{"id":81021,"date":"2015-01-10T12:30:29","date_gmt":"2015-01-10T12:30:29","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/4cd.e16.myftpupload.com\/?p=81021"},"modified":"2015-01-10T11:30:46","modified_gmt":"2015-01-10T11:30:46","slug":"5-things-ladies-shouldnt-first-date","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/citifmonline.com\/?p=81021","title":{"rendered":"5 things ladies shouldn&#8217;t do on a first date"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>First dates are really important.\u00a0 It\u2019s hardly rocket science;\u00a0 a <strong>first date<\/strong>\u00a0 is a time when you want to make a really good impression.\u00a0 It\u2019s also a time when you want \u2013 and need \u2013\u00a0 your date to make a good impression on you.\u00a0 After all, you wouldn\u2019t go on a second date with someone who doesn\u2019t tick all the right boxes would you?<\/p>\n<p>Actually, you might well.\u00a0 If you&#8217;re like most women,you\u2019ve probably already done that more than once in your life.\u00a0 You\u2019ve\u00a0 probably even gone on second dates with people who\u2019ve ticked one, or more, of the wrong boxes.\u00a0 Okay, that\u2019s good for you to know.\u00a0\u00a0 You know how well that turned out.\u00a0 But let\u2019s look, now, at the 5 things you don\u2019t want to be doing in future, because they absolutely won\u2019t get you the outcome you want.\u00a0 Going on dates with the wrong men is absolutely NOT going to help you find the <strong>love<\/strong> of your life.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>No No #1 Turn up in needy mode.<\/strong>\u00a0 A previous relationship may have dented your confidence, or you may be worrying about the lack of half-way decent men, and what happens if this date doesn\u2019t work out.\u00a0 That is no way to show up on a date.\u00a0 Your date will be able to sniff out needinesss in no time flat.\u00a0 You have a duty to make sure you\u2019re feeling good before you show up on that date.\u00a0 Why?\u00a0 Because when you feel\u00a0 good, he\u2019ll end up feeling good, too.\u00a0 So, whether or not he\u2019s your Ideal Man at least you\u2019ll both have a good time.<\/li>\n<li><strong>No No #2\u00a0 Spill your guts about your ex.<\/strong>\u00a0 That goes for\u00a0 your date, too.\u00a0 You\u2019re not selling a second-car.\u00a0 You do not have to give a full and frank account of its history.\u00a0 (In point of fact, not\u00a0 eveneveryone selling a second-hand care does that:\u00a0 sometimes, they are a tad economical with the truth.)\u00a0 This is not confession time.\u00a0 Chances are, you hardly know this person.\u00a0\u00a0 What you want to do is find out a little about them, and get a feel of them &#8211;\u00a0 but not in the tactile sense.\u00a0\u00a0 This is the time to avoid over-shares \u2013 of every kind.<\/li>\n<li><strong>No No #3 Rush into things.\u00a0<\/strong> There\u2019s more than one way to skin a cat, and there\u2019s more than one way to rush into a relationship.\u00a0 Obviously, you can do that sexually &#8211;\u00a0\u00a0 which tends to be a bad idea \u2013 and you can do that emotionally by starting to fantasize about your long-term future together:\u00a0 babies, grandchildren, where you\u2019ll live, his and hers cemetery plots.\u00a0 Bad idea!\u00a0 Why?\u00a0 Because when you disappear into your own fantasy, the future you see \u2013 that doesn\u2019t actually exist \u2013 can look so damned attractive that you can cheerfully overlook things about him that you know intuitively just aren\u2019t right for you.<\/li>\n<li><strong>No No #4\u00a0 Play at the Spanish Inquisition<\/strong>.\u00a0 Going on a first date can be stressful- especially if you tell yourself how stressful it\u2019s going to be.\u00a0 Most people do NOT thrive on uncertainty.\u00a0 One quick way to get rid of that uncertainty might be to have a private detective check the other\u00a0 person out!\u00a0 Okay, so you wouldn\u2019t do that.\u00a0 You know that would be truly a little crazy.\u00a0 However, asking deep and searching questions like: \u201cWhat\u2019s your relationship with your mother like?\u201d or \u201cAre you ready to settle down?\u201d are not a whole lot better.\u00a0 This is a time to keep it light.<\/li>\n<li><strong>No No #5 Try to impress.<\/strong>\u00a0\u00a0 Why wouldn\u2019t you try to impress?\u00a0 Because when you\u2019re trying to impress, you\u2019re not being your authentic self.\u00a0 Who you truly are is the most valuable thing you have to offer.\u00a0 If someone sees it, but doesn\u2019t appreciate it, then it\u2019s good that it happened on Date 1, rather than further down the line.\u00a0 If someone can\u2019t appreciate you for who you truly are, why would you want to be with them?\u00a0 The same goes for them, too.\u00a0 That is unless\u00a0\u00a0 the string of cars, the properties, the clothes, and whatever else, matter to you more than the person.<\/li>\n<li>You are \u2013 or certainly should be \u2013 your most valuable asset.\u00a0 You don\u2019t want to sell that asset short on a <strong>first date<\/strong>.\u00a0 In fact, you don\u2019t want to sell it, at all.\u00a0 What\u2019s the purpose of a first date?\u00a0 Simply to assess whether there is enough mileage in your interaction to make it worth your while to go on a second date with this person.\u00a0 And share more time with them, and find out more about them.\u00a0\u00a0 And then decide whether you want to progress the relationship to a third date.\u00a0 Simple, right?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Source: YourTango.com<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>First dates are really important.\u00a0 It\u2019s hardly rocket science;\u00a0 a first date\u00a0 is a time when you want to make a really good impression.\u00a0 It\u2019s also a time when you want \u2013 and need \u2013\u00a0 your date to make a good impression on you.\u00a0 After all, you wouldn\u2019t go on a second date with someone 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