In a word where dates are now literally on tap, thanks to apps such as Tinder, many of us are skipping the friendship bit and diving straight into a relationship. But is this really a good thing?<\/p>\n
Friendships rock. Being friends with a guy before you get into a relationship with him has numerous advantages. You already know him inside out, you know he\u2019s not going to mess you around, and you\u2019ve known him for so long and still don\u2019t want to kill him. Match made in heaven, right?<\/p>\n
If you\u2019re wondering what the benefits of becoming friends before starting a relationship are, let\u2019s take a look at 10 of them.<\/p>\n
He would never make the mistakes that your ex did\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n
He\u2019s your friend, so it\u2019s a good chance he knows how badly your previous relationships went. Perhaps you told him about the ex who used to lick your face, or maybe you told him about the guy who slept with you once or twice before failing to return your texts and calls.<\/p>\n
He knows what went wrong and how hurt you were \u2013 and he\u2019d never repeat those same mistakes.<\/p>\n
Friends don\u2019t hurt friends. It\u2019s a general rule. If he\u2019s your buddy, he\u2019s going to make darn sure that he doesn\u2019t make the same mistakes that your ex did.<\/p>\n
There is a good chance this one will last\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n
Why did you previous relationships fall apart? Maybe it was because the two of you disagreed about something as small as his drinking, or perhaps he was too needy.<\/p>\n
There are many reasons why a relationship doesn\u2019t last. But because it\u2019s essentially a lotto, we never have any clue whether this one is going to be forever.<\/p>\n
When you\u2019re friends first, you know for sure that this is going to last.<\/p>\n
He knows you’ve got issues \u2013 and he’s cool with them<\/b><\/p>\n
The problem with dating a new guy is that he doesn\u2019t know us inside-out. He only knows the early image we\u2019ve presented to him. The blemish-free image without faults. The awesome image that\u2019s pretty much perfect. The one without any faults.<\/p>\n
And once he finds out about your issues, he doesn\u2019t want to know anymore. Darn it.<\/p>\n
Your friend is different. He already knows all about your issues \u2013 and he understands them. Not only does he understand them, but he\u2019s also totally cool with them.<\/p>\n
He gets your sense of humour\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n It\u2019s always a bit weird telling a joke to a guy for the first time. It could go one of two ways: It could go so well that he laughs until he dies (hopefully not literally), or it might finally be the moment when he realises that you\u2019re a bit of an odd person with an odd sense of humour.<\/p>\n For a couple to work out, their sense of humour has to match up. When you\u2019re friends with a guy first before starting a relationship, he already knows what makes you laugh and what doesn\u2019t. For this reason, there doesn\u2019t have to be any awkward silences whenever you tell your favourite joke about German dictators.<\/p>\n He has negative qualities \u2013 but you like them\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n I\u2019m super fussy when it comes to dating. If a guy smokes, it\u2019s a deal breaker for me. One time, it was two weeks into a relationship before I discovered my boyfriend was an ex-smoker \u2013 and he could no longer hold out. As soon as he lit up, I was out of there.<\/p>\n Your friend will have negative qualities, but by now you know whether or not they\u2019re the kind that you can bear \u2013 or whether they\u2019re enough for you guys to never make it.<\/p>\n You know when he’s stressed and not mental\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n You know the old saying: Women are from Venus and men are from Mars. This basically means that we can\u2019t understand guys during the first few weeks of dating and they can\u2019t understand us either.<\/p>\n This can become really problematic if you can\u2019t read him when he\u2019s stressed. While the explanation for his bad moods is probably something as simple as a bad day at work, you might wrongly assume that it\u2019s because he\u2019s completelyinsane.<\/p>\n When you\u2019re friends first, you\u2019re better able to recognise when your man is stressed and needs a bit of tender love and car \u2013 and when he\u2019s a sociopath.<\/p>\n You know he’s got class\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n I remember my first boyfriend for all the wrong reasons. We met at my high school\u2019s prom, where we shared a stolen kiss under the disco ball. We started dating the very next day. Under the dim lights of the disco ball, he looked really cute and I thought he was quite the catch.<\/p>\n The next day I realised that he wasn\u2019t a catch at all. Instead of an amazing fish, I\u2019d reeled in the worm at the end of my bait. I didn\u2019t have a clue who he was, and consequently I wasn\u2019t prepared for his idea of a date. He took me to the cheapest, dirtiest cafe in town and expected me to pick up the tab!<\/p>\n Take my advice: Be friends first. Get to know if he\u2019s the kind of guy who\u2019s going to take you on dates that rock or dates that terrify you.<\/p>\n You know you can rely on him\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n Your friends are (generally speaking) people that you can trust. If you and your friend decide to take things a step further, your relationship should theoretically be based on trust and understanding.<\/p>\n You know that he’s fun\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n Sometimes, a relationship just doesn\u2019t work out because a couples\u2019 idea of fun is not on the same level. While you might want prefer to take spontaneous road trips, he\u2019d rather stay in, chop some wood and have another movie night.<\/p>\n When you\u2019re friends with someone, you\u2019ve already had enough time to know whether or not the two of you are going to have some fun together. When you want to go for a dance late at night, you know he\u2019s not going to grump and say that he was just about to slip into his pyjamas.<\/p>\n It\u2019s not all about looks\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n When we fall for a really handsome guy, it can cause us to make some pretty irrational decisions. Instead of admitting that we don\u2019t actually have anything common, we keep the sham relationship going because he\u2019s just so beautiful.<\/p>\n For a relationship to last, there absolutely must be some substance. It can\u2019t be purely about looks alone. And when you\u2019re both friends before lovers, you know there is so much more to this than bedroom shenanigans.<\/p>\n Stay happy!<\/p>\n –<\/p>\n Source: Beauty and Tips<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" In a word where dates are now literally on tap, thanks to apps such as Tinder, many of us are skipping the friendship bit and diving straight into a relationship. But is this really a good thing? Friendships rock. 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