Turning down your partner the wrong way can be emotionally hurtful.<\/p>\n
Sometimes saying no to your husband is tough. If you do it the wrong way then it can cause a serious rift in your relationship.\u00a0Sex<\/a>\u00a0is often not just about pleasure, but a way to emotionally connect so turning down your partner the wrong way can be emotionally hurtful.<\/p>\n So does that mean that you should force yourself to do the deed even if you don’t want to? Nope! Experts instead advise to just be honest about why you don’t want to.<\/p>\n That of course means ditching the old “I have a headache” excuse and truly saying what’s on your mind. Are you really not in the mood because you’re tired?<\/p>\n Have you both been missing out on alone sexy time because both of your schedules are just too crazy to fit it in?<\/p>\n Communication can certainly help you both work out what your situation is and come up with a solution.<\/p>\n Better communication isn’t the only advice experts gave\u00a0The Stir. One also advised to seek other ways to share sexual\u00a0intimacy<\/a>\u00a0without intercourse!<\/p>\n We joke sometimes about the excuses women use to get out of sex<\/a>\u00a0with their husbands. But after the laughter dies down there’s always that uncomfortable truth that goes unsaid: It’s probably better for your relationship if you just tell the truth. But how? The reason most women avoid\u00a0saying NO to sex\u00a0is because we’re afraid of hurting the the men we love.<\/p>\n We talked with three relationship experts\u00a0for their advice on dancing the dance of\u00a0not-in-the-mood. How can you turn it into a positive — or can you?<\/p>\n “It’s like anything in a relationship,” says author and\u00a0relationship expert Andrea Syrtash<\/a>.”Sex needs to be communicated and negotiated.”\u00a0It’s okay if you’re not on the same page about having sex right then, right there. The important thing is to be open and honest and trusting enough with your partner so he knows this is not about hurting him. Make sure you’re clear that “you want to be affectionate and connect, just not in that way right now.”<\/p>\n She suggests doing something that may not sound very sexy, but can help a lot:\u00a0“Discuss a general time of day when sex is more or less appealing.”\u00a0Suggest a time that works best for you. “It’s a matter of creatively finding a solution together.” Syrtash has a whole chapter about this issue in her book,\u00a0Cheat on Your Husband (With Your Husband)<\/a>.<\/p>\n