{"id":11394,"date":"2014-04-07T10:54:49","date_gmt":"2014-04-07T10:54:49","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/4cd.e16.myftpupload.com\/?p=11394"},"modified":"2014-04-07T10:56:12","modified_gmt":"2014-04-07T10:56:12","slug":"5-steps-for-breaking-out-of-a-bad-relationship","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/citifmonline.com\/?p=11394","title":{"rendered":"Five steps for breaking out of a bad relationship"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"unhappy-black-couple\"<\/a>Unfortunately, it is all too common to stay in an unhealthy or toxic relationship.\u00a0In fact, most people can relate to over-staying in a relationship with a partner who was not right for them, who displayed major red flags, or treated them poorly.\u00a0Many admit to staying in a relationship even though their gut repeatedly told them to get out.<\/p>\n

So why do we stay in relationships that bring us pain and unhappiness or continue to engage with partners who are not good for us?<\/em><\/p>\n

There are many reasons, although fear and insecurity are the biggest two.\u00a0When contemplating whether to leave a relationship or not, fear often kicks in.\u00a0Questions surface:\u00a0Will I ever find love again? What if I end up alone forever?<\/em>\u00a0These questions ignite fear.\u00a0Common fears include being alone, being single and not being able to find a partner who treats you well.\u00a0These\u00a0ideas create a spiral of negative and catastrophic thinking\u00a0which makes it even more difficult to leave an unhealthy relationship.<\/p>\n

You might have had early childhood experiences or family, peer and romantic relationships throughout your life that resulted in you feeling inadequate or undeserving.\u00a0Insecurities, regardless of where or when they originated, can certainly keep you in the wrong relationship, especially if you do not ultimately believe that you deserve better.<\/p>\n

As distressing as your toxic relationship is, you also know what to expect from it.\u00a0This creates a sense of false security in something that is really detrimental to your health and makes you believe that it is scarier to leave.\u00a0For example, being able to predict that your partner will yell at you and degrade you each night might feel less anxiety provoking than making a huge change to end the relationship and deal with the unknown. You might even grow to believe that things will get better and change so you continue to ignore your gut.<\/p>\n

There are other key components that\u00a0keep us\u00a0with toxic partners.\u00a0Many report that they stay in unsatisfying relationships due to finances, kids, not wanting to break up their family, or move.<\/p>\n

Here are a few points to consider if you know you should leave, but find yourself staying:<\/p>\n

#1.\u00a0Understand the signs of a toxic relationships and trust how you feel. <\/strong>Do you constantly feel put-down, fearful of being your true self or drained after most interactions with your partner? Does your partner try to exert power over you, control you, manipulate you or change you? Answering yes to these questions are true signals that your relationship is detrimental to your well-being.\u00a0Healthy relationships are filled with respect, compassion, love, and support.<\/p>\n

#2.\u00a0Assess what is keeping you in the relationship.<\/strong> Is it fear, finances, pity, or not wanting to break up your family? Are you afraid to be alone, or question if you will find the loving partner you deserve? What are the factors that keep you stuck?<\/p>\n

#3.\u00a0By recognizing that your relationship is toxic and no longer denying it, it is common to feel empowered to take action.<\/strong>\u00a0As difficult as it may seem, it is important to cut off communication (at least temporarily, unless you have kids together) when leaving so that you have the opportunity for healthy closure and healing.<\/p>\n

#4.\u00a0Reach out to your support system, ask for help, and make an effort to surround yourself with positive people.<\/strong>\u00a0Engage in activities that make you happy\u00a0and understand that there is a natural grieving process to endure.\u00a0Seeking professional help, such as seeing a psychotherapist, is another valuable resource and way to take care of yourself.<\/p>\n

#5.\u00a0Be confident in what you deserve and hopeful that you can create it.\u00a0<\/strong>Unhealthy relationships require great strength to leave, but leaving is truly an investment in yourself and your future.\u00a0 While giving yourself time to heal and grieve, remember that you are taking a courageous leap to a better present and future.<\/p>\n

Ending a relationship, no matter how unhealthy it might be, is heartbreaking and can be\u00a0overwhelming.\u00a0It is a loss of something you have spent significant time building and it is only natural that it takes time to heal.\u00a0Surround yourself with love and never forget what you deserve.<\/p>\n

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Source: Magazine.foxnews.com<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Unfortunately, it is all too common to stay in an unhealthy or toxic relationship.\u00a0In fact, most people can relate to over-staying in a relationship with a partner who was not right for them, who displayed major red flags, or treated them poorly.\u00a0Many admit to staying in a relationship even though their gut repeatedly told them […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":14,"featured_media":10491,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jnews-multi-image_gallery":[],"jnews_single_post":[],"jnews_primary_category":[],"jnews_social_meta":[],"jnews_override_counter":[],"footnotes":""},"categories":[],"tags":[51],"class_list":["post-11394","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","tag-ports"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/citifmonline.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11394","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/citifmonline.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/citifmonline.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/citifmonline.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/14"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/citifmonline.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=11394"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/citifmonline.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11394\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/citifmonline.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/10491"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/citifmonline.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=11394"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/citifmonline.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=11394"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/citifmonline.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=11394"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}