I\u2019ve been asked out on a date.<\/p>\n
And that scares me. I am butterflies-dancing-in-my-tummy kind of scared. Because sometimes, dates are classy and special and honest whispers and shy gazes.<\/p>\n
Sometimes dates are too much for jeans and T-shirt girls. Like me.<\/p>\n
\u201cYou cannot act like flip-flops and expect to be treated like louboutins\u201d<\/p>\n
When I saw that quote in my feed, my first thought was \u201cBut what if flip-flops are comfortable?\u201d<\/p>\n
I can promise you two rainbows in June that someone set the rules. I don\u2019t know how but someone did set the rules about heels and suits and the right makeup and these little diamonds around our necks. Simply, in multicolored Lego, we are expected to look presentable wherever we find ourselves.<\/p>\n
And I don\u2019t like it. And I don\u2019t like that I don\u2019t like it.<\/p>\n
I have been learning a lot about comfort zones lately and how very much my weakness is plastered all over that phrase.<\/p>\n
I almost never let down my hair. I wear the same pair of shoes until they tear and wear out. I sit at the same place, first column on your right and two seats back, for every lecture. If I had my own way (I hardly ever get that either), I\u2019d have a \u201cRESERVED\u201d plate stuck on the window seat of every public transit.<\/p>\n
But someone set the rules and I have to make room for change.<\/p>\n
And that scares me more. I am horses-racing-in-my-tummy kind of scared.<\/p>\n
But sometimes, scary is good. It makes us run. It shakes up our nerves. It throws us out of the couch with an unbelievable force. It makes us want to put in a little effort.<\/p>\n
And a little effort is good. Comfort zones are so effortless. Non-driven. There are hardly any sparks in that zone.<\/p>\n
Who doesn\u2019t want sparks? I know I don\u2019t want anyone coming to my wedding in a Lakers jersey simply because they feel \u201ccomfortable\u201d in them. And I know I wouldn\u2019t give them a piece of my cake.<\/p>\n
So I am going to make this happen. I am going to get myself a neat dress and pumps to go with.<\/p>\n
I\u2019m going to make those butterflies fly and horses run wild and\u00a0free. Because change is beautiful and so is looking good. And well, because dates are a lot of things special and sweet. And I\u2019d really like that too.<\/p>\n
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By: Tryphena Yeboah<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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