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Dying to know if he wants to take things to the next level? In this article, we take a look at 10 signs he wants a serious relationship with you.

Dating can be complicated and it can also be pretty exhausting. One of the hardest things about it is working out how interested the guy is. Does he want to get serious with us or is he just looking for a bit of flirty fun? There are red flags that should put us on our guard, but we don’t always notice them. Sometimes, we don’t want to notice them. Then, there are the signs and signals he’s giving out that we might totally miss! If you’re not sure what’s going on at the moment but want to find out, let’s take a look at 10 signs he wants a serious relationship with you.

He shares his goals with you

When a guy is serious about a woman, he’ll open up to her. Understand that this isn’t something that guys do lightly or easily. If a guy isn’t serious and doesn’t have strong feelings for you, he won’t open up. By talking about his goals with you, he’s letting you know that he wants to invite you into his life. He wants to share his ambitions with you and wants to let you know what his dreams are. Moreover, by doing this he’s able to se how on the level you two are; how your goals and dreams stack up with each other, and how compatible your aspirations and long-term visions are. On the other hand, if he doesn’t talk to you about your goals, it suggests that he doesn’t see a shared future between the two of you.

He takes a big interest in you

Another one of clear signs he wants a serious relationship with you is when he’s moved on from the banter and the superficial questions onto deeper questions that probe some pretty personal stuff. He wants to hear about your past, learn about your passions and discover more about what makes you “you.” Moreover, he’s also been revealing personal stuff about himself. He’s opened up and talks freely about his past, his passions and the things that really mean something to him.

He’s introduced you to his family

This is a big one. If a guy isn’t serious about you and this relationship, he’s hardly going to introduce you to his family. It’s a big step, and if he’s taken it already, it’s a pretty strong sign that he likes you and wants to take this relationship further. Remember, his family is his world and being introduced to his world is a major deal. If you’ve been looking for a clear sign as to his interest, meeting his family is one of the biggest yet. He wouldn’t introduce you if he didn’t want to get serious with you.

He doesn’t hold back

If he likes you and wants to take things further, he’ll probably have no problem expressing his feelings. He’ll drop hints about his attraction for you, tell you that he misses you and enjoys your company. Hey, it isn’t always so easy for guys to open up like this. If he’s being forward and expressing himself, it’s a huge indicator that he’s genuinely interested in you.

He’s not talking to others

We all get a bit worried that the guy were dating is talking to other girls. Hey, it’s only natural and until the two of you become an genuine thing, he can talk to whoever he likes. However, if he’s made it clear that he isn’t interested in anyone else at the moment and that you’re his sole concern, it’s a MASSIVE sign that he wants a serious relationship with you. It’s quite hard for some guys to commit to just one girl. If he’s not flirting with anyone else, take it as a given that he wants you and only you.

You do things as a couple

He takes you to couple only events, such as weddings, exclusive parties, the racing and so on. This is one of clear signs he wants a serious relationship with you.

He talks about the future

Not only does he talk about the future, but he includes you in it. He makes plans out loud about where the two of you should go travelling to and what life might be like next year. He says things like: “I might go back to school, but don’t worry, I’ll still have time for you.” If a guy wasn’t interested in getting serious with you, he wouldn’t talk like this. He might not talk about the future at all, but if he did you wouldn’t be in it. It would be all: “I’m gonna do this and I’m gonna do that.” If he involves you in his future, it’s a huge sign that he genuinely likes you and wants to settle down.

He works his schedule around you

Another one of good signs he wants a serious relationship with you is when he makes you a priority. Not only are you in his schedule, but he prioritises you and works his schedule around you. It takes a lot for a guy to do this. If he asks you what your plans are for the weekend before making his own plans, it’s a pretty big sign that he wants to keep you around.

He’s told you he loves you

Some girls STILL don’t take this as a sign that he’s keen on a serious relationship, despite its obvious implications. “Oh, he was just saying stuff. He was drunk. Besides, he only said it once. It didn’t mean anything.” Guys don’t say they love you casually. They know full well what its implications are. They know that if they tell you they love you, it means they want to get serious with you. They definitely wouldn’t say it lightly.

He remembers the small things

If a guy genuinely didn’t care and just wanted a casual relationship, he wouldn’t make the time and effort to remember the details. He wouldn’t remember that red is your favourite colour or that your first car was a Ford or that you once dyed your hair green. If he remembers all this, he’s serious about you.

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Ten emotional qualities that attract men the most https://citifmonline.com/2017/10/ten-emotional-qualities-that-attract-men-the-most/ https://citifmonline.com/2017/10/ten-emotional-qualities-that-attract-men-the-most/#comments Thu, 26 Oct 2017 11:49:12 +0000 http://citifmonline.com/?p=365336 That said, there are some emotional qualities that attract men above all others. Here are ten emotional qualities that the average guy is attracted to, in no particular order. 1. Kindness I appreciate that 80s movies convinced us that “nice” was a one syllable way of saying “sucker” and that it’s become a charitable way […]

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That said, there are some emotional qualities that attract men above all others. Here are ten emotional qualities that the average guy is attracted to, in no particular order.

1. Kindness

I appreciate that 80s movies convinced us that “nice” was a one syllable way of saying “sucker” and that it’s become a charitable way of saying “bland.” However, the typical guy is looking for someone who isn’t sh*tty to the people who work in TSA because, eventually, that kind of barking at waiters and kids and baristas is going to be his problem.

2. Grace

I’ve seen enough videos of people dancing on Instagram to know that physical grace and coordination in a partner is entirely too much to ask for. However, the two other definitions aren’t.

Most of us are terrible under stress. We screw up our fight/flight/freeze reaction by fighting with the people around us rather than fighting the problem. Most men are more attracted to someone who sits down and starts smelling her fingers in a stressful moment than someone who picks that exact moment to start airing her grievances and dirty laundry.

Speaking of unclean sheets, grace is also the quality that allows us to LET GO OF OLD SH*T ALREADY. Palate cleanser time.

3. Thoughtfulness

Kind people aren’t always thoughtful but generally, thoughtful people are kind. At any rate, doing highly conscientious, ground-level things goes a long way (i.e., showing up to meet his friends for the first time and bringing beer and cupcakes, or helping an old person put groceries in her trunk, or Tweeting to a D-List celebrity that you liked the cameo she had on Supernatural).

Anything that might make a decent person’s day goes a long way in our book. Maybe women are generally better at this but remembering that a distance acquaintance really likes early Margaret Atwood novels is practically magic to men.

4. Humor

You don’t have to be a nonstop one-liner machine. That becomes tedious even in an occasional drinking buddy. And you don’t have to laugh at that terrible impression of Nicholas Cage we all do.

But it’s nice if you like enjoy laughing (THE NERVE) and can appreciate that sometimes in life the joke is on you. Also, you have to think Popstar: Never Stop Never Stopping is funny.

5. Decisiveness (particularly around meals)

Seriously, all food is fine. I don’t care that I had pizza for lunch. I’ll eat it again. Pick something. Please.

6. Whatever the opposite of neediness is

I appreciate that the self-help community has told us that confidence is sexy or maybe it’s just that abject neediness is so unattractive. And so is overabundant confidence. This one’s hard because being needed once in a long-term relationship is nice. Just don’t be weird about it, cool?

7. Emotional intelligence

Unfortunately, it means something wholly different for men than it does women. In the same way a lady may want her fella to listen to her problems rather than attempt to solve them, a fella will oftentimes want to be left alone with his problems rather than talk about them.

Unfortunately, you’re flipping a coin with when to engage and when to retreat until you really get to know a guy.

8. Romantic “assertiveness”

By and large, men still do the majority of the romantic pursuit (don’t @ me, please). It doesn’t mean we think that being thirsty is gross or that we wouldn’t welcome some quid pro quo, but we understand the general realities of courtship.

However, sometimes it’s nice if you “pull a hamstring” during the chase to let us know you want to get caught. It doesn’t have to be nudes but it shouldn’t be “well, I liked four things he put on Facebook — he should know!”

9. Gratitude

I get that we’re in a political climate that has too often involved sentiment to the effect of, “shut up and be grateful for what you have.” I get that. And it’s not mutually exclusive that the sincere use of the words “thank you” and actions that go along with those words (see the point on thoughtfulness) are incredibly attractive and powerful.

Gratitude is black plague level infectious — i.e., one of those tenfold returns that the con men from the bible keep trying to sell us.

10. Loyalty

It’s a cliché. It’s a no-brainer. And the fear of female perfidy and capriciousness has caused an untold amount of problems between men and women (Othello, for one). All that said, eventually we’re going to admit or do something humiliating and we want to make sure that you can keep it under your hat.

That’s it, have high levels of those 10 great human qualities that attract men is your bread bowl of clam chowder.

Source: Your Tango

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10 Tips on how to talk to a guy you like https://citifmonline.com/2017/09/10-tips-on-how-to-talk-to-a-guy-you-like/ Wed, 13 Sep 2017 12:56:09 +0000 http://citifmonline.com/?p=353137 Do you get all tongue twisted and shy when you talk to a guy you like? Do you find it hard to find the right words, and often come out with the wrong ones? Often, when we are trying to impress someone, we can get so nervous, that we forget all the things that we […]

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Do you get all tongue twisted and shy when you talk to a guy you like? Do you find it hard to find the right words, and often come out with the wrong ones? Often, when we are trying to impress someone, we can get so nervous, that we forget all the things that we wanted to say. That’s why having a few tips on how to approach and talk to a guy that you like can be helpful. If you are prepared for what you are going to say, then it will be much easier to appear confident and you will be less likely to clam up, or gush out all the wrong things. Take a look at these tips on how to talk to a guy you like. They might help you start up a conversation, the next time you meet someone really nice.

1. Remember, men don’t really come from another planet

Despite all that you may have heard, men aren’t really all that different from women. Try not to think too much about the fact that it’s a man that you are talking to and try to forget some of those preconceived ideas you may have about what men are like. Men are just people, just like you, so relax and be natural, and you will find that they aren’t half as scary as you’d thought they were.

2. Mind your P’s and Q’s

Most guys prefer women who are polite and good natured, so lay off the bad language and try to be genuine. It might sound a bit old fashioned, but most men really do prefer a woman to be a lady and they don’t appreciate a girl who’s trying to be one of the lads.

3. Use your smile

Another great tip on how to talk to a guy you like is to use your beautiful smile. People naturally feel attracted to happy people, so use that smile of yours to get, and keep, his attention. Don’t grin manically him, that’ll just scare him off, but do laugh at his jokes and look like you are in a good mood. Men just can’t resist a girl with a beautiful smile.

4. Give him compliments

You are probably quite comfortable complimenting your female friends on their new dress or hairstyle, but have you ever complimented a man when you are talking to him? Men love to get a compliment too, but it’s usually better if you stick to complimenting on his sense of humour, or his sharp mind, than it is complementing him in appearance.

5. Make eye contact

This is one of the best tips on how to talk to a guy you like. When you do talk to a guy, look him in the eye when you speak to him. When you make eye contact with a person, it shows that you are being sincere and you have nothing to hide. Try not to let your shyness make you look away from him, because that could be read as a sign that you are bored and you want to get away.

6. Be a bit mysterious

Don’t reveal everything about you in one go because men like a little bit of a mystery and intrigue, it’s another great tip on how to talk to a guy you like and make him want to discover more. If he catches you smiling for no apparent reason, for example, he’s going to wonder what is amusing you. Leave him guessing and just say ‘oh nothing”, and his curiosity will get the better of him. The more questions you leave answered, without being annoying, the more he will want to hang around to learn more about you.

7. Don’t judge about other people

Men really don’t like to hear women talking badly about other people, so trying to start a conversation by criticising colleagues, or friends, is not a good move. If you are going to talk about other people, be positive, or, if you can’t do that, keep your thoughts to yourself. Not only don’t men like that kind of talk, you never know if the person you are being nasty about is a close friend of the guy you are talking to.

8. Touch him

The gentle, tender touch of a girl is something that few men can’t resist. Research has proven that men become very attracted to a girl that touches him, so the occasional light touch on his arm, or a hand on the shoulder, will go a long way toward melting the ice. Keep it casual and appropriate and you will soon find that his interest in you grows.

9. Don’t be afraid of short silences

Sometimes when you are talking to a man you will find that he pauses before he answers you. Don’t be worried by this and don’t but-in with more words. Guys do tend to think about what they are going to say more than women do, so he’s he probably just mulling over his response to your last comment.

10. Be yourself

The most important tip on how to talk to a guy you like, to bear in mind, is to be natural and be yourself. Relax, calm down, and try not to your nerves get the better of you. If you are genuine and honest, you will put the guy at ease and he will feel more comfortable talking to you too.

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Six ways to know if the guy you like is boyfriend material https://citifmonline.com/2017/09/six-ways-to-know-if-the-guy-you-like-is-boyfriend-material/ Tue, 05 Sep 2017 13:02:30 +0000 http://citifmonline.com/?p=350899 Is he the one? As women, we come to a point in life, where we want to stop messing around and learn how to find true love. This may also be the perfect time to set some goals for your love life, stop hanging aroung guys who are you using you (even if you’re using them back!) and […]

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Is he the one? As women, we come to a point in life, where we want to stop messing around and learn how to find true love.

This may also be the perfect time to set some goals for your love life, stop hanging aroung guys who are you using you (even if you’re using them back!) and learn how to identify the kind of man you want to date. I like to call him “Mr. Boyfriend Material.”

Like you, Mr. Boyfriend Material dates with dignity and is interested in finding someone confident, independent, and has the skills necessary to communicate.

The ability to understand and respect Mr. Boyfriend Material is vital because he won’t put up with your crap. He won’t let you “sulk” or manipulate him with your tears. He expects you to communicate your needs, have boundaries, express your expectations directly, and allow him to engage in activities that fulfill the essence of who he is.

There are few key signs to look for to know if the guy you are dating is Mr. Boyfriend Material:

1. He can support himself and provide for you

A guy is typically most confident, secure, and ready to be in an exclusivelong-term relationship when he feels “settled.” He’s spent time building his career and has the time available to invest in your relationship. He’s financially secure.

Remember, men who are not in this place in life are still worth dating; they’re just not likely to be good candidates for a long-term partnership. If you’re dating someone who’s just starting to climb the ladder to emotional and financial security, you’ll likely need to be extremely patient as he moves through these phases of manhood.

2. He does what he says he’ll do  every single time

A man who is capable of a long-term relationship has integrity, and as a result his words and actions match. He calls when he says he will call. He follows through on the promises he makes.

This is one of the most crucial signs a man is boyfriend material. If his words and actions match consistently, it’s clear he’s ready to play in the big leagues.

3. He’s done playing stupid games

He doesn’t apply the “Three-Day Rule” to the women he dates, wait twenty-four hours before returning your phone call, or “vanish” to draw you into his world. When he’s interested in pursuing you, he’ll just DO it.

Conversely, if you play games with Mr. Boyfriend Material, he’ll politely decline the opportunity to get to know you and probably dismiss you as immature. Be gracious, kind and authentic, because Mr. BoyfriendMaterial is attracted to a confident woman who, like him, is past playing games.

4. He knows how to express his feelings directly

Mr. Boyfriend Material will not manipulate you with silence, or criticize or judge you. When he has a need, or feels like he must discuss something pertaining to your relationship, he doesn’t hesitate to bring it up.

He’s also honest in telling you when he needs to spend time with his friends, needs to work or wants to go to the gym (by himself). He expects you to respect his needs and not see his independence as rejection.

5. He’s single 

This one may seem like a no-brainer, but it’s worth mentioning that a man who’s worth your time is NOT already in a relationship or going through a divorce. As a part of him being single, he is emotionally available to pursue a relationship with you.

He doesn’t need to hide you until the divorce is final, “call you later” under the guise of running an errand, or meet you in a hotel, his art studio, or at your place because he hasn’t yet moved out of the home he shares with his partner.

6. He does not expect any kind of physical intimacy sooner than you are ready

While Mr. Boyfriend Material finds you incredibly attractive, he doesn’t expect you to kiss him at the end of the first or second date, and he doesn’t expect you to have sex with him until the time is right, once you two have gotten to know each other and determined that you’d like to advance your relationship to the next level.

What’s more, if he does prefer physical intimacy early on (say, after the third date, for instance), he won’t mind if you refuse. In fact, he’ll most likely apologize, respect you immensely and be impressed by your self-respect, dating dignity, and confidence — all huge turn-ons.

In short, Mr. Boyfriend Material is confident, mature, unafraid of vulnerability and feels comfortable with commitment. 

Sex is not his primary motive and he certainly doesn’t expect you to sleep with him until you’re ready — whether that is in three months, six months, or maybe even waiting until you’re married.

Mr. Boyfriend Material is seeking an interdependent relationship with a confident woman who wants the same. He may not be someone you encounter often, but when you do, knowing about these qualities will help you recognize him.

If you don’t settle for anything less than Mr. Boyfriend Material, you have the potential for a great relationship that can fulfill you, bring you happiness, and meet your needs.

Source: Your Tango

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Ten signs you’re falling out of love with your boyfriend https://citifmonline.com/2017/08/ten-signs-youre-falling-out-of-love-with-your-boyfriend/ Mon, 28 Aug 2017 16:16:48 +0000 http://citifmonline.com/?p=348710 Life doesn’t seem to be the same when we are out of love. This article considers 10 signs that show you are falling out of love with your boyfriend It’s a sad topic, we’re well aware of that. Nobody wants to fall out of love, and fewer still of us want to confront the issue. […]

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Life doesn’t seem to be the same when we are out of love. This article considers 10 signs that show you are falling out of love with your boyfriend

It’s a sad topic, we’re well aware of that. Nobody wants to fall out of love, and fewer still of us want to confront the issue. But congrats for being strong enough to question whether you are falling out of love with your boyfriend. It’s the first step to taking the right course of action. Can this be fixed? Or is it time to make the break that would be in the best interests of you both?

As the old saying goes, it’s better to have loved and lost than not to have loved at all. And although breaking up is one of the most horrendous things to do, it’s much better to nip things in the bud early, rather than let them linger on and on.

If you’re head is all over the place at the moment and you don’t know what’s going on, let’s see if we can help. Let’s take a look at 10 signs you are falling out of love with your boyfriend.

You’re Moving In Different Directions

Remember when you and a close friend from childhood eventually grew apart? It happens. You start to move in two different directions. Perhaps you took a hardcore right turn with a brand-spanking new career and exciting new goals, while your friend stayed in the same position. They continued to plod along the same, safe path while you took risks.

As a result, you no longer feel as close to them anymore. They’re not on your level.

The same thing can happen in relationships. While we were clearly moving in the same direction as our boy when we first got together, it doesn’t mean we still will be a year down the line. Maybe you now want to grasp at new opportunities to expand and grow, while your partner wants to play it safe and continue doing the same things over and over again.

Do you feel a sense of frustration as you try to move forward with your ambitions while your partner stays in the same position? If so, it could be a sign that you are falling out of love.

You Don’t Feel Excited Anymore

He used to give you butterflies. Now you feel indifferent when you see him. When he texts you, you don’t feel anything. Sometimes, you wish it had been a text from someone else. In the past, you were so annoyed when your phone pinged and it wasn’t him.

If this sounds like you, it’s a second sign you’re falling out of love.

He’s Changed

He’s changed – and you don’t like it.

That’s totally okay, of course. You don’t have to like his changes. You used to love his humour, his ambition, his confidence, his work ethic and his values. These are the things you fell in love with. What you didn’t agree to was staying in love with him if he changed any of these.

If he has and you don’t like the new changes, it might be more than that – it might be that his changes have caused you to fall out of love with him.

His Cute Habits Annoy You

His habits used to be cute. Now they just annoy you.

You Don’t Talk About The Future Anymore

Remember when you used to talk about the future all the time? Perhaps you used to dream together about how you’d share a cottage together, take amazing vacations together – and maybe even have kids together.
If you no longer talk about the future together – and indeed if you purposely try to avoid this topic of conversation – it’s a strong sign that you are falling out of love with your boyfriend. You should be able to talk to one another about your future. If you can’t, it means something isn’t right about the present.

You Can Easily Keep Your Hands Off Him

When the two of you first got together, no doubt you couldn’t keep your hands off him. Now, you barely touch him. It’s a sign that you no longer find him attractive – which is a strong sign that you’re falling out of love.

Arguments Linger

When we love our boyfriends, we work hard to make sure that an argument is brought to an agreeable resolution as soon as possible. We look for compromises, and we can’t wait to kiss and make-up. Sometimes, we’ll apologise even if we know we were right. We just want to make-up already.

However, when you’re falling out of love with your partner, you don’t have that same desire to bring conflicts to an agreeable resolution. You’re prepared to let things fester, and bring up the same issues over and over again.

And you certainly won’t be apologising if you’ve done nothing wrong.

You’ve Stopped Making Sacrifices

You had stopped seeing the girls for cocktails because you wanted to cuddle him in bed instead.

Now, it’s cocktails every Friday night again and to heck what he thinks.

You’ve Been Checking Out Other Guys

When you were madly in love with your partner, it was as though no other guy existed. You didn’t notice the cute waiter, and even your celebrity crush doesn’t matter all that much anymore. No other man can compete with your man.

If you’re falling out of love, it’s different. You eyes start to wander all of a sudden. You notice the cute waiter who serves you dinner, and you wonder if he’s as attracted to you as you are to him.

Worse still, you start to fantasise about other men.

You’re Still Together, But Not Because Of Love

If you know deep down inside that you’re falling out of love with your boyfriend, you need to ask yourself why you’re still together. Is it a matter of convenience? Are you waiting for the contract on your home to run down before you can move out? Perhaps you’re staying together for any kids or pets you share?

Or maybe the reason you’re still together is because you can’t face being on your own ever again.

Do you know other signs of falling out of love?

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3 Reasons why asking permission before kissing is sexy https://citifmonline.com/2017/03/3-reasons-why-asking-permission-before-kissing-is-sexy/ Wed, 29 Mar 2017 15:01:34 +0000 http://citifmonline.com/?p=306199 The irony of course, and what I’ve discovered through experience, is that it’s sexy to ask someone “Can I kiss you?”. Here’s why: First, it shows confidence. Receiving a verbal, flat-out no, is the strongest form of rejection. Sure, it’s not pleasant to have a cheek turn away from you, but hearing that actual words […]

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The irony of course, and what I’ve discovered through experience, is that it’s sexy to ask someone “Can I kiss you?”. Here’s why:

First, it shows confidence.

Receiving a verbal, flat-out no, is the strongest form of rejection. Sure, it’s not pleasant to have a cheek turn away from you, but hearing that actual words no, is more soul-crushing.

If a man or woman had the courage to ask, they’re going out on a limb. They’re putting themselves out there in a vulnerable position. If that’s not confidence, I don’t know what is.

Second, it shows respect.

It shows that you think of the other person as an autonomous person, and by giving them the ability to chose, you are giving them a voice. You are no longer objectifying them. You are valuing their thoughts and desires.

Third, it makes the other person feel comfortable.

Making out, or anything more sexual is not enjoyable when you don’t feel comfortable and taken cared for. If he/she/they is not feeling safe, whatever you’re doing will not be pleasurable for either you or him/her/them.

I would also like to point out some of the flaws in the reasons for why one shouldn’t explicitly ask.

First flawed reason: I don’t need to ask. I can tell by body language.

Um… I’m calling, bullshit. There is no one with 100% accuracy who can tell the difference between someone who is incredibly friendly and flirty.

Body language is a key component. Don’t get me wrong, but it’s like the sketch of a picture. Verbal language is the color. You need both body language and verbal consent to get the full picture.

Second flawed reason: It ruins the momentum.

Really? It ruins the momentum? I’m not buying it. You haven’t done anything yet. Finding and putting on a condom, that’s something that ruins the momentum because you’re already in the middle of something. It’s annoying as hell, but you always do it.

With this, though, you haven’t started anything yet, so how can it ruin momentum? You were dancing? Great! Ask, and if he/she/they says yes, then make out while you start dancing again. If the momentum can be lost THAT easily, then there was nothing really there, and you shouldn’t be doing anything to begin with.

Third flawed reason: I want the guy to have the courage to go for it.

Already explained. It requires more courage to ask that to just “go for it.”

I was in a bar. I ordered a drink next to a woman and we spoke for about an hour. She was flirty, touching my leg, laughing. I thought I was killing it. I asked her if I can kiss her, and she erupted into laughter.

“No! God no!” She said. I started laughing because I was embarrassed, but also because it was funny how much I misread the situation.

Through my awkward laughs, I managed to get out, “Thank God I asked.”

She continued laughing. “Yeah, sorry. I don’t want to, but…” then she trailed off to what we were talking about prior. We spoke for another hour and then I hugged her before she left. My friends came over and asked what happened. “She seemed so into you,” they said. I said, “Yeah, I thought so too. But apparently, she wasn’t. Great talking to her, though.”

I look back on this and smile. I got rejected. I got laughed it. But it’s kind of humorous how much she didn’t want to kiss me. How badly I misread the situation.

That said, I’m still alive. I’m stronger for it, and I’m happy I asked. Life happens. You will get rejected, but that’s a good thing. That means it was the right decision to ask in the first place.

So ask. Always ask. You’ll grow as a person because of it, and your partner will like you even more for confidently displaying how much you respect them.

Source: Your Tango

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Ten tips for girls on how to get ready for a date https://citifmonline.com/2017/02/ten-tips-for-girls-on-how-to-get-ready-for-a-date/ Mon, 27 Feb 2017 12:35:45 +0000 http://citifmonline.com/?p=297563 When you are getting ready for a date, especially when it’s a first date or when you’ve only met the guy a few times before, the excitement and the nerves can get the better of you and you can sometimes forget some of important things that you meant to do. You know that you should […]

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When you are getting ready for a date, especially when it’s a first date or when you’ve only met the guy a few times before, the excitement and the nerves can get the better of you and you can sometimes forget some of important things that you meant to do. You know that you should relax and be yourself, but you still want that self to be your best self. If you find yourself in a bit of panic and you are not sure what you should be doing next, here are some tips on how to prepare for a date.

1. Allow plenty of time to get ready

Allow yourself as much time as possible to get ready for a date, because you don’t want to be rushing around at the last minute. If you can decide on what you are going to wear well in advance and get your outfit ready the day before, you will be able to take your time getting ready and you will be less likely to forget something. You will also feel less flustered when you do meet the guy for the date.

2. Tidy up your place

If the date goes well, you might end up back at your place, so have a tidy up around your home, just in case. You won’t want to be embarrassed if he comes in for a drink, or miss out on the opportunity if it arises, so clean up the bathroom, the living room and your bedroom before the date and then you won’t have to worry about it on the night.

3. Don’t make any drastic changes

If you haven’t known the guy for very long, then this is definitely not the time for a drastic makeover. He must have liked what he saw the last time you met him, so don’t suddenly change your hair style or colour or make any major changes to the way you do your makeup. You shouldn’t be experimenting with any dramatic changes to your look when you are already nervous about a date.

4. Dress for the occasion

If you know where you are going on the date, dress appropriately for the venue. Although you want to look your best and you want to make a good impression, don’t overdress for the type of date that you are going on. If it’s a surprise date, choose an outfit that is middle-of-the road and take some makeup with you, just in case you have to glam up your look.

5. Don’t go too heavy with the makeup

A lot of guys don’t like heavy makeup, especially heavy foundation, so go easy with the makeup and go for a natural look. Go easy with the lip gloss as well, or he may not be too keen on kissing you. The best makeup for a date is the type of makeup that will need minimal maintenance and that you can simply put on and forget.

6. Go easy on the perfume

Perfume is another thing that you don’t want to overdo on a date. If you don’t know the guy very well, you won’t yet know what sort of scents he likes and you don’t want to wear something that is too overpowering. You also don’t want him choking on the fumes when he leans in for a kiss! The best thing to do is spray the perfume into the air and walk into the mist. That will give you a light fragrance all over your body.

7. Don’t forget your phone

Make sure that your phone is charged and take it with you in your bag. You shouldn’t be texting your friends or checking out Facebook when you are on a date, but you might need your phone if you get lost on the way to the date or you are going to be late. You might also need your phone to call a cab if the date doesn’t go as well as you expected.

8. Know where you are going

Don’t leave deciding on how you are going to get the date to the last minute. Check out in advance where you are going and how long it will take you get there, because planning ahead will avoid another last minute panic. If you don’t know the guy very well, you should also tell someone else where you are going and what when you expect to be home.

9. Think positively

Don’t lose sight of the fact that a date is supposed to be fun! Try not to think about what could go wrong, because it probably won’t, and try not to worry too much about what he thinks of you. You’ll have a lot more fun and give a much better impression of yourself if you relax and have some fun, so think positively before the date and then you will feel a lot more confident when you get there.

10. Look like you

Whatever you decide to wear and however you decide to do your makeup, don’t forget that it’s you he likes, so make sure that you look like you when you go out on a date. If you do anything that is too different from what you would normally do, it will only make you feel uncomfortable.

Do you have other tips on how to get ready for a date?

Stay happy!

Source: Beauty and Tips

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3 Nigerians with fake Ghanaian passports grabbed https://citifmonline.com/2014/07/3-nigerians-with-fake-ghanaian-passports-grabbed/ Thu, 10 Jul 2014 08:51:57 +0000 http://4cd.e16.myftpupload.com/?p=30853 Three Nigerians, one of them a woman, have been arrested for allegedly possessing forged Ghanaian passports. Though the passports bear Ghanaian names; Emmanuel Kwafo, Richard Bioh and Cindy Ayim, officials of the Document Fraud Expertise Centre of the Ghana Immigration Service (GIS), found out that the names were not the actual identities of the suspects. […]

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Three Nigerians, one of them a woman, have been arrested for allegedly possessing forged Ghanaian passports.

Though the passports bear Ghanaian names; Emmanuel Kwafo, Richard Bioh and Cindy Ayim, officials of the Document Fraud Expertise Centre of the Ghana Immigration Service (GIS), found out that the names were not the actual identities of the suspects.

Investigations conducted by the GIS showed that the real identities of the male suspects were Emmanuel Ihueze, 28, and John Nkwocha, both welders, while that of the woman was Zeinab Kofoworola Kasali, 24, a student.

Bio-data page

The Head of the Document Fraud Expertise Centre, Mr Frederick Baah Duodu, told the Daily Graphic that the two men were arrested at the Kotoka International Airport (KIA) while attempting to travel to Kuwait with forged Ghanaian biometric passports.

He said the men, who were intercepted about 8:30 p.m. on July 3, 2014, claimed they had arrived in Ghana a month ago and lodged at a hotel after paying two agents to acquire passports for them.

The two suspects claimed to have paid $5,000 each to two agents, one of whom they identified only as Uche.

Mr Duodu said an examination of the passports revealed that the bio-data page was a counterfeit, even though the passport booklet was a genuine Ghanaian passport with all the security features.

The passports, with numbers G0485026 and GO724578, indicated that they were issued on June 2, 2014 and would expire on June 1, 2019.

Woman arrested at JFK

According to Mr Duodu, Zeinab was intercepted by immigration officers at the John F. Kennedy (JFK) Airport in New York on July 1, 2014 with a passport indicating she had travelled on an airline from the KIA, Accra.

He said the immigration officials at the JFK Airport were suspicious of the American visa in the passport and, therefore, questioned the holder.

She was subsequently deported to Ghana on July 5, 2014.

On her arrival, Kasali’s case was referred to the Document Fraud Centre, where the immigration officers, after careful examination, found that the passport was not genuine

It was also discovered that she was a Nigerian who had attempted to use a Ghanaian passport to travel.

Warning

During interrogation, Zeinab was said to have told the immigration officers that an uncle whose name she gave as Obuma Okafor had acquired the passport with a visa for her to enable her to travel to the United States.

The uncle is currently on the run.

During a search on the system at the KIA, the immigration officers retrieved a scanned Nigerian passport with number AO1930718 with the picture of Zeinab.

According to Zeinab, she had paid $5,000 for the passport and $2,000 for the ticket.

Mr Duodu said the suspects would be handed over to the Anti-Human Smuggling and Trafficking Unit of the GIS for further investigations.

He warned foreigners, especially Nigerians, to desist from using Ghanaian passports and other travel documents, saying the GIS “was always ready to clamp down on illegal acquisition of Ghanaian passports by fraudsters”.

As part of efforts to win the fight, he said, the GIS was building the capacity of its personnel at the entry points, including the ports and the borders, to be abreast of new trends in forged documents being used by fraudsters.

Credit: Daily Graphic

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