Finding out you’re putting everything into a relationship or casual thing, and the other person just isn’t that arsed can be utterly heartbreaking. It’s a truly horrible feeling, knowing that you’re crushin’ on someone harder than they are on you. But do you know what? Figuring that out and accepting it is a whole lot easier, healthier and better for you in the long run than flogging the dead horse that is your relationship.<\/p>\n
Everybody’s different and has totally varied relationship expectations, so just because your bae is guilty of a few of relationships expert\u00a0Suzie Parkus’ signs, it doesn’t necessarily mean they’re not into you (it could be their personality that makes them not touchy-feely or romantic). But if you’re consistently finding a lot of the below signs to be spot on it’s best to have a long hard think about whether the feelings you have are truly requited.<\/p>\n
1. When they don’t answer right away when you phone them,\u00a0you find yourself trying again before they return your call<\/strong>.<\/p>\n 2.\u00a0They seem unenthusiastic to hear from you<\/strong>\u00a0(or are always preoccupied) when they do pick up.<\/p>\n 3. When you do speak, they either keep it short and sweet or don’t seem engaged in the conversation. Maybe\u00a0they’re happy to talk about themselves but switch off when you’re talking<\/strong>.<\/p>\n 4. When\u00a0they consistently take ages to reply<\/strong>\u00a0to texts on a regular basis and offer no excuse or apology.<\/p>\n 5. When you meet up\u00a0it’s slightly awkward and almost cold<\/strong>\u00a0when they greet you.<\/p>\n 6.\u00a0Your attempt at a passionate ‘hello kiss’ when you greet them is returned as a peck<\/strong>\u00a0on the cheek.<\/p>\n 7. Your PDA attempts are always met with a side swerve of the lips or hands, or\u00a0they never initiate physical affection<\/strong>. NB obvs\u00a0some people are just not into PDA\u00a0so don’t rely on this too heavily.<\/p>\n 8. The natural warmth and easy going vibe you put out when you hang out seems to be returned with\u00a0a stilted and somewhat awkward attitude<\/strong>.<\/p>\n 9. When you go to sleep at night and reach out to show affection,\u00a0they consistently don’t respond or they show a lack of interest.<\/strong><\/p>\n 10.\u00a0They do little to participate when you’re having sex<\/strong>\u00a0and it feels like you’re merely going through the motions. The obvious physical and emotional distance creates an overall lack of intimacy.<\/p>\n 11. While\u00a0you’re willing to be generous with your time, money and resources, they’re cold and stingy.<\/strong><\/p>\n 12. You show your partner off and include them in family and friend gatherings but\u00a0they seem reluctant to include you<\/strong>\u00a0and it feels like they’re keeping you at arm’s length.<\/p>\n 13. When you express your feelings about them, it’s either returned with\u00a0little to no enthusiasm, or awkwardness.<\/strong><\/p>\n 14. They don’t show much (or any!) interest in you and your world, but\u00a0you have all the time for them no matter whats going on in your life.<\/strong><\/p>\n 15. When it comes to special occasions like birthdays and anniversaries, you make an effort with the present buying and making them feel special. But\u00a0they make little or no effort and nothing about their attempts screams attention to detail.<\/strong><\/p>\n 16. You’re happy to be romantic and\u00a0they treat and talk to you like you’re a friend<\/strong>\u00a0– doing things like talking about their attraction to others when they’re around you.<\/p>\n 17. Your gut instinct tells you they aren\u2019t as into you but rather than raise the issue, you ignore the feeling because\u00a0you\u2019re afraid of what they might say or that you\u2019ll lose them<\/strong>.<\/p>\n –<\/p>\n Source: UK Cosmo<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Finding out you’re putting everything into a relationship or casual thing, and the other person just isn’t that arsed can be utterly heartbreaking. It’s a truly horrible feeling, knowing that you’re crushin’ on someone harder than they are on you. But do you know what? 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