity to you. Moreover, there is a good chance he’s lying. Excuses are the resort of children – and you want to marry a man, not a child.

He’s Narrow Minded

Guys who are narrow minded really frustrate us, don’t they? We just wish they would be more open to doing something other than watching sports all weekend, and we wish they would stop making snap, judgemental comments about people. Some guys can seem to be the most open-minded people about certain topics, but become closed off when it comes to other topics. And it’s really annoying because it can contaminate your relationship. For example, imagine you want to hang out with a guy friend you haven’t seen for a while. You know what this guy is all about, and you know what his “intentions” are – to hang out and catch up! Meanwhile, your partner mistrusts him, tells you all guys just want sex from you and won’t let you see him. If your man is still stuck in the 19th century with his close-minded views, he’s hardly worth marrying.

He Shouts

Any guy who has a habit of exploding with anger is a no-go as far as Beauty and Tips is concerned. If you’ve met a man who shouts, screams and verbally abuses people, stay well away from him.

He Breaks Promises

If your man casually breaks promises with you all the time, it isn’t a good sign. What this should tell you is that this is a bad habit he’s picked up down the years and is unlikely to change anytime soon. Broken promises are frustrating. If he breaks a promise early on in the relationship, it’s not a huge deal. But if he keeps doing it, you need to take this as the huge red flag that it is. In simple English, he’s disrespecting you and the relationship, and taking you for a fool. It’s a sign that he doesn’t care enough about you (or anyone for that matter) and probably won’t be changing in the foreseeable future. After all, he doesn’t seem to see it as a problem. But as the movies teach us, those who break their promises suck (it’s usually dad’s breaking their promises to their kids, and yes, they suck. And can you imagine what would happen if you guys had kids and he broke his promises to them, too?!)

He Lies

Breaking a promise is one thing, but if he brazenly lies to your face and you know it’s a clear lie, it’s a major warning sign that this is a guy you can’t trust. Lying is a bad habit that’s easy to get into and hard to get out of. If you’ve caught your man lying red-handed on more than one occasion, you’ll need to consider the very real possibility that he isn’t worth marrying.

He Doesn’t Put You First

If a man doesn’t put you first, you have to ask yourself the question – when will he put me first? The answer is probably never. Guys who don’t prioritise their women are instead in the habit of prioritising their buddies, their work or their hobbies. Love comes last, and if it’s always been this way in your relationship, there is a good chance that it won’t change.

He’s Possessive

It’s okay for someone to be a tad possessive at first. It’s even kinda cute. But you two have been together a while and he’s still being extra clingy, it’s a habit he’s probably not going to break. In fact, it probably means he’s a control freak. And that kind of man isn’t worth walking down the altar with.

He Likes To Win Arguments

If he gets a smug sense of satisfaction whenever he wins an argument between you guys and literally hates the fact that even once he could be wrong, it’s a bad habit that you should take as a red flag. No one in a relationship should go into an argument wanting to win. Instead, the goal should be a resolution that suits both parties. If your partner always has to be right? He isn’t worth your time.

He Won’t Take Responsibility

When we refuse to acknowledge our mistakes and take for responsibility for something that was OUR fault, we’re behaving like children. Worse still, we’re passing the blame onto someone else. Even worse, we’re not giving ourselves the chance to learn from our mistakes. If this sounds a lot like your man, he isn’t marriage material at this point.

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Whatever the case, it’s wise to pause and ask if you’re doing all you can to attract the best.

To be sure you’re the kind of person other people can’t wait to go out with and keep going out with— here are some things to think about…

• Act “as if …”: If you knew you would meet someone amazing this week, you would probably dress a little nicer and smile more. So do it, because it just might happen.

• Make yourself feel attractive.: Read a self-improvement book, buy a new outfit, get out and exercise, update your look—when you feel attractive, others will find you more attractive, too.

• Initiate a growth spurt.: You will be far more captivating to the opposite sex by continually growing, developing, and moving your life toward a big goal.

• Check your must-have and can’t-stand lists.: Those lists you made to evaluate potential partners are a good place to evaluate your own attractiveness.

• Love yourself—so you can receive love from someone else.: Don’t roll your eyes, this is so true! Having a healthy self-regard, and feeling comfortable in your own skin, sends a powerful message that you are ready to give and receive love.

• Live with purpose.:  Everyone wants to be around a person who loves life and lives it fully. Discover what inspires and energises you, and go for it.

• Project confidence.:  Since self-confidence is contagious, you’ll boost your odds of finding a partner if you become convinced deep down that you have a lot to offer.

• Detox your emotional life.:  Toxic emotions — bitterness, regrets, shame — have a way of leaking out into actions and attitudes. Do whatever you can to work through damaging feelings.

• Tell it like it is.: Everyone appreciates a straight shooter, with no hidden agendas or sales pitches.

• Let your enthusiasm pour out.: Which would you choose—a date who has low energy and seems indifferent, or someone who is upbeat and optimistic? So would your potential dates.

• Skip the snarky banter.: Modern humour leans heavily on sarcasm and cynicism, which may work for stand-up comics and late-night TV hosts, but not so much for potential lovers.

• Maximise your God-given assets.: Look for ways to develop and utilise your talents.

• Know where you’re going.: If you don’t have a solid direction for your life, work hard to develop one.

• Show genuine interest.: Everyone has a story to tell and a desire to be heard. Make the other person feel worthy of your undivided attention. (Put the phone away.)

• Leave exes out of the conversation.: You’ve heard it before, but it bears repeating because it’s such a common complaint: No one wants to hear all the terrible details about your exes!

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Source: Matchmaker Ashley

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“As long as you know many men are like children, you know everything.”– Coco Chanel

1. He inspires an unparalleled joy in your life and dating him never stops being fun.

2. He treats you like a best friend and partner. When a man can love a woman in a playful, honest way, the opportunities for equality and friendship are endless.

3. He’s open to new ideas, new places and new concepts. He’s eager to learn. He isn’t hardened by judgement or sheer reluctance.

4. You couldn’t possibly laugh as hard with someone else if you tried.

5. He’s filled with energy.

6. At any point in time you could be picked up, kissed, wrestled to the ground, thrown into a pool or bombarded with a stray piece of food being shoved into your mouth for your opinion. It’s always interesting.

7. He’s quick to express himself. The witty remarks and outlandish jokes are ceaseless.

8. He will take a regular game over a mind game any day, and has zero interest in playing with the minds of others.

9. He often gives random praise. One time I walked out of the bathroom to my boyfriend and some of our friends, at which time he looked at the others, outstretched a fist for me to ‘pound it’ and announced, “I gotta hand it to her, my girl is the fastest pee-er.”… Uh, thanks?

10. Finding fun things to do together isn’t a challenge.

11. He has an absurdly quick rebound rate. Wait, are you upset? Just kidding. A half an hour and some various snacks have been endured, so you’re clearly perfectly fine. Silly me.

12. He’s happy to meet the people in your life and quick to make friends with those around you. Being fun and approachable goes a long way with the family and friends; trust me.

13. He can be charmingly oblivious to your feelings but still finds a way to learn something from Planet Girl each time you call him on it in your best, morbidly annoyed mom voice. “Babe, if you tell one more person I’m having ‘#uterusprobs’ I may actually murder your sorry ass on the spot.”

14. Travelling together is an absolute blast.

15. There are a lot of hilarious, public scenes created together, as you pretty much join in at this point.

16. You never, I repeat, NEVER, have to worry about dishonesty with him. He tells you precisely what’s on his mind, good or bad. I could write a damn book on this one.

17. He’s the absolute best partner for games. The competition doesn’t stand a chance.

18. He doesn’t take ups and downs too seriously. I can actually say the world is ending on a stressful day and my boyfriend just laughs pleasantly and suggests we go get me an iced tea and soft pretzel … truth be told, this strategy is quite often successful.

19. The level of playfulness between the two of you excludes you from the list of couples that are rather intolerable for group outings.

20. You can get excited about everything together. Everything from restaurant specials to discovering a Frisbee in the garage could be the best thing that ever happened to your Tuesday evening together.

21. He’s very rarely angry with you and doesn’t have the patience to hold meaningless grudges

22. You’re convinced he enjoys taking bad pictures of you more so than good ones. The collection equates to an absurd amount of future laughter and various photos of you shoving pasta into your mouth at dinner or drinking coffee hungover in your kitchen on Saturday mornings.

23. He brings out the parts of you that you may have once forgotten. Life can harden love, but it doesn’t have to. Part of being a kid meant being excited just to be alive and indulging in life’s magical set of emotions. We should hold on to that magic in our relationships if we can. That’s the most important perk of dating someone who’s truly a kid at heart. It’s the key to happiness.

It’s the everyday joy that never gets old, because love shouldn’t get old either.

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Source: All4women

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The President, John Mahama during his three-day working visit to the region urged the supporters of the governing National Democratic Congress (NDC) not to be discouraged by the unappreciative posturing of some residents towards the government.

His statement has generated debates in the media, with some critics accusing the President of tribalism and engaging in divisive politics.

The Information and Media Relations Minister, Mahama Ayariga has defended the President’s comment saying, it is a true reflection of what happens in our society, adding that, it is the duty of the President to talk about the existence of such practices.

In an interview with Citi News however, Dr. Arthur Kennedy said, the President should know better and questioned why President Mahama did not make similar comments in his recent working visits to other regions.

“Why wouldn’t he say the same thing in Bole or in Tamale, where the northerners have always been rooting for the NDC? Why wouldn’t he say this in Ho? So it leads to a lot of questions.”

Dr. Arthur Kennedy wondered if the import of the President’s statement is to reduce the number of developmental projects ongoing in regions perceived to have less support for the current government.

He alleged that the President, during the 2012 electioneering period “he was telling northerners that if they wanted a President, they should vote for him and I am told that even after his comment in Kumasi, he went to the mosque” and made other tribalistic comments.”

The one-time NPP presidential aspirant described such comments as “very dangerous which undermines our cohesion as a society.”

He however admitted that President Mahama is not the only politician in Ghana “who does that but he is the most visible example and most people should expect better from the President.”

By: Efua Idan Osam/citifmonline.com/Ghana
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