It was several weeks away from Mothers\u2019 Day and Ghanaians we inundated with massive publicity on one program or the other advertising Mothers\u2019 Day celebration.<\/p>\n
The publicity about the day was so massive that even if one was deaf or blind, he or she could hear, see and feel something big was about to happen.<\/p>\n
Fathers\u2019 Day is finally here. But the deafening silence about it is evident in Amartey\u2019s response when I spoke to him prior to the day, “I don\u2019t know when is Fathers\u2019 Day, is it today?\u2019”he asked.<\/p>\n
And Adotey is not happy about it. “It\u2019s quite surprising that when it comes to Fathers\u2019 Day it\u2019s a different ball game altogether”.<\/p>\n
\u00a0<\/strong>Ironically, two ladies I spoke to Stephanie and Ama knew the day very well. But they contend that Fathers\u2019 day celebration can never equal that of Mothers.<\/p>\n \u2018<\/strong>You can\u2019t beat mothers. Mothers are just special, mothers are empathic and mothers feel for people. Fathers I don\u2019t know. It\u2019s like always work, money, work, money, work, money. They think they can only rule with money\u2019.<\/p>\n Ama agrees providing money for the home is important but admonishes \u2018we need the care, the affection and everything\u2019.<\/p>\n Puzzled, I asked \u2018is it that children are complicated or just ungrateful? To which Ama retorted \u2018you should ask the other guys too, you\u2019ll see they will say the same thing. It cuts across\u2019.<\/p>\n Adotey agrees with the ladies but explains the phenomenon with an interesting theory. \u2018It\u2019s more a spiritual thing, where every person came from a woman be it male or female. So the attachment children have towards their mothers is stronger compared to fathers\u2019. \u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n So what are the personal experiences my new friends had with their fathers?<\/p>\n Stephanie was particularly fond of her father but was quick to draw the lines. \u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n \u2018For me, my dad is a friend. But I am closer to my mom than my dad. I can confide in him. When I go out and things happen, I can tell him, but we don\u2019t flow like my mom. My mom is like my best friend. We do \u2018konkonsa\u2019 (gossip) everything together. I can\u2019t do \u2018konkonsa\u2019 with my dad. \u2018The bonding should come from the gossiping then\u2019 I remarked.\u00a0 Stephanie concurs adding \u2018it makes her feel she is my mate\u2019.<\/p>\n Amartey\u2019s isn\u2019t such a pleasant experience. His father suddenly went missing with his birth. \u2018My father was nowhere to be found. He abandoned my mother compelling my mom and my grandmother to take care of me.<\/p>\n Unlike Ama who describes her father as a pensioner, Adotey wasn\u2019t lucky enough to grow seeing his father \u2018I was quite young when my dad passed away\u2019.<\/p>\n What\u2019s for Father\u2019s Day?<\/strong><\/p>\n Stephanie and her siblings plan to give their father a treat a plush hotel in Accra, one she knows he hasn\u2019t visited before. Ama on the other hand will simply cook the pensioner\u2019s favourite meal and have long chats into the night. Adotey will call his \u2018Fathers in the Lord\u2019 over phone and wish them happy fathers\u2019 day\u2019.<\/p>\n Amartey\u2019s father may have bolted at his birth but he has a heart, big enough to let go except to leave this passionate appeal to fathers “it was an enjoyable moment before the child came. So it should be an enjoyable moment even when the child is born. So I will appeal to all men, they should put their egos aside. The women are always loud but for Christ sake,<\/p>\n –<\/p>\n By: Caleb Kudah\/citifmonline.com\/Ghana<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" It was several weeks away from Mothers\u2019 Day and Ghanaians we inundated with massive publicity on one program or the other advertising Mothers\u2019 Day celebration. The publicity about the day was so massive that even if one was deaf or blind, he or she could hear, see and feel something big was about to happen. 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