{"id":42619,"date":"2014-08-28T11:46:40","date_gmt":"2014-08-28T11:46:40","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/4cd.e16.myftpupload.com\/?p=42619"},"modified":"2014-08-28T11:46:40","modified_gmt":"2014-08-28T11:46:40","slug":"how-not-to-let-stress-ruin-your-sex-life","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/citifmonline.com\/?p=42619","title":{"rendered":"How not to let stress ruin your sex life"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>For many people, once the stress shows, the sex goes. In fact, stress is the number one reason that couples stop having sex.<\/p>\n<p>And this can wreak havoc on your relationship.<\/p>\n<p>\u201c[Stress] can cause major rifts in relationships, from low tolerance for your partner\u2019s behaviors to massive arguments when physical and emotional needs aren\u2019t being met,\u201d says author and stress management speaker <a href=\"http:\/\/www.happyhoureffect.com\/\" target=\"_blank\">Kristen Brown.<\/a><\/p>\n<p>Not sure if stress is to blame for your loss of libido? Check your symptoms:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Feeling extra irritable?\u00a0<\/strong>You may find yourself shorter with your significant other and less able to rely on the relationship for comfort, says sex therapist\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/www.drtammynelson.com\/\" target=\"_blank\">Dr. Tammy Nelson.<\/a>\u00a0It may seem like every little thing your partner does has a huge impact on your attitude, causing the both of you to argue.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Can\u2019t get turned on?<\/strong>\u00a0\u201cWhen women are stressed, their oxytocin levels are low, which means they aren\u2019t going to feel like cuddling or be their normal affectionate selves. When men are stressed, their testosterone levels are depleted and they may not be in the mood. Their ability to function sexually can be comprised,\u201d says Nelson.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Failing to climax?<\/strong>\u00a0If your mind is not in the moment and you&#8217;re thinking about that work project or parking ticket, it\u2019ll decrease your chances of climaxing. Stress also makes it hard to relax, which inhibits the chances of orgasm in women, says sex counselor and author\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/www.iankerner.com\/\" target=\"_blank\">Ian Kerner.<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Having trouble fantasizing about sex?<\/strong>\u00a0Since sexual desire starts in the brain, having sexy thoughts about your partner can put you in the mood. But, it\u2019s hard to be turned on by the thoughts of intimacy when our minds are focusing on whatever it is that is stressing us out.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>So, how can we keep the sex (and the relationship) going and leave the stress at the bedroom door?<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Talk it out.<\/strong>\u00a0If you&#8217;re not in the mood, your partner might take it personally, says Kerner. Avoid further relationship problems by explaining WHY you aren\u2019t in the mood. \u201cTell them, &#8216;It\u2019s not you,&#8217; and follow it up with what\u2019s really bothering you,\u201d adds Nelson.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Find time to connect and have fun.<\/strong>\u00a0Plan a date night or come up with ideas together. \u201cIf you\u2019re truly too tired or stressed for sex, finding other ways to stay connected helps reassure your partner they are not to blame,\u201d says Brown.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Prioritize sex.<\/strong>\u00a0The more you have it, the more you want it. In addition, If you show a degree of willingness, you may get turned on and find that sex is an amazing reliever of stress. It may get to the point where sex actually becomes a release, says Kerner.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Remember the love.<\/strong>\u00a0Now is not the time to take your stress out on loved ones. When stress gets in the way of your relationship, think back to the early days of your love and try to recapture those feelings, says Brown.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>For many people, once the stress shows, the sex goes. In fact, stress is the number one reason that couples stop having sex. And this can wreak havoc on your relationship. \u201c[Stress] can cause major rifts in relationships, from low tolerance for your partner\u2019s behaviors to massive arguments when physical and emotional needs aren\u2019t being [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":42621,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jnews-multi-image_gallery":[],"jnews_single_post":[],"jnews_primary_category":[],"jnews_social_meta":[],"jnews_override_counter":[],"footnotes":""},"categories":[],"tags":[38,51],"class_list":["post-42619","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","tag-palaver-newspaper","tag-ports"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/citifmonline.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/42619","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/citifmonline.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/citifmonline.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/citifmonline.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/citifmonline.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=42619"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/citifmonline.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/42619\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/citifmonline.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/42621"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/citifmonline.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=42619"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/citifmonline.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=42619"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/citifmonline.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=42619"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}