Yes, we\u2019ve all been there. We\u2019ve all said regrettable things to our ex, and immediately wished we hadn\u2019t. Some of us have blurted out: \u201cI STILL LOVE YOU\u201d, hoping for a good reaction before getting that stare that just pities us, whilst others have gone as far as bawling: \u201cI WISH I HAD NEVER LAID EYES ON YOU.\u201d<\/p>\n
The fact is that having any kind of relationship with your ex is just difficult, and the chances of saying something undeniably silly are high. We either bite our tongue, or our mouth goes into selfish mode and says things without our permission. The problem is, words can\u2019t be taken back. Once they\u2019re out, they\u2019re out. You can\u2019t call them back, and you definitely can\u2019t rewind time. So to make sure you never say anything inappropriate to your ex (again), check out our list of 10 things you should never say to your ex. Under any circumstance. Not even if you\u2019ve had a bad day.<\/p>\n
1. \u2018I Will Seriously Kill Myself If You Don\u2019t Give Me A Second Chance\u2019<\/strong><\/p>\n Okay, the chances are that you won\u2019t actually kill yourself (come on, admit it), and secondly, this kind of drama just isn\u2019t cool. People don\u2019t like to be put on a one way guilt trip to hell, and if you say this kind of thing, you will only regret it years later when someone says it to you. It\u2019s kinda childish, and it isn\u2019t becoming of a sensible, mature adult. It\u2019s much better to just put the kettle on and think ahead to the future.<\/p>\n 2. \u2018We Can Still Hook Up Though, Right?\u2019<\/strong><\/p>\n Nope, afraid not. When you say this, it smacks of desperation. It\u2019s like you\u2019re trying to cling onto something, and it just makes the whole situation awkward. He\u2019s broken up with you because it\u2019s not working, and he wants to move on in life. But what if he were to meet his soul mate whilst he\u2019s still hooking up with you? Moreover, how is any of you supposed to move on? He may as well still be dating you! Hooking up is just an easy way of asking for trouble.<\/p>\n 3. \u2018I Miss You\u2019<\/strong><\/p>\n It\u2019s hard not to say this one when you\u2019re pining for someone who broke up for you. But somehow you have to restrain yourself, hold your nerve and bite your tongue. When we say this to our ex, we\u2019re really hoping they\u2019ll respond by saying they miss us as well, but when they don\u2019t say that, we feel worse than ever before. Moreover, this line reeks of desperation on our part, and will only boost their ego. Better to keep your feelings hidden.<\/p>\n 4. \u2018Let\u2019s Hang Out\u2019<\/strong><\/p>\n Remember a month ago when you were still together and you referred to your ex by his nickname, lovingly pinched his cheeks, and gave him hugs and kisses? Yeah, you can\u2019t do any of that anymore. But if you decide to hang out, it can be so temping to do all of those things. Calling him by your nickname for him could easily slip out, and at this point you can both be left confused. You need distance and you need time apart.<\/p>\n 5. \u2018I Really, REALLY Hope You Die\u2019<\/strong><\/p>\n Ouch. Wow. Kitty has claws. If you trot this viscous line out, there is quite possibly something wrong with you. And if there isn\u2019t and you\u2019re just saying it to get attention, you need to seriously reconsider saying it. Nobody likes it when a relationship ends, but it\u2019s best to let bygones be bygones, rather than say something you\u2019ll regret years later. I mean, imagine you bump into each other ten years from now, and you\u2019re both walking with your children in the park, what are you going to do? Say, \u201cHa! Remember the time I hoped you\u2019d die? Those were the days.\u201d Oh joy.<\/p>\n 6. \u2018I Love You\u2019<\/strong><\/p>\n Oops. Okay, yes, you might well still love your ex, but you can\u2019t tell them. It has to be kept a secret. Particularly, if you\u2019re the person who ended it, or if you both agreed to end it, this is a line that has to be kept under lock and key forever. Letting it out makes both of you confused, and it can cause you to forget the misery behind the reason you broke it off in the first place. Instead, you\u2019ve got to be stronger than this and move on.<\/p>\n 7. \u2018I\u2019m Sorry\u2019<\/strong><\/p>\n If you\u2019re the one who broke it off, and particularly if you broke it off because you did something bad, saying \u2018sorry\u2019 is okay. You can just about get away with it. But if you\u2019re the victim here, saying \u2018sorry\u2019 is not the way to go. Saying \u2018sorry\u2019 is your way of starting a conversation with them, but it just inflates their ego, and if you\u2019re expecting them apologise too, you\u2019d better think again.<\/p>\n 8. \u2018How\u2019s Your New Soul Mate?\u2019<\/strong><\/p>\n If your ex has got a new girlfriend, it\u2019s best that you don\u2019t bring her up in conversation. It\u2019s also recommended that you don\u2019t ask how she is. You look like you\u2019re still hung up on him.<\/p>\n And it\u2019s hugely recommend that you don\u2019t use words like \u201cnew soul mate\u201d to refer to her. It makes you look jealous, bitter, and downright psychotic. Not cool. Bite your tongue and move on.<\/p>\n 9. \u2018What Could I Change To Make Me Better?\u2019<\/strong><\/p>\n This is a tactic employed to start a conversation with our ex, but it\u2019s a silly question that a) they don\u2019t want to answer and b) they\u2019re not going to answer. It makes you sound pitiful, needy and actually slightly pathetic (no offence). Okay, so you broke up but it doesn\u2019t mean you\u2019re rubbish in any way. It just meant that the relationship came to the end of its line.<\/p>\n 10. \u2018I Wish I Had Never Met You\u2019<\/strong><\/p>\n This is a lie we tend to say in order to make our ex feel bad. But it doesn\u2019t really work, and more often than not it will cause them to smile at themselves. It makes us seem as though we\u2019re still bothered by the whole thing, and that we haven\u2019t moved on with our lives. And whilst this may well be true, you simply can\u2019t let them know this. Moreover, it\u2019s a pretty awful thing to say and only smears the good times you had together. Again, it\u2019s another hateful line that you\u2019ll only live to regret. Split up amicably and leave it at that.<\/p>\n –<\/p>\n Credit: The Trent<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Yes, we\u2019ve all been there. 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